PAIF Check-In 2/29

nlane0723 · March 2016

Hi all,

I had a check-in on my last board for those that are pregnant after a loss or pregnant after infertility. Someone already started the PgAL check-in, but it seems like there are a lot of us infertility warriors here in October 2016 as well, so I thought we could use a check-in.

What's your IF back-story?

How far along are you?

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)?

Any Rants/Raves/Questions you would like to share/ask?

Any upcoming milestones or appointments?

nlane0723 · March 2016

What's your loss and/or IF back-story? We started TTC in 2011, HSG in January 2012 (both blocked w/hydrosalpinges), tubal ligation in September 2012. First round of IVF in June 2013, BFP on July 3, 2013. DD born 2/25/2014. Another fresh cycle in January 2015, BFP at 2dp6dt on 1/30/2015. My appendix ruptured when I was 13 and because of how invasive the surgical procedures were (laparotomy x3) I have major adhesions all over my abdominal and pelvic region.

How far along are you? 7w5d with twins.

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? Physically I am EXHAUSTED. Working full time, chasing after a two year old, and making two babies is hard work. I'm also constantly nauseous if I don't have something in my stomach (mainly carbs). Emotionally, I feel okay. A little pregnancy guilt for my friends still struggling.

Any Rants/Raves/Questions you'd like to share/ask? I am so over PIO and suppositories.

Any upcoming milestones or appointments? We had our heartbeat scan last Thursday. It was actually a really special appointment. I heard DD's heartbeat for the first time on my birthday and we heard the new babies heartbeat for the first time on her 2nd birthday. Next appointment is 3/11 and, if all is well, we "graduate" to the OB and perinatologist.

TKBain · March 2016

What's your IF back-story?

We started trying in 2013 and after nothing ever happened, went to an IF specialist in 2014. The Fall of 2014 was all the testing fun. Every thing came back good and the doctor said maybe it was just bad luck. 2015 we did 4 IUIs and got pregnant off of two both ending in CP. The first I only knew by blood test that I had to take to start the next iui cycle, the second pregnancy I tested positive on HPT but second betas stated the same then subsequent dropped. From there we moved to IVF. 29 eggs retrieved, 28 fertilize, 26 make it to 5 day embryos. We did chromosomal testing on the 10 best and 6 were good, 1 no result. We proceeded with FET the week of Thanksgiving 2015. Positive beta but second Beta didn't rise and again the numbers started dropping. Losing hope, we agreed to one last shot with blood thinners and antihistamine protocol. January was supposed to be our FET #2 but my lining got really thick and lost its triple pattern so we were delayed. Feb we transferred 2 embryos and my beta came back higher than I could ever have hopped for! Second beta rose just like it needed to and using the CB weekly estimator it kept rising!

How far along are you? 6w1d

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? Physically, tired here and there - nothing terrible. Occasional cramp but always very minor, breasts tender. Emotionally, super positive! I know a lot of IF women are worse off than me but it's hard to not know why you can't get/stay pregnant when tests say there isn't an obvious reason why you cant!

Any Rants/Raves/Questions you would like to share/ask?
DH is super anxious so I am trying to be the optimistic positive one, reassuring him things are going well, etc. Today his freak out has been if we are at higher risk for birth defects. GAH! Just enjoy where we are man! I know I signed up to be the rock in our marriage but I wish someone would reassure me that things are good and to stay positive!

I also as totally over all the shots, inserts, pills and patches. My bathroom is a pharmacy and I'm afraid I'm going to forget something. But it really is all worth it!

Any upcoming milestones or appointments?

Wednesday is our first ultrasound! Hoping it all looks great and there's a heartbeat. During the tww I just felt both embryos took and it would be twins but since then, I'm not convinced. I'm pretty sure it's a singleton but either way we will see Wednesday!

2015dee · March 2016

What's your IF back-story? We started TTC in 2011. I knew I had PCOS, so was anticipating it might take some time to get pregnant. Well, we got pregnant quickly, then miscarried. I had surgery the month following m/c for a dermoid cyst on my ovary. We TTC naturally for a while. Over the years, we've done (I think) 9 rounds of clomid, 1 of femara, and 1 IUI. In 2014, it was discovered that I had a septum, so I had that removed. Still BFNs. We were literally about to start birth control to begin IVF on the day we got our BFP. SO glad I didn't order the $5000 worth of medications yet!

How far along are you? 8w today!

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? I am physically exhausted. Emotionally I am still cautious but starting to get excited.

Any Rants/Raves/Questions you would like to share/ask? This is kind of random, and I should have asked the RE, but it slipped my mind during my appt. So at the first u/s on Feb 19, baby was measuring 6w3d and I was given an EDD of 10/11. Yesterday was 7w6d, but the baby was measuring 8w0d. Does that change my EDD at all?

Any upcoming milestones or appointments? I had my last appt with the RE yesterday. Baby was measuring right on track, and we heard a beautiful heart beat of 165bpm.

scostel2 · March 2016

Hi! Thanks for starting this thread.

What's your IF back-story? I knew I had PCOS and would potentially have a difficult time conceiving. We started TTC In Oct/November 2014 but I was never getting a period so I knew something was up. My regular OB/GYN prescribed provera, no dice. Finally went to see an RE in May 2015 and learned that I was anovulatory. Did 3 rounds of Clomid at increasing doses that all failed to make me ovulate. The cycles were really long because I had to do 10 days of provera after confirming I didn't ovulate and wasn't pregnant to induce a period. Then 2 rounds of Femara that failed. Finally at the highest dosage, I ovulated and had my first natural period in over a year! Next cycle, I ovulated again, kept getting BFNs but no period. Cycle Day 40, which happened to be my birthday, I went in for a beta and it was positive!

How far along are you? I'm 6 weeks 4 days.

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? If I'm being honest, I'm so nervous. We go in for an ultrasound on Friday and I feel like I can't get excited until I see what's going on in there. I'm still kind of in denial that this is real and I really want to be excited so I hope this passes. I've also got some serious nausea going on but in a weird way I'm happy about that because it makes me feel like it's more real.

Any Rants/Raves/Questions you would like to share/ask? When are you all planning to tell people? My husband and I told our best friend (who is a med student) and his parents but I'm wary of telling anyone else for a while. Lots of people knew about our IF struggles so they ask how it's going and it feels weird not telling them, I just don't want to say anything until I know what I'm telling them, if that makes sense?

Any upcoming milestones or appointments? Friday is 7 weeks and our first ultrasound!

jessica_gail2 · March 2016

Thank you for starting this! I was on PAIF and SAIF back in the day, but SAIF is sooooo quiet now, and I don't want to offend anyone on PAIF since I already have a LO.

What's your IF back-story?
In 2011 we tried to get pregnant but nothing happened for a year. I talked to my OB/GYN and he put me on clomid. They monitored me and I kept not producing enough follicles. Finally did an SA on DH and that came back showing very low motility. So, off we headed to the RE. They never really diagnosed me, but we knew we'd have to go directly to IVF w/ ICSI. On our first try, we had two embryos make it to day 5, and the second wasn't high enough quality to freeze so we had them transfer both, and we got pregnant! That little embie is now a nearly 3-year-old sweet girl. We decided to go back this past fall for IVF round 2. We didn't have any frozen, so had to go through the whole stims and such. Did a different protocol because of how poorly I responded in our first IVF. It went really well. Retrieval was on Thanksgiving day, but my progesterone came back really high so they did a freeze all. My AMH is low (it was half what it was from my previous IVF cycle) so we were so scared nothing would make it to freeze, but 5 did! We transferred one on February 12th. I started POAS the 17th and got a very light positive. Kept testing daily and it got stronger and stronger. First beta was 2/22, and my numbers did great. I go 3/11 for my first ultrasound, then probably again two weeks after that, then will graduate.

How far along are you?
I'm 5 weeks 2 days.

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)?
I'm cautiously optimistic. It doesn't feel real, honestly. I am hoping that seeing a heartbeat next Friday will make all the difference. I'm excited, but I'm also exhausted. Having a toddler + being pregnant is no joke!

Any Rants/Raves/Questions you would like to share/ask?
I'm an over-sharer, and it's killing me not to shout that I'm pregnant to everyone I see. I'm keeping my mouth shut, but still. UGH!!

Any upcoming milestones or appointments?
Next Friday (the 11th) will be our first ultrasound.

2015dee · March 2016

@scostel2 - we've told close family (parents and a few siblings). We've also probably told 2-3 friends. I'm waiting to tell anyone else until around 12w. Although at my appt yesterday, my RE said after they see adequate growth and a good heart rate, the mc rate is less than 5%. Idk the point of waiting for maybe an extra 2-3% less chance of miscarriage? It seems silly to me.

LGW2015 · March 2016

What's your IF back-story? I had been on BCP for 10+ years due to very painful periods. Stopped August 2014 and started TTC November 2014. Took 14 months for us to get our BFP. In November 2015 we started undergoing testing. DH had an SA done which came back with low motility and morphology. He went to a urologist who sent him for a 2nd SA. He said as long as the 2nd one came back the same or better, we could still conceive, it would just take longer. In the meantime I went for an HSG which came back clear. I've always had long and irregular cycles but no cause. Dr. told me to start Clomid next cycle, but I wanted to see an RE first, so I made an appt. DH was set to go for his 2nd SA the week we got our BFP and our RE appt. was for the following week! They say you have a slightly higher chance of pregnancy the cycle of your HSG, happened to be true for us (although it still took me 33 days to ovulate haha).

How far along are you? 9 weeks today!

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? Crappy, physically! Morning (all day) sickness is kicking my butt this past week. Emotionally, I'm feeling good! Still nervous, but much better since getting our first U/S and being able to see our pumpkin and the heartbeat. It was so amazing. I'm also excited to hit 9 weeks, the end of the first tri. is in sight!

Any Rants/Raves/Questions you would like to share/ask? When are you all planning to tell people? We told our parents right away bc of our IF journey which they were very much apart of. We told our families and close friends at 8 weeks. We won't be announcing on FB until end of first tri. Going to do an Easter announcement!

Any upcoming milestones or appointments? We had our first U/S on 2/19 which was amazing. We won't get another one until 19 weeks. But OB said we probably will be able to hear the heartbeat at our next appt. on 3/14 so really excited for that!

LGW2015 · March 2016

@2015dee Hey there. It might at some point, but baby's measurements can vary by a few days, so it doesn't necessarily change the EDD. They might wait for another U/S later on to see how baby is measuring then and right now are just going with the first EDD until they are more certain.

E=Mc3 · March 2016

My back story is that I was told by an OB/GYN that I had severe PCOS and I would never be able to have babies back when I was in my early 20's. He even told me I needed to be up front about it with whoever I married so I wouldn't be "lying" to him. I met and married my husband when I was 31. My first pregnancy followed very quickly, but turned out to be a blighted ovum at 8 week ultrasound. I had a D and C.
My next pregnancy was a sticky peanut and I gave birth to my older daughter. I had another early miscarriage in about a year. Then, in another year, I got pregnant with my younger daughter and gave birth to her.
It has been 5 years of trying for that mystical baby 3. I don't have the resources for medical treatments, so my hubby and I have been trying on our own. I am newly pregnant again.

I am 6 weeks along now.

I don't have a lot of nausea-I did with pregnancy 2 especially. I have sore breasts, extreme fatigue, dizziness, food aversion, lots of mucus (nose and other), and I am holding myself back from this pregnancy a little bit until I can go at 10 weeks and "see" the peanut on the ultrasound. I just don't want to be disappointed again.

I have not told anyone but my husband and a few friends who live long distance (messaged). I need a handful of friends I can lean on for prayers and a listening ear. My husband is so excited!! He is contagious for me sometimes. Not sure when I will tell family/work.

I have the ultrasound appointment in about 3 weeks. That will be a huge milestone. Historically, if I can keep a pregnancy until 8 weeks (and there is a baby there) everything is fine. So, the 10 week ultrasound is pretty huge.

twomommiestobe · March 2016

What's your IF back-story? Dw and I did reciprocal ivf, where we used her eggs and I carry. She had an endometrioma, so we only ended up with three 5 days blasts. We transferred one and got our first bfp.

How far along are you? 5 weeks 5 days

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? Scared. Tw-losses. All I read about is losses (most without trigger warnings, which really catch me off guard) even though I have never had one, the anxiety is really affecting me from reading about so many.

Physically-I'm sick of pio injections, twice daily. I'm nauseous at night, so sleep is nonexistent.

Any Rants/Raves/Questions you would like to share/ask? Not right now

Any upcoming milestones or appointments? first ultrasound tomorrow!!

LGW2015 · March 2016

@twomommiestobe *TW loss mentioned*

That is very cool that you used DW's eggs and you're carrying! I know what you mean about the scare of loss. I haven't had a loss either (this is our first BFP), but especially for us who struggled with IF, I think the thought is even scarier combining the potential loss with the fear of not being able to get another BFP. I try to take it one day at a time and focus on where I am now and how lucky I am! I'd rather be in the present with baby now. And my nerves have started to settle as the pregnancy progresses (and we got to see pumpkin and heartbeat a couple weeks ago), although I still have my moments of worry.

Good luck on the U/S tomorrow! Let us know how it goes!

nlane0723 · March 2016

Good luck at your U/S today, @TKBain!

Probably not, @2015dee. With DD, she measured behind/ahead often in the first trimester.

Our IVF cycle was documented on social media so we just announced that it worked. I think it's pretty common to wait until 13 weeks, but I can't hold a good secret to save my life, @scostel2 and @LGW2015 (I can't believe you have to wait that long for another scan!)

Totally get the toddler induced exhaustion, @jessica_gail2

Sticky baby vibes, @E=Mc3

How cool! That must have been so exciting! @twomommiestobe

scostel2 · March 2016

How's everybody doing? I went for my ultrasound last week and things were good! We saw a little heart beat and the yolk sac. I'm measuring a bit behind, so my RE adjusted my due date, making me 7 weeks 2 days today, rather than the 7 weeks 6 days I would be based on LMP. He decided to transition me to my regular OB, which I was kind of surprised about because it seemed so early, but I have my first OB appointment next Friday (8wks3d) so hopefully we'll have another US. Everyone at my RE office was really sweet about me "graduating" and it made me sad that I have to leave them (my OB is cool, but my RE and his staff are just the best doctors ever) but obviously happy that things seem to be going well. I'm still in the IF mindset, I guess it will take a little while to shake that.

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