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October 2015 Moms
LaurenBee24
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Update!!!!! NBR I need etiquette advice.....
LaurenBee24
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HELP!
My SO and I have been planning to get engaged for some time. He ordered my ring, and it will be ready Saturday. I'm not sure what it looks like or when he is going to ask. I've been looking forward to telling my family. However, my sister started ttc in November and on Saturday announced that she is six weeks pregnant! I'm SO SO excited for her. She is the 2nd oldest and the last to have a child, and she was starting to have a hard time with the waiting.
On top of that my SIL just announced that she and my brother are going to split. My best friend also just left her partner (she is 5 weeks postpartum).
I guess I am thinking that I should ask my SO to put off asking. I don't want to wait because I am so excited. It's already going to put a wrench into the planning. We wanted to plan a September wedding (I even asked for sapphire elements in my ring), but she is due in October and I'm not going to do that. So, now we are looking at spring 2017.
I was pregnant at our other sisters wedding, and I wish I hadn't been. I feel like I missed out on the fun of a lot of things. I didn't even get to enjoy the after party bar hopping. I actually waited to announce until after her bridal shower.
Anyway, I'm just not sure what is the right thing to do. I also don't want our events to conflict, and I wanted my sister to help (she does amazing wedding floral and is amazing at planning and details) and I am so bummed that I am not going to be able to do these things like I wanted. How long should we wait? I am so excited to get engaged, but I want her to have her time. I just know that it will keep being something.... gender reveal, shower, count down to baby.... and I don't know when is the right time.
I also worry about upsetting my friend. Im not worried about SIL as she is awesome about that stuff. Also, she knew it was kinda in the plans for a few weeks, but not anyone else.
I would love the help and advice! Thanks in advance!
My SO and I have been planning to get engaged for some time. He ordered my ring, and it will be ready Saturday. I'm not sure what it looks like or when he is going to ask. I've been looking forward to telling my family. However, my sister started ttc in November and on Saturday announced that she is six weeks pregnant! I'm SO SO excited for her. She is the 2nd oldest and the last to have a child, and she was starting to have a hard time with the waiting.
On top of that my SIL just announced that she and my brother are going to split. My best friend also just left her partner (she is 5 weeks postpartum).
I guess I am thinking that I should ask my SO to put off asking. I don't want to wait because I am so excited. It's already going to put a wrench into the planning. We wanted to plan a September wedding (I even asked for sapphire elements in my ring), but she is due in October and I'm not going to do that. So, now we are looking at spring 2017.
I was pregnant at our other sisters wedding, and I wish I hadn't been. I feel like I missed out on the fun of a lot of things. I didn't even get to enjoy the after party bar hopping. I actually waited to announce until after her bridal shower.
Anyway, I'm just not sure what is the right thing to do. I also don't want our events to conflict, and I wanted my sister to help (she does amazing wedding floral and is amazing at planning and details) and I am so bummed that I am not going to be able to do these things like I wanted. How long should we wait? I am so excited to get engaged, but I want her to have her time. I just know that it will keep being something.... gender reveal, shower, count down to baby.... and I don't know when is the right time.
I also worry about upsetting my friend. Im not worried about SIL as she is awesome about that stuff. Also, she knew it was kinda in the plans for a few weeks, but not anyone else.
I would love the help and advice! Thanks in advance!
Re: Update!!!!! NBR I need etiquette advice.....
A September wedding absolutely has to be out unless I wait until 2017, because I am not willing to risk my sister being on bed rest or going into labour early or whatever and missing my wedding. We are super close. I see her at least once a week, and I couldn't imagine not having her there.
@vamomtobe Everything always has to be about her, so I don't think it would work that way. I've decided over the last few hours that I can't wait for her life to not be in "crisis" or I may never have the opportunity!
@OliveOyl2014 I sort of agree, but I want my sister to have some time to bask in the excitement of the new pregnancy. I know that she waited a long time. I also know what it is like to have you pregnancy take the back burner to wedding planning, and I don't want that for her.
I think I'll just talk to her as soon as it happens, and ask her if she wants me to wait. I just don't know if she will be honest with her feelings.
Side note I love sapphires and also have them in my wedding band! Can't wait to see!
I know a short engagement means a more expensive wedding, but that's ok. We only get to do this once, so I'm not going to pinch pennies. We are either going to rent out a bed and breakfast or large mountain cabin and take everyone to North Carolina or instead spend the money turning the back into a raised deck down to the water and putting in a new dock on the other side of the pool cage. Then we can get married at home and have done the improvements to our house! I'm just not sure if you extend the cage or bring the deck up to it.
I'm not going to bet on my sister being able to do it nine months pregnant.... Especially if we decide to travel for it. I missed a wedding in September because I was high risk, and I couldn't do it without her.