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I'm back. Loss mentioned

Hey guys. 

Unfortunately I'm back. I had a miscarriage yesterday. I will get blood results back tomorrow but it's one of those things where I already know and my body knows. Went from severe pain in my boobs and bloating to nothing in only a few hours. I was five weeks and two days, went in yesterday and had an ultrasound to confirm and saw it's little head which makes this even harder. 

How long did you need to wait before trying again? My body didn't ovulate on it's own so I don't think I will have my period like most are saying on some other threads. 

Thank you all for everything

Re: I'm back. Loss mentioned

  • I am so sorry for your loss, sending you so many hugs.  

    I had a loss recently after I got pregnant from a medicated IUI cycle.  The sadness comes over me in waves: the fact that we lost this baby, the prospect of being back into fertility treatments, and the anxiety I think I'll feel even greater if I ever am fortunate to get pregnant again.  I had to wake up early to go in this morning to the fertility clinic for a blood draw (watching falling HCG), and I'm having a tough time with it.  

    As for when you can start trying again, it really depends on your situation.  Seems like some doctors say wait 2-3 cycles, others say 1.  I saw my RE 2 weeks post-d&c, and he cleared me to get back at it right away.  Maybe the chances are so low for us on our own, he figured it was super unlikely?  Anyway.  I would suggest you talk to your RE.  Sometimes you need to think one day at a time to get through something like this, and other times it can really help to have a plan, even if there is some certainty in that plan.  I hope the RE can help.  

    I've also found the miscarriage board on TB to be really helpful, FWIW.  Although obviously not everyone there has struggled with IF, there is certainly a group of us that have, and everyone is compassionate regardless.  
    About me:
    /loss mentioned/
    TTC#1 July 2014
    dx: MFI (morphology)
    IUI #1 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Sept. 2015 ~ BFN
    IUI #2 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Halloween 2015 ~ BFN
    IUI #3 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Thanksgiving 2015 ~ BFP!!
    hb 146 bpm at 7w5d
    1/28/16 ~ began to say goodbye to our beautiful baby at 11w 
    d&c, followed by cytotec
    TTCAL April 2016
    IUI #4 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Apr. 2016 ~ BFN
    IUI #5 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ CP
    IUI#6 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ BFN
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  • Thank you :) it comes in waves for me to. It is difficult knowing and having a it there earlier that day ave knowing now that my little one is gone. I took the day off of work with my husband today but I think the worst is going to be having to go back and pull myself together.
  • Oh @linzylemonz365 I'm so sorry for your loss.  Miscarriage is something I haven't experienced myself (still have yet to ever get a BFP) but my heart aches for you.  I can't imagine the grief y'all must feel going through this.  And when you add infertility to the mix, I would think that only makes it so much worse.  You not only have the loss to grieve, but also knowing how much of a struggle it could be to get pregnant again.  But if it happened before, it can happen again.  *hugs*
    ***BFP & Child Warning***

    Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
    IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
    IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
    FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
    FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
    FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
  • Lots of love and hugs to you! I am so sorry.
    TTC since May 2013
    Mild PCOS, Compound Heterozygous MTHFR
    No Folic acid/pharmaceuticals/supplements (too many to list- private message me if interested), IVIL infusion
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