First off, sorry for the TMI and I hope I don't freak any FTMs out. I'm just in need of advice.
I delivered my son in April 2014 and after 2 hours of pushing, I had an episiotomy, which led to a 4th degree tear. Fortunately, I didn't feel it happen and the doctor who delivered me did a great job stitching me up...I haven't had any issues! But, the recovery was long and painful. I sat on ice packs for a few weeks, took stool softeners for a month, sitz baths daily, and experienced a ton of pain! Sex for the first few times was difficult also (even though my stitches healed after 6-weeks).
My OB/GYN recommends an elective c-section with my second delivery to prevent another tear, and incontinence issues as a result. She said some patients had to have reconstructive surgery afterwards.
At first I didn't think twice about it and thought it was the best decision also. But there's a chance I won't even tear again and could have a regular vaginal delivery with little complications. I'm just worried about the recovery from a c-section and having to care for 2 kids (even though my husband is amazing and I know my family will help if needed). I'm also nervous about the surgery itself! Just laying there, cut open, unable to bond with my baby when she comes out.
What would you ladies do? Am I just psyching myself out? I'd love to hear from STMs and how your recovery from a c-section was.
Re: Elective c-section after 4th degree tear? Need advice.
I would just talk more with your doctor before you decide one way or the other.
I definitely will ask more questions in the weeks to come, bc I've switched doctors since we moved about an hour from our last home. I've heard there are things you can do to help loosen the muscles, to prevent a tear.
I have not had a c-section but i have had an episitomy. I have had two kids. With my first daughter I had an episiotomy and the recovery was cake. with my second daughter, my inner labia tore open (during an unplanned natural birth). the recovery was horrendous and the skin didn't heal correctly. I was advised not to seek any correction as i planned on having more kids. I am nervous that another vaginal birth will tear it open again and I will be left with a mess.
so, I guess what I'm trying to say is that if you are thinking about an elective c section to avoid injury/trauma, i totally understand.
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