Pregnant after a Loss
bethbyma
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Pregnant after a 34 week stillborn
bethbyma
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Hi mammas,
My husband and I are expecting a new baby and I am 13 weeks along! Things look good and we've seen and heard the heartbeat 3 times. But our last pregnancy ended with a 34 week stillborn. Delivering that baby girl was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. Now that I am pregnant again I am so excited but I am also terrified. This is my 3rd pregnancy, we also have a healthy 2.5 year old but I am still scared to death. I am showing already but I am scared to tell anyone! Is this normal? I know everything is fine, and I am sicker than a dog but there is still a part of me that keeps wondering. Every time when I have a day where I feel somewhat normal, with no sickness, I worry because I'm supposed to feel sick. I am a mess. Is this whole pregnancy going to be like this?
Only you guys will understand because you've been though something similar. Its like my head and body know I'm pregnant but my heart doesn't want to believe it yet.
Advice?
My husband and I are expecting a new baby and I am 13 weeks along! Things look good and we've seen and heard the heartbeat 3 times. But our last pregnancy ended with a 34 week stillborn. Delivering that baby girl was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. Now that I am pregnant again I am so excited but I am also terrified. This is my 3rd pregnancy, we also have a healthy 2.5 year old but I am still scared to death. I am showing already but I am scared to tell anyone! Is this normal? I know everything is fine, and I am sicker than a dog but there is still a part of me that keeps wondering. Every time when I have a day where I feel somewhat normal, with no sickness, I worry because I'm supposed to feel sick. I am a mess. Is this whole pregnancy going to be like this?
Only you guys will understand because you've been though something similar. Its like my head and body know I'm pregnant but my heart doesn't want to believe it yet.
Advice?
Re: Pregnant after a 34 week stillborn
My advice: therapy. It helps a lot and I've started scheduling sessions the day before appts because that's when I'm most stressed. Other than that, distraction. Find a good non baby related book to read in order to escape your own mind. Or find a project to do.
congrats again! Best of luck and if you need to chat, feel free to pm me
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
I think you'll start to feel better when you can feel your little one moving around inside you, that to me has always been my daily reassurance that my little man is a-okay
also talk and communicate with you DH or SO as much as possible to make sure you both understand how you are handling this pregnancy. The grieving process is a strange thing, and you'll both be going through so many emotions this pregnancy so make sure to stick together and keep in touch on how your feeling.
Good luck and I pray everything works out well for you and your lo this pregnancy.
BFP 2/19/15 • MMC found at 9 wks • D&E at 11 wks (age 36)
BFP 8/29/15 • CP (age 37)
TTC#2 since May 2017
BFP 10/18/17 • MMC found at 8 wks • Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39)
BFP 2/16/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 4/13/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 5/07/18 • MMC found at 10.5 wks • D&E at 11.5 wks • Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40)
9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied)
RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy.
BFP 9/24/18 • CP (age 40)