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October 2016 Moms
stephanieslush
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Advice for anxiety needed please!
stephanieslush
member
Hello ladies! This is my first post on here, I just need some positive vibes I suppose.
Here's a little backstory, since the intros post is way full (yay baby love!). Both my fiancé and I are 26, and will be 27 when I deliver and this is our first child and pregnancy experience. My mom has a history of miscarriage, and low hormones--she didn't test positive with me until she was 8 weeks along--and I feel like I have a similar situation. Not the miscarriage, just the low hormones. I started testing positive at 8 DPO, and the only reason I took a test was because I'm really in tune with my body and something just felt off. I didn't test again until the day I missed my period and it was faint but there. Same for the next day. That afternoon I had a "period" that worried me just because I didn't know it was possible to bleed like a "normal" period (mine are regular to light normally) and still be preggs. I called a nurse hotline for my area and they talked me down, told me unless it was sever that it was normal and try not to worry about it. Okay, all good. When the bleeding stopped a day or so later I tested again..still faint positive. Every other day after that, still the same faint positive.
Two weeks later I have a slightly darker positive, but it's still faint-ish. My first appointment isn't until the 22nd, and my only worry is that when we're looking for the baby on the US that little beans won't be in there. I have symptoms. Tender bbs on and off, nausea on and off, tired all of the time and mood swings that make my PMS look like nothing. Oh and the bloating/bump that's growing. My lower abdomen is changing shape.
I know I'm pregnant. I trust what my body is telling me and the tests (to some degree). I guess not having the instant gratification of seeing that it's real, and proving it to my guy (he believes me, it just hasn't "clicked" for him yet) is killing me.
Can anyone relate? I've found myself looking through so many blogs/boards/talking to other mommy's, and I haven't been able to find a thread where advice on how to cope is given. There are plenty of responses that pick apart every detail, and then tell the OP they probably lost the baby because that what they or someone they know has experienced--that's not what I'm looking for out of this, so please keep that to yourself if that's all you have to contribute. There is SO MUCH negativity out there, I just need something positive right now. (besides my test
)
Even though I don't know you, I love you all. I hope whoever reads this feels this community is as important and useful as I do.
Cheers!
Here's a little backstory, since the intros post is way full (yay baby love!). Both my fiancé and I are 26, and will be 27 when I deliver and this is our first child and pregnancy experience. My mom has a history of miscarriage, and low hormones--she didn't test positive with me until she was 8 weeks along--and I feel like I have a similar situation. Not the miscarriage, just the low hormones. I started testing positive at 8 DPO, and the only reason I took a test was because I'm really in tune with my body and something just felt off. I didn't test again until the day I missed my period and it was faint but there. Same for the next day. That afternoon I had a "period" that worried me just because I didn't know it was possible to bleed like a "normal" period (mine are regular to light normally) and still be preggs. I called a nurse hotline for my area and they talked me down, told me unless it was sever that it was normal and try not to worry about it. Okay, all good. When the bleeding stopped a day or so later I tested again..still faint positive. Every other day after that, still the same faint positive.
Two weeks later I have a slightly darker positive, but it's still faint-ish. My first appointment isn't until the 22nd, and my only worry is that when we're looking for the baby on the US that little beans won't be in there. I have symptoms. Tender bbs on and off, nausea on and off, tired all of the time and mood swings that make my PMS look like nothing. Oh and the bloating/bump that's growing. My lower abdomen is changing shape.
I know I'm pregnant. I trust what my body is telling me and the tests (to some degree). I guess not having the instant gratification of seeing that it's real, and proving it to my guy (he believes me, it just hasn't "clicked" for him yet) is killing me.
Can anyone relate? I've found myself looking through so many blogs/boards/talking to other mommy's, and I haven't been able to find a thread where advice on how to cope is given. There are plenty of responses that pick apart every detail, and then tell the OP they probably lost the baby because that what they or someone they know has experienced--that's not what I'm looking for out of this, so please keep that to yourself if that's all you have to contribute. There is SO MUCH negativity out there, I just need something positive right now. (besides my test
)Even though I don't know you, I love you all. I hope whoever reads this feels this community is as important and useful as I do.
Cheers!
Re: Advice for anxiety needed please!
Unless your mom has a genetic condition which makes it hard to get pregnant, and which she passed on to you, her hormonal challenges have nothing to do with you. And keep in mind that pregnancy tests have come a LONG way in the last 25 years. Every woman, and every pregnancy, is different.
And because every woman and every pregnancy is different, my experience, or your mom's experience, or BFF or SIL isn't really relevant. Keep taking great care of yourself and try to take things one day at a time. A great mantra is: Today I am pregnant and I love my baby.
A few pieces of advice:
Men often have a harder time bonding in early pregnancy because it's just not as real for them. The changes you're experiencing aren't obvious and don't impact him much. This is normal. Give it time.
Also, don't use pregnancy tests as any indication of anything other than HCG in your system. They are not made to indicate HCG levels, just that HCG is there. You can have a super dark like on one test and a faint line on another on the same day, depending on the tests and your urine. You can also have a pregnancy with problems after seeing a super dark line, or a healthy pregnancy with very faint lines.
Good luck with your pregnancy!
Good luck mommy!!
IUI #7 Follistim + Ganirelix + Ovidrel + Prometrium + Baby Aspirin - BFP! PLEASE STICK!!!
1/25 Beta #1: 389, #2: 940! IT'S TWINS!
TEAM DOUBLE PINK!!!!
I understand it's tough dealing with this, especially when you're newly pregnant and probably don't have many other people you can talk to about it, at this point. I think @Piperella and @FemShep 's words of advice are spot on.
If it's driving you that crazy, let your doctor know just how badly it's stressing you and see if they can get you in to run some labs a little sooner. If they don't offer that, specifically ask for it. And try to just remember that you're doing the best you can to take care of your LO. Stressing about all of this isn't going to help nor will it change the ultimate outcome. Hang in there!
And she asked for help with coping. Coping with what? All the BFP's and symptoms? Those are good things! At that point, I assumed she needed help passing the time until she gets her next assurance fix, which is why I recommend the waiting game thread on the TTGP board.
As far as running early tests go, at some point she's going to have to start believing, regardless of how many tests she takes. The cold, hard fact is that taking tests won't guarantee you won't suffer a loss. That's why so many people around here have adopted the mantra "Today I am pregnant; Today I love my baby."
Good luck OP! Try to relax and enjoy the ride. You'll probably look back nine months from now and call yourself silly for stressing so much in the beginning.
Honestly, even if she didn't articulate it in a way that makes sense to you, she's clearly worried and just looking for some folks to rally around her. I'm not saying your post was HORRIBLE or anything like that but I know that if I were worried, even if it's irrational, I'd at least like people to throw me a bone and just go easy on me. Hence my comment wanting to let her know that her post made sense to me... Just a little extra support
I swear, I feel like everything I post here gets twisted. But keep piling on. I'm not having a bad enough day as it is....
ETA: I won't be checking back on this thread because my presence here is clearly not helpful for anyone, including myself. As I said before, OP- I wish you the best and try not to worry too much!
i know I'm pregnant, I'm not looking for anyone to tell me if I am or not.
I know I need to take care of myself for my little bean
i know if I have a loss that it's out of my control
i was just looking towards our little community for friendship and support to help decludder my over anxious mind.
Thank you, again, for being kind enough to throw your girl a shoulder to lean on.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
IUI #7 Follistim + Ganirelix + Ovidrel + Prometrium + Baby Aspirin - BFP! PLEASE STICK!!!
1/25 Beta #1: 389, #2: 940! IT'S TWINS!
TEAM DOUBLE PINK!!!!
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@stephanieslush youtube is a great resource. I learned how to do granny squares first and made a bunch, sewed them together and made a blanket. Super easy to start with, and then i started to experiment. I also have some friends that know how/learned also, and we used to get together once a week and work on projects, help each other, etc.
@kateleap I see a shrink too, no shame!
I'm not sure if anyone has heard of what I normally use to relax, since I haven't seen it mentioned. It's called ASMR. (it's worth a google for the actual definition) It boils down to tingles, though. Like when someone is whispering in your hear, or brushing your hair, etc, and you feel that tingly sensation in your head and down your back. It's HUGE on youtube, I highly recommend it!!