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October 2016 Moms
scostel2
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How do you relax?
scostel2
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Hi everyone - first time mom here who dealt with IF before getting my BFP. How do you all relax during your pregnancy? I am just so nervous. I feel like I can't even really be excited because I'm just too busy being nervous. I think it's because it was challenging for me to get pregnant in the first place so now I'm terrified that I'll jinx it somehow. Our first ultrasound is tomorrow (7 weeks) and I'm hoping that goes well and eases some of my nerves, but I'm just having a hard time figuring out how to destress. Normally I'd have a glass of wine lol
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annabenanna member
@scostel2 , To be honest, these forums have been a godsend, but also a curse. Haha. These forums have provided support, good information and camaraderie.... but I feel like when I read the bad stuff, it makes me go crazy + paranoid. I've found that I'm more relaxed about the pregnancy on weekends (when I'm not on these forums a lot). I also find that reading pregnancy books and arming myself with good information helps a ton. (currently I'm reading "Let's Panic about Babies" and "Expecting Better".
When I daydream on pinterest and start pinning nursery ideas, etc to my secret "baby board," I find that it helps me relax and think positive.
There's a downside to being "too informed" because then you know all the scary facts that come with a pregnancy.... Sometimes I wish I was blissfully unaware like some of my friends who announce their pregnancy at 4-5 weeks oblivious of all the scary stuff that comes with pregnancy.
But also knowing that statistically, we have a GREAT chance of going on to deliver a happy healthy baby, makes me feel good about this pregnancy.
Let's try and stay positive and relax a little.... After all, we have about what? 220+ more days of this?
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CopperBoom86 member
I think all new mothers-to-be feel this way to some extent in the beginning. You just have to find what works for you. For me, it's getting my mind off the fact that I'm pregnant. While I'm at work, I focus solely on work. I don't let myself even think about being pregnant. When I'm at home, I work on little DIY projects around the house and when there's literally nothing else to do, I color or throw myself into a show on Netflix to keep my mind off things.
Ultimately, I try to remember that nothing I do is going to change anything. Not worrying, not stressing, not googling, nothing. DH always reminds me to let logic rein. You're not going to jinx it. Try to relax. Today you are pregnant. Today you love your baby. Let tomorrow worry about itself. -
TKBain member
I agree with what annabenanna said. These forums are great for support, to pass time and connect with others but everytime I see a goodbye post, it breaks my heart and and I get super anxious that I could be next. I also dealt with IF and this was literally our last try.
Yesterday was my first US and I was a wreck. During, the Dr and the tech were like, can you try to calm your pulse? You are making everything jump around and its hard to see! For me, once I got past this US, I feel so much more relaxed and I actually feel like it's okay to get excited! I started researching birthing centers today and got even more excited! Take a deep breath and focus on the next milestone. For me, I go back for an US next Wednesday so I just need to get to then. I also really like doing meditation using apps on my phone. I use 'Calm' everyday. I helps me refresh from the fatigue and it helps me reset my brain. I also use it to fall asleep at night!
Best wishes and sending good thoughts to you for your appointment tomorrow!
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LauraPCOS member
I am in the same boat as you! Hubby and I have been trying for 5 years and just started the fertility testing when we were completely surprised to see a BFP! We had our first US and got to see a strong heart beat but the Dr wants to see me again in 2 weeks to try and get a better handle on my due date since my cycles are very irregular. When booking the appointment the receptionist asked if it was a re-vitality test which just freaked me out more because it made me think they didn't think the heart beat was strong (135 beats per minute). Now I try to relax. I remember that I still have all my symptoms, no cramping, no spotting, and things are going to happen if I stress or not so let's enjoy my peanut. But I'm still eager for my next US to reassure me that things are going well.
