40 day cycle, no period, negative pregnancy test, NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO PLEASE

sarawilkins13 · February 2016

Hi my names Sara. I want to start by saying am not asking for someone to confirm if I am pregnant or not. I also am not looking to be judged. I have had bad experiences posting with responses from snarky people in the past. I am simply hoping to hear from someone who's been through this before and help me understand because I am new to charting etc.. (I use the OVIA app & have read everything there is to read about what I should be doing and Im doing it). I have been off my birth control since September (which I was on for about 10 yrs). My husband and I have been TTC since I went of it. I did have trouble with AF in November so I went to OBGYN she put me on progesterone? to reset my cycle. The next cycle came normally & I had gotten positive ovulation test in January (01/06/16). AF arrived (01/21-01/26). I then "spotted" ? (02/03-02/05). Although I havent been taking ovulation tests daily the ones I have taken this month have come back negative. I also have still not gotten AF which makes a 40 day cycle. I took a pregnancy test 02/08 & 02/28 both negative. Ive been charting my BBT before I get out of bed every morning I dont have the BBT thermometer yet but am getting one today so I have just been using a regular thermometer. My chart would probably be considered erratic. Ive also had a variety of CM all month. Other things ive noticed have been nausea, emotional, lack of appetite, sensitivity to smells and lightheaded. The last two concern me the most because first of all Im a dog groomer and allergic to everything I am getting allergy shots every month and I still cant really smell anything unless its something really gross but now I smell perfumes etc.... Doctor says the shots will not affect TTC/Pregnancy. Secondly being lightheaded and grooming dogs is scary (Before you freak out: I always stop what Im doing when I feel that way I never groom if I feel I unstable; also im trying to find a better job because even though I enjoy what I do I dont particularly want to be pregnant and dealing with kicking, pooping, biting clients ), I was anemic years ago but haven't had any issues with fainting since so its odd. Its been really hard not having anyone to talk to about charting etc... everyone I know who has kids has just gotten pregnant on accident. My dr. has done pelvic exam always comes back fine, ive always been healthy never had issues so I dont know I just worry somethings wrong with me. I want to hope that somehow im pregnant but Ive learned that just comes with disappointment. I called the nurse today and she told me to wait it out another month to see what happens. Input , similar experiences would be appreciated.

Thank you for reading my super long post.

LadyMillil · February 2016

sarawilkins13 said:

Hi my names Sara. I want to start by saying am not asking for someone to confirm if I am pregnant or not. I also am not looking to be judged. I have had bad experiences posting with responses from snarky people in the past. I am simply hoping to hear from someone who's been through this before and help me understand because I am new to charting etc.. (I use the OVIA app & have read everything there is to read about what I should be doing and Im doing it). I have been off my birth control since September (which I was on for about 10 yrs). My husband and I have been TTC since I went of it. I did have trouble with AF in November so I went to OBGYN she put me on progesterone? to reset my cycle. The next cycle came normally & I had gotten positive ovulation test in January (01/06/16). AF arrived (01/21-01/26). I then "spotted" ? (02/03-02/05). Although I havent been taking ovulation tests daily the ones I have taken this month have come back negative. I also have still not gotten AF which makes a 40 day cycle. I took a pregnancy test 02/08 & 02/28 both negative. Ive been charting my BBT before I get out of bed every morning I dont have the BBT thermometer yet but am getting one today so I have just been using a regular thermometer. My chart would probably be considered erratic. Ive also had a variety of CM all month. Other things ive noticed have been nausea, emotional, lack of appetite, sensitivity to smells and lightheaded. The last two concern me the most because first of all Im a dog groomer and allergic to everything I am getting allergy shots every month and I still cant really smell anything unless its something really gross but now I smell perfumes etc.... Doctor says the shots will not affect TTC/Pregnancy. Secondly being lightheaded and grooming dogs is scary (Before you freak out: I always stop what Im doing when I feel that way I never groom if I feel I unstable; also im trying to find a better job because even though I enjoy what I do I dont particularly want to be pregnant and dealing with kicking, pooping, biting clients ), I was anemic years ago but haven't had any issues with fainting since so its odd. Its been really hard not having anyone to talk to about charting etc... everyone I know who has kids has just gotten pregnant on accident. My dr. has done pelvic exam always comes back fine, ive always been healthy never had issues so I dont know I just worry somethings wrong with me. I want to hope that somehow im pregnant but Ive learned that just comes with disappointment. I called the nurse today and she told me to wait it out another month to see what happens. Input , similar experiences would be appreciated.

Thank you for reading my super long post.

It is possible you are just having a random long cycle, or you are having a random anovulatory cycle. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. You should test once a week until AF or a BFP. If you go another month with neither then go to your doctor to jump start your cycle.

You can't control how others post and your opening few lines probably rubbed some people (including myself) the wrong way.

e=mc21 · February 2016

Usually starting new threads isn't needed, and you can vent and ask for advice on our WTO/TWW threads, so that may be why you had some snarky replies. 40 days isn't that unusual, and it often takes people several cycles to "regulate" after many years on BCP- sometimes up to a year.

If if its been 60+ days give your doc another call and see what they advise, but join the TWW/WTO threads and participate there. If you "know everything" you should have already been using a BBT thermometer and you would know even if you test OPKs daily it's possible to miss a surge.

What at exactly are you asking?

e=mc21 · February 2016

sarawilkins13 said:

Hi my names Sara. I want to start by saying am not asking for someone to confirm if I am pregnant or not. I also am not looking to be judged. I have had bad experiences posting with responses from snarky people in the past. I am simply hoping to hear from someone who's been through this before and help me understand because I am new to charting etc.. (I use the OVIA app & have read everything there is to read about what I should be doing and Im doing it). I have been off my birth control since September (which I was on for about 10 yrs). My husband and I have been TTC since I went of it. I did have trouble with AF in November so I went to OBGYN she put me on progesterone? to reset my cycle. The next cycle came normally & I had gotten positive ovulation test in January (01/06/16). AF arrived (01/21-01/26). I then "spotted" ? (02/03-02/05). Although I havent been taking ovulation tests daily the ones I have taken this month have come back negative. I also have still not gotten AF which makes a 40 day cycle. I took a pregnancy test 02/08 & 02/28 both negative. Ive been charting my BBT before I get out of bed every morning I dont have the BBT thermometer yet but am getting one today so I have just been using a regular thermometer. My chart would probably be considered erratic. Ive also had a variety of CM all month. Other things ive noticed have been nausea, emotional, lack of appetite, sensitivity to smells and lightheaded. The last two concern me the most because first of all Im a dog groomer and allergic to everything I am getting allergy shots every month and I still cant really smell anything unless its something really gross but now I smell perfumes etc.... Doctor says the shots will not affect TTC/Pregnancy. Secondly being lightheaded and grooming dogs is scary (Before you freak out: I always stop what Im doing when I feel that way I never groom if I feel I unstable; also im trying to find a better job because even though I enjoy what I do I dont particularly want to be pregnant and dealing with kicking, pooping, biting clients ), I was anemic years ago but haven't had any issues with fainting since so its odd. Its been really hard not having anyone to talk to about charting etc... everyone I know who has kids has just gotten pregnant on accident. My dr. has done pelvic exam always comes back fine, ive always been healthy never had issues so I dont know I just worry somethings wrong with me. I want to hope that somehow im pregnant but Ive learned that just comes with disappointment. I called the nurse today and she told me to wait it out another month to see what happens. Input , similar experiences would be appreciated.

Thank you for reading my super long post.

Also QFP. I had a 70+ day cycle. If you're worried about continuing to worry if you are pregnant hold off on sex until your next cycle when you're properly charting.

sarawilkins13 · February 2016

Hi sorry, I dont completely understand how to use these threads & community section of this website so thats why I just did a new discussion. Ive read alot of things saying you can use a regular thermometer, I was trying not to spend money unless necessary thats why I was going that route first. Im not really asking anything I just wanted some validation that Im not a weirdo and that this does happen to others. Like I said Im new to this. I dont know everything. The people whom have commented on different posts ive posted in the past just tell me to read this or that and all seem to say the same thing. Thats why I was so blunt because surely there is someone else on here like me who doesnt need to be told the same thing over and over. I typically would prefer not to seek advice from strangers but a friend of mine suggested it since as I had said no one I know has planned to get pregnant. I appreciate and thank you for your response it was comforting/helpful.

wintersong · February 2016

Ditto pps. The who and tww threads are great places for venting. Unfortunately a can only give the same advice the nurse did...keep testing every week until you hit cd 60, then call the doctor.

houseofsetters · March 2016

Cycles are weird. Bodies are weird. I had a random 66 day cycle a couple cycles ago. Sometime you get an anovulatory cycle once in a while. Sounds like that might be what's going on, if your chart is erratic.

These are all questions/concerns that can be discussed in daily WTO/TWW threads.

sarawilkins13 · March 2016

@houseofsetters Thank you. How do I get to these threads. Im young enough that I should be savvy in all this but I always was a good child and stayed away from the chatrooms growing up (so Im clueless lol)

LadyMillil · March 2016

If you scroll down on the board you should see WTO/TWW threads for each day.

mrsdaddario · March 2016

@sarawilkins13

I also went off of BCP in September and have been TTC since then. My periods have not regulated themselves yet either. First cycle off was 31 days, then I had a 32 day cycle, then the next was 49 days. I am currently on CD 66. I know you're very frustrated, it IS super frustrating when you're so ready to track ovulation, but you're AF isn't cooperating. I have an OBGYN appointment in two weeks, so I'm hoping to get some answers then.

My suggestion would be to relax. Honestly. It seems you are really making yourself crazy.

Schedule a doctors appointment if you go past 60 days. Invest the measly $8 in a basal thermometer. Take PNV.

As far as your other medical issues, I would bring it up to your doctor again.

Lastly, read read read. Lurk lurk lurk.

AndiPandi127 · March 2016

sarawilkins13 said:

Hi my names Sara. I want to start by saying am not asking for someone to confirm if I am pregnant or not. I also am not looking to be judged. I have had bad experiences posting with responses from snarky people in the past.
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I want to hope that somehow im pregnant but Ive learned that just comes with disappointment
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Input , similar experiences would be appreciated.

So, basically, you're asking if anyone has had a 40 day cycle and been pregnant. Which means you want us to tell you you're pregnant. Sorry, dude. If you want support, look at the top of the list of discussions, read the Newbie post and follow it. The reason people tell you the same thing over and over is because that's what everyone gets told because guess what? We all want to be pregnant right now, and we're all pretty much doing the same thing, and it's all documented there in a nice easy to read package.

Sorry, I have no more sugar left for coating. Lots of other forums around if you think we're judgey and snarky when we tell you the truth.

MrsDho11 · March 2016

LadyMillil said:

sarawilkins13 said:

Hi my names Sara. I want to start by saying am not asking for someone to confirm if I am pregnant or not. I also am not looking to be judged. I have had bad experiences posting with responses from snarky people in the past. I am simply hoping to hear from someone who's been through this before and help me understand because I am new to charting etc.. (I use the OVIA app & have read everything there is to read about what I should be doing and Im doing it). I have been off my birth control since September (which I was on for about 10 yrs). My husband and I have been TTC since I went of it. I did have trouble with AF in November so I went to OBGYN she put me on progesterone? to reset my cycle. The next cycle came normally & I had gotten positive ovulation test in January (01/06/16). AF arrived (01/21-01/26). I then "spotted" ? (02/03-02/05). Although I havent been taking ovulation tests daily the ones I have taken this month have come back negative. I also have still not gotten AF which makes a 40 day cycle. I took a pregnancy test 02/08 & 02/28 both negative. Ive been charting my BBT before I get out of bed every morning I dont have the BBT thermometer yet but am getting one today so I have just been using a regular thermometer. My chart would probably be considered erratic. Ive also had a variety of CM all month. Other things ive noticed have been nausea, emotional, lack of appetite, sensitivity to smells and lightheaded. The last two concern me the most because first of all Im a dog groomer and allergic to everything I am getting allergy shots every month and I still cant really smell anything unless its something really gross but now I smell perfumes etc.... Doctor says the shots will not affect TTC/Pregnancy. Secondly being lightheaded and grooming dogs is scary (Before you freak out: I always stop what Im doing when I feel that way I never groom if I feel I unstable; also im trying to find a better job because even though I enjoy what I do I dont particularly want to be pregnant and dealing with kicking, pooping, biting clients ), I was anemic years ago but haven't had any issues with fainting since so its odd. Its been really hard not having anyone to talk to about charting etc... everyone I know who has kids has just gotten pregnant on accident. My dr. has done pelvic exam always comes back fine, ive always been healthy never had issues so I dont know I just worry somethings wrong with me. I want to hope that somehow im pregnant but Ive learned that just comes with disappointment. I called the nurse today and she told me to wait it out another month to see what happens. Input , similar experiences would be appreciated.

Thank you for reading my super long post.

It is possible you are just having a random long cycle, or you are having a random anovulatory cycle. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. You should test once a week until AF or a BFP. If you go another month with neither then go to your doctor to jump start your cycle.

You can't control how others post and your opening few lines probably rubbed some people (including myself) the wrong way.

This!

Also, if you're not chatting with a BBT, the statement "read everything there is to read about what I should be doing and Im doing it" is completely false.

The BBT recommended in the intro thread (which you clearly didn't read) costs $7. Since September, I have seen it as cheap as $4. That's way cheaper than a whole month of pregnancy tests when you have no clue what your cycle is doing! If you're someone with long cycles, you really can't rely solely on OPKs because a lot of people, like me, will get multiple surges and turn tests positive more than one time over the course of a cycle.

In conclusion, read what the others have advised, read the guides at the top of the boards, and read a bunch of threads for a few days to get a feel for this actually super helpful community. Then shove the holier than thou tone and come participate regularly. Give support just as much or more than you ask for it, and you'll get along just fine.

wintersong · March 2016

@sarawilkins13 Thx for posting your question in tww.

It helps to reduce clutter on the board when people post I'm those threads. I'm sure you will be able to find support and advice there!

RatsPJ · March 2016

I'm late to the party but wanted to add that when I went off BCP I didn't have a period for three months. It was terrifying and irritating and frustrating. Once it got to 60 days I made an appt with my gyno to get the ball rolling to figure out what was going on. She told me that it can take a long time to get back to normal after BCP, especially if you're like me and have been on it for more than half your life.

TheBorg7of9 · March 2016

Ah! Why are you yelling?

NamelessAria · March 2016

My first 8 months off BCPs resulted in 3 cycles. I don't know exactly how many days the first two were since I wasn't charting but they were ~3 months. The 3rd cycle when I started charting I had a 49 day cycle. Needless to say I wasn't pregnant any of those cycles. I don't even know that I ovulated any of those cycles. I think I ovulated the 3rd cycle but I can't be sure because I got a nasty cold with a high fever around CD36. So the sustained temp shift could have been ovulation or it could have just all been from being sick. It's impossible to say.

I'm going to agree with everyone else saying that if you haven't gotten a BFP or a period 60+ days from your last period you may want to call your doctor and get Provera to jump start your period and your next cycle.

Other than just waiting for your period, testing occasionally and contacting your doctor at 60+ days there isn't a lot you can do right now. It's good that you've started temping. It's okay that your temps are rocky. It's pretty common for the first cycle of temping and charting to be a throw-away learning chart. I know my first chart was pretty much useless for anything other than learning purposes. But the next cycle was way better and I was able to see a clear shift for O.

Basically, many of us have experienced what you're experiencing. It's fairly common to have longer cycles after coming off BCPs. I know it's frustrating but hang in there. Most ladies have their cycles start to shorten over time as their bodies adjust to being off BCPs.

EgnaroBean · March 2016

I can relate. It is taking me a long time to get back to normal after quitting BCP in May. My cycles have ranged from 30-103 days and I don't know whether I've ovulated at all. I also feel stressed and in need of connection.

I'm sorry you're going through this. Your concerns about smells and nausea sound to me like you might be symptom spotting--which will drive you nuts so try not to give in to that!

I hope you find the camaraderie you are seeking--either here or elsewhere.

gardeniagirlknits · March 2016

Op... Have you had any hormones tested yet? I had erratic long cycles with no ovulation and it turned out I had a thyroid problem. Not that this will be your particular issue... But I always try to tell others how important a hormone panel is. I think the first panel my doc ordered was lh, fsh, tsh and... Ugh, I forget the others. Anyway it's a good place to start with a regular ob gyn.

Edit bc spelling is hard when I'm watching the bachelor...

redheeler · March 2016

My first cycle off BCP was 79 days, my second was 43, my third I took another month of the BCP and the fourth after I stopped taking it again was 26 days, many of us have been through it, I symptom spotted and took heaps of hpt's in the first two cycles, convinced I must have been pregnant, but no.

ladystinson · March 2016

FWIW, during my divorce I had a 150-160 day cycle. I literally didnt get AF for 5 months. It was stress and I wasn't even sexually active at the time let alone TTC so dr and I didnt jump start my cycle (that and I was 4 months in before I even realized it had been 4 months... just a smidgen of stress and distraction at the time) cycles can be weird and you know your life better than we ever can in terms of stress and such. Also, the Mabis BBT is only about 7 bucks on amazon. TOTALLY worth it!

sarawilkins13 · March 2016

Thank you to those of you who posted helpful responses (for the most part). For the rest of you that seem to have no life and cant simply respond without being nasty thanks for the negativity. I am too busy to constantly be on here trying to keep up so I believe this will be my last time on one of these chat rooms. I just cant handle all the shortcut lingo for everything it gets too confusing for me (no offense to anyone really I just prefer everything be spelled out). Thanks again sincerely Sara

Lulucooks · March 2016

sarawilkins13 said:

Thank you to those of you who posted helpful responses (for the most part). For the rest of you that seem to have no life and cant simply respond without being nasty thanks for the negativity. I am too busy to constantly be on here trying to keep up so I believe this will be my last time on one of these chat rooms. I just cant handle all the shortcut lingo for everything it gets too confusing for me (no offense to anyone really I just prefer everything be spelled out). Thanks again sincerely Sara

Whateves

AndiPandi127 · March 2016

ZOMBIE!

WitandWhimsy · March 2016

sarawilkins13 said:

Thank you to those of you who posted helpful responses (for the most part). For the rest of you that seem to have no life and cant simply respond without being nasty thanks for the negativity. I am too busy to constantly be on here trying to keep up so I believe this will be my last time on one of these chat rooms. I just cant handle all the shortcut lingo for everything it gets too confusing for me (no offense to anyone really I just prefer everything be spelled out). Thanks again sincerely Sara

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