When/How are You Telling You're Pregnant?

JamieK1882 · February 2016

Based on something that came up in the randoms thread, I was just curious as to when you planned on telling people you're pregnant?

Are you waiting for your first u/s? Or a certain # of weeks? Or a holiday/event?

I'll go...

Obviously told DH right away. We also told our parents right away because our thinking was if anything should happen we would want their support. I also told my first BMB fb group because I was dying to spill the beans and they don't know me IRL

My original plan was to reveal to the rest of the world on Easter. I wanted to do a cute ultrasound in DD's basket and say the bunny is bringing one of her presents on O'16. However, I just realized I'll only be 11 weeks on Easter, and I don't think I'll have an ultrasound until 12 weeks. So I guess now I'm just planning on waiting till 12 weeks/first ultrasound.

LauraPCOS · February 2016

I can't keep a secret if my life depended on it, so I told everyone. I figure I was very open about my struggle to get pregnant, so if something happens I will be very vocal about that as well.

dam0ne4 · February 2016

I told a few close friends when I got the positive test. I have my first OB apt tomorrow so we'll tell our parents after that. I'm going to have my daughter wear a Big Sister shirt and wear it over to our parents house.

We'll tell everyone else after the 1st tri, including our daughter.

housewifehobbyist · February 2016

We told our parents and my best friend, because her wedding was in Mexico last weekend and my parents were supposed to watch our cat while his drove us to the airport, so telling them seemed preferential to a great big elaborate lie. Plus if anything were to go wrong I would want support from them.

I thought I would have a hard time not telling anyone, but I'm still so nervous I feel like I'd be "jinxing" the pregnancy if I told too many people, so we're keeping it under wraps until after the first trimester. As to the how, completely cheesy, but I'm having a shirt made with 1-40 on it and crossing out the first 12 (or however many it ends up being) and getting a photo with H kneeling down and crossing out the next week. Possibly incorporating a realistic looking fake pumpkin Halloween decoration that I have as a fake belly/ October due date reveal, but we'll see how that ends up looking. I also plan on using the shirt to document the growing bump for the rest of the pregnancy.

CopperBoom86 · February 2016

I told DH and my BFF just after I got my BFP.

We have our first u/s next Tuesday (7w1d). If all goes well with that and we see the heart beat, we'll tell our parents.

Then if things continue to go well, we'll announce to the rest of the world around April 23rd (just under 14 weeks). Since practically the beginning of our relationship, I've called my husband "Bear." He's 6'4, 280 pounds, with a full, jet black beard. It fits. Anyway, I found these shirts online and I'm going to order them and add "Baby Bear" to the belly part of mine. I'll have a friend take our picture and we'll post that on Facebook.

Image: https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/7f/77/58/7f7758a601b5caec8c82500de30b5af2.jpg

Kaytee1087 · February 2016

@dam0ne4This is pretty much what we're doing, too!

I told my cousin already because I was going to her bachelorette party 2 weeks ago and didn't want to wonder why I wasn't boozing it up with the rest of the ladies, but we aren't telling anyone else. Our first OB appt is the Weds before Easter (although I have already had 2 blood tests run to make sure levels were rising and all that) and we want to wait for a heartbeat before we tell parents, etc...

My plan is to do a Big Sister shirt in DD's Easter basket and just have her wear it to the family gatherings that day and see how long it takes everyone to notice, lol.

nlane0723 · February 2016

Our IVF cycle was pretty public, so we announced that it worked right away. We announced that we were having twins on V-Day.

FemShep · February 2016

We will either tell our families around the 8 1/2 week mark when everyone is in town, or after we get the results of our NIPT. We'll tell DDs shortly before.

I'll tell my best friend when I see her in two weeks.

I'm hiding it from work as long as I can, and hoping to make it to at least 4 months. My boss is not in the same office, and I work with lots of men, so it's theoretically possible. We'll see how it goes.

mrsman2018 · February 2016

I have told parents, siblings and a bunch of other friends and family. 8 weeks 4 days right now. I had wanted to wait for an ultrasound to announce to the world, but I don't have an ultrasound until May 20, so that would be 20 weeks 1 day - too far away for me. I'm going to announce around Easter which would put me at about 12/13 weeks. Prob do a cute Easter-themed announcement.

Cubslove12 · February 2016

I told my boss, a few coworkers and a few friends right away. We are actually waiting till 8 weeks to tell our families. Last time they were so excited and when we lost the baby it was almost worse having to tell them and they seemed to have taken it worse than us also. So I was to confirm there's a baby first!

I think we will tell the rest of the world at 12 weeks.

mrszoess · March 2016

I've had 2 previous losses and the support from people who knew early on was amazing so I told a bunch of people already. in terms of my in laws and social media I have to get creative. my birthday is the end of April so maybe I'll use that

queen_frostine · March 2016

We'll wait until our ultrasound, March 11 at 9w1d, and tell our parents and possibly siblings after that. Based on the appointment, knowing what is coming up, we'll decide when to let our parents spread the news to their families and when I should talk to my work about it. Then after that's taken care of, Facebook. I kinda want to tell everyone, but I don't want to have to deal with un-telling if things don't work out. I don't want support anyway. When I'm sad I want to be left the hell alone.

ashleyp625 · March 2016

We told our parents and siblings right away. Most other people will find out after first tri. I did tell my supervisor the other day because he happened to be complaining about how much sub coverage he has to find for next year (oops), but my principals will find out at 13 weeks.

Paturkey · March 2016

I told my BFF and SIL right away. No one else knows yet. I have an u/s scheduled for March 24th, and right after that we go back to the US and will see a lot of family. My SIL has her baby shower on the 26th so I don't want to do anything before that and steal her thunder (this is her first baby and I want all the focus to be on her). But if she thinks it's a good idea, maybe we could tell her mom and grandma after the shower is over by putting a big bro shirt on DS. I'd still only be 10w5d.

We'll see my mom on Easter and we'll tell her then (again with the DS t-shirt probably). If we haven't told in-laws already, we'll tell them when we see them early April. I'll be 12 weeks at that point. As for bosses, I'll be working in the field when I'm 14 weeks so I'll announce it to them then so they can keep an eye on me. Both of my bosses have kids and I know they'll be understanding. As for FB, I never post on it and no one (random) knew about my son until I changed my profile pic on Mother's Day when he was 9 months old.

LorrielovesLil · March 2016

Initially I thought it would be fun to wait till we know the gender! I think it would be fun for shock value- we're preggo and it's a _____! "What! You're halfway there and we didn't know?!" my family is states away and we see my dh's family only like once a month. I didn't start significantly showing till 4 1/2-5 months with dd1. Buuuut, I've already told more than I thought I would initially so idk if I can wait that long anymore! And I likely will start showing sooner....so, we will see! If we make an announcement before the gender it will probably include dd1 in a big sister outfit

Blonde1817 · March 2016

We haven't told a single person yet (well I told a random yoga teacher when I asked her about modifications), but today is the day we finally have our appointment and u/s! If all goes well, we will tell DH's parents when the come up this weekend. We're making dinner for his dad's belated birthday, so we're going to wrap up grandparent mugs as one of his gifts. I was planning on trying to facetime my parents when that happens (they live across the country), but my mom will be out of town. So I was thinking of sending her the mugs as an early birthday present too. Our siblings I think we are going to text the sonogram picture to (both live out of town). The only other person I plan on telling before the second tri is my cousin/bff. It has been SO hard not to tell her, but I want to surprise her. I think when I see her on Monday, I'm just going to be like, "oh look at this cool thing on my phone..." and have the sonogram picture pulled up and watch her reaction. I think that for everyone else, we will probably try to wait until after the next u/s and then just tell as we see people. But I'm not really sure how to tell extended family. I almost never call anyone, but text seems kind of impersonal.

SuperNerd42 · March 2016

We told the grandmas, they can keep secrets and are great for support! Our plan is to tell close family at our Easter get together and then announce on Facebook at the end of first tri.

I I want to do a cute Facebook announcement, so I've been scouring Pinterest. Hopefully none of my family spoils the surprise first!

samkins · March 2016

I told hubby and bff right away. We have an U/S Friday at 8 weeks, if that goes well then we will tell parents and my brother, I'm so excited!!!

After that we will wait until 2nd trimester to tell everyone else. I like those shirts with a baby skeleton in the tummy and just walk into a family party and see who notices first

rhenson1 · March 2016

We had planned on waiting until 12 weeks to tell anyone just because that was my first appointment. I actually got a call today that they had an opening and bumped my appointment up to this Friday. We plan on telling close family after the appointment and will wait to tell the FB world until after 12 weeks.

This is baby #4 so we may just have the siblings tell our family about the new baby. As for FB I have a photo I plan on taking of the kids.

cbamama641 · March 2016

My four good friends know and our families. My husband has the biggest mouth in the whole world and has told everyone he knows. I was getting ready to leave for work and our neighbor came over and was like "sooo- congrats!" And the next morning when I was leaving work, one of his coworkers was there and was like "are you pregnant for real?" And I said yea. She goes "yea, ray told the whole school"..... I've only told one of my managers at work because I was super sick one friday night and just wanted her to know it could be one of two things. There will be a Facebook announcement though.. I want to try to wait until the daffodils bloom because every year I take pics of my kids in the daffodils. So we shall see. I'm also planning on an early ultrasound to find out the sex, so maybe after that.. I mean, it's really only like 6 weeks away!

s&mdarnell · March 2016

Of course I told my husband immediately (within seconds of getting the BFP) and we told our parents a few weeks later via Facetime (no one lives in the same state). I took a screenshot of their reactions and it was priceless (this will be the first grandbaby on both sides).
We told our siblings last weekend and I've told just the tiniest handful of close friends (1-2) so they can be praying for me.
Our first appointment and u/s is on 3/10 at 8w6d and we are heading back to our hometown the following weekend so if all goes well we will tell several close friends at that time (because calling them 2 weeks after seeing them in person is just silly). We'll tell a few others in the weeks following but will keep it somewhat limited until we are ready for the news to leak (which is after I tell work after my first trimester). The more people who know the great the possibility of the news leaking before I'm ready and have all my ducks in a row.

waterfall213 · March 2016

We told our parents and siblings already. I always tell them right away. I'm going to tell my aunt and cousin at the end of the month because I'm a bridesmaid in my cousin's wedding October 1 and I'll obviously need a maternity dress. We're going dress shopping in a few weeks. We'll tell everyone else after the NT scan, so 11-12 weeks.

E=Mc3 · March 2016

I told DH right away. He's a computer gamer, so I made a card for him and left it under his keyboard.
I have not told my boss, my kids, or my family/husband's family. I will probably wait to tell my boss until after I have an official contract in hand for next year. I'm not sure when I will tell my co-workers since I am not keen on having them make a fuss over me. I like keeping this to myself.

I'm not sure when I will tell my parents/in-laws. My step-mom is being a bit of a "B" right now. My step-brother is having his 1st baby in June, and I don't want to take his spotlight away...especially since he resented me being first to give his mother "grandkids" before this. So, I'm tempted to keep the secret from the grandparents until the big day itself arrives. It wouldn't be too hard since I only visit the "grandparents" for a few weeks in the summer and will just look like I've gained a few pounds at that point. If I decide to go that route, I would't tell my own kids until we got back home after the summer vacation/visit.

I'm complicated...

sadeathe · March 2016

I told my husband the same day I found out by giving my son a book titled "I'm a Big Brother" that I had picked out before we started trying for number two. We told parents and siblings within a week of finding out. I told my aunts yesterday after the older one's wedding.

Since my son knows, he'll probably tell someone at church in the coming weeks and then that will be out.

A Facebook reveal will happen between weeks 10 and 13. I'll put my son in a mask and cape and write on a board: Every super hero needs a side kick. Baby #2 due October 2016.

sparklegrump · March 2016

I told Facebook today. Family and close friends have known for a week or two. When it's your fourth no one really cares as much as your first. I mean, they care but it's not such a big deal anymore.

Ive heard the HB on my Doppler already (last night) so that was enough for me to announce. If anything happens I'll be honest and upfront about it, but maybe not on Facebook.

naravna · March 2016

I told my SO right away, and we told our closest family after the first appointment at the doctor's (at 6 weeks). We met with everyone in person (it was quite a pain to arrange it with everyone, but we managed to tell everyone in 9 days). I also told my best friend, she was the most enthusiastic, I will always remember her reaction. Since then we had a second examination and we plan to tell our friends this Saturday at a birthday party.

We have friends currently living in Germany, and we're making one of those pictures with our shoes and baby shoes (we've already got a pair, yay! it's only one and a half year, and the baby can use it, too!) to send to them. I think this will be our FB announcment picture after 12 weeks.

My boss has been one of the first to know, beacuse of a research application he was working on then. My co-workers will be told after 12 weeks.

MaybeBabyMama · March 2016

A couple key players in our lives already know and we will share with the rest of our close friends and family once we hit second trimester. I don't have a Facebook, so our sharing of the news will be spread out based on when we see people. Local friends and family will find out right around 14 weeks and hometown friends and family will find out Memorial Day weekend! And our bigger network of casual friends and extended family will either find out from each other or when we have a third kid in the Christmas card this year

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