Pregnant while Breastfeeding

Ampip2270 · February 2016

Hello! Any other S16ers out there who are currently nursing a little? I'm 11+ weeks and my little guy, 18 mos, is showing no signs of stopping. I don't mind continuing to nurse and even tandem nursing once #2 arrives. Just curious if anyone is riding in this boat with me?

mhilpisch10 · February 2016

I'm currently weaning my 9 month old. Went down to just nursing once or twice a day. It was really hard on me full on nursing and being pregnant, plus I had a huge drop in my supply. I feel bad stopping since I really wanted to make it a year but we have a 5 day trip to San Diego on Friday and I feel like the timing makes sense. I read a lot of babies stop on their own once you get 4-5 month pregnant. Some chemical change..

eboyd83 · February 2016

My lo began self weaning around her first birthday. She is 13 months on Friday. We are currently down to her just nursing in the morning when she first wakes but will be stopping officially Saturday. Kind of sad, I'm so happy we made it to a year. It has been quite a battle to get through. But, she is totally ready.

BbyPrather · February 2016

Me! Dd is almost 10 months and I am just about 9 weeks along. Dd is very intrested in solids thank gosh and only nurses three time a day. But Im so exausted still its insaine. I can bairly keep my eyes open if I sit down and seems like I cant ever get enough food. Im finally putting a few pounds on for the new baby but its been a challenge. I personally have not had a wonderful experience nursing and plan to stop once dd hits a year. Shes already loosing intrest unless she is super upset then she goes right for the boobs. Awesome that you have made it 18 months! Congrats.

Knottie1456280733 · February 2016

Still somewhat nursing my 22 month old. He asks in the morning to "nurses" but he'll skip one or two days at a time and other times asks for many consecutive days. It hurts a bit when he initially latches on, but then I'm fine.

I fully support your choice to tandem and think that's awesome if that's what you decide to do! I think for me, I'd like to stop by his 2nd birthday so I can have a break before the newborn comes

hcookie · February 2016

Me! I'm 8 weeks; DD is 23 months (yesterday!) and she is showing NO signs of slowing down. I'm planning on reading "Adventures in Tandem Nursing" to get a bit more information on nursing through pregnancy and tandem nursing. I know it can be challenging, but totally worth it.

mhilpisch10 · February 2016

@BbyPrather that was me a couple weeks ago. I was eating around 7 meals a day. It was insane! I was so hungry and exhausted. I'm still exhausted but not as starving. Cutting down to only nursing once a day has really helped me. I don't think my body can do both full time. Breastfeeding and pregnancies both take a big toll on you.

Ampip2270 · February 2016

Well, ladies! Nice to know I'm not alone. Ive enjoyed nursing to this point. I would be a little sad if he weans soon, but it would be so nice to have a break before #2 arrives. He definitely doesn't nurse all the time. We don't skip days, but he doesn't really nurse in the mornings any more. He always demands milkies when we get home from work/daycare. And I nurse him to sleep. So it's not constant or very demanding, but it's a nice quiet bond we have together a few times a day.

msmossie · February 2016

My 20 month still wants to nurse a lot. He asks more than I say yes. I've been trying to wean him slowly and he's down to about 3x a day (morning, after work, night). I'm not interested in tandem nursing (working, pumping AND tandem - please no), so I'd like to have him weaned by this summer. Problem is... I'm not sure which feeding to cut out next. Sigh.

mhilpisch10 · February 2016

@msmossie maybe morning or after work. If you nurse him to sleep that will probably be a big one to cut out. Depending on your morning routine you might be able to distract him with breakfast to forget about nursing. My first instinct says cut the one after work. But I've never had to wean at the 20 month level. Good luck. I'm so impressed with all of you women. Anything over a year is so incredible. I've never made it to a year.

mhilpisch10 · February 2016

@Ampip2270 I feel sad weaning my 9 month too :'( I think I just have to come to terms that my body can only handle so much and mentally I can only do so much. I've had a tough but rewarding experience with nursing him and have to be grateful for the months he did get I guess. I just feel like I'm taking something away from him just because anther baby is coming. Aaah the stresses we put on ourselves.

spacedolphin11 · February 2016

Me! My 18 month old nurses 5-6 times a day (including overnight, which is what I'd like to cut out.) It does hurt a bit but it's not terrible.

When I was pregnant with my toddler my oldest was still BFing at age two, but we ended up weaning when I was 4-5 months pregnant. It was a combination of my milk drying up and me having major nursing aversion, and DS1 actually did fine, but I still felt soooo guilty. Since it's not as hard this time and DS2 is younger, I'm just going to keep going and maybe even try tandem nursing, if we make it that far.

Anya Lynn · February 2016

Dd is two and a half and I feel like I've been trying to slowly wean her for an eternity! She's down to only two or three times a day but being pregnant with twins and nursing is killing me! Never had to wean one as our older boys were just kind of done on their own between that 12-18 month mark. So this will be a struggle. I'm holding out hope for that 4-5 month mark though!

mhilpisch10 · February 2016

@Anya Lynn oh my gosh! How are you still alive!? That sounds completely exhausting. You are amazing.

crispy11 · February 2016

I am in the process of weaning my 2.5 year old too. It has been about 4 days since our last nursing session so I am calling it! She'll be 3 in April and I need a nursing break!

Anya Lynn · February 2016

@mhilpisch10 I feel like between the three of them I'm being eaten alive! Haha! The hardest part so far is eating enough! With the lingering nausea getting anything in is a struggle let alone enough for everyone.

doc told me to aim for 4000 cals a day! Are you kidding me!?

faeriem · February 2016

I am! Ds is almost a year, and not slowing down. He's been more bitey lately, and I figured out its been since I got pregnant, and I'm not sure what to do about it. Anyone else having this problem?
Also kudos @Anya Lynn don't know how I'd keep up with those calories!

Anya Lynn · February 2016

@faeriem my dd got kind of the same way. I couldn't decide if it was just because everything was so much more sensitive that I just felt her teeth more or if she really was trying to bite. But any time her teeth hurt or she tried to clamp down at all I would take it away and tell her that her teeth were hurting me. She started to be a lot more careful after that. Good luck though mama!

Ampip2270 · February 2016

So lately I've been experiencing really bad nursing aversions during our bedtime/over night feeds. It's terrible, after yesterday's I just had to get my feelings out somewhere here's what I wrote
"This is raw! Nursing aversion is one of the most consuming experiences I have ever been through. I skipped nursing all day today, saved it for bed time. I cried the whole time. I clenched my teeth, I moaned, I curled my toes and pushed through it because I don't know how else to get my son to bed. The feeling is so precise that I only experience it when he is suckling. If he is just latched and not sucking no emotions, just normal, the minute the sucking starts I feel anger & anxiety. I want to run as far away as I can, I want to scream I want to crawl out of my skin. The sucking stops and in that instant those mind and body consuming emotions vanish like they never existed. I won't be able to do this much longer. I'm sad for my son, I'm sad for me, but I don't think I can do this much more. This is the most difficult thing I've ever had to try to explain. My husband is about to walk up here and ask why I'm crying and I'm going to have to just show him this because I have no other words. Ugh... Sorry. If you took the time to read this, thanks, I just don't know where else to go with it & I had to get it out."
It was bad. I am going to call a local LLL leader to talk with, I have one locally who has nurses through 3 pregnancies and tandem nursed 2x. But if anybody you ladies start to experience these feelings know you are not alone and I am definitely willing to talk. Happy Friday.

faeriem · February 2016

@Anya Lynn thanks for the tips, I have tried that, but he mostly bits when he is finished eating, so he bits down and pulls away. He makes me bleed almost every day, but I've been able to catch him before he does it the last couple of days. He slips his tongue back right before, so I can slip a finger in before he bites down. The only times I miss this are night feedings, when I half fall asleep. I'm wide awake by the time he goes back to sleep lol

faeriem · February 2016

That sounds so hard. @Ampip2270 I feel a bit like that here and there, but always want to bf, but some nights I can't handle it. Ds hates bottles at night so either I feed him or pace with a whimpering baby till he goes back to sleep.

linzandjer11 · February 2016

I nursed through 2 1/2 first trimesters last year (due to consecutive losses). I'm so glad that I did and it was so healing for me when I still had a little who wanted to snuggle in closely. I'm a little bummed that the tandem nursing won't happen for us, but so proud of you guys for sticking it through!

jensou · February 2016

This is my fourth baby, But the other three are 16, 15, and 14 years (yep - SURPRISE!!). The first two were 14 months apart and I kept nursing til about 6 months pregnant. I hadn't gained enough weight and my OB said I needed to wean. She was almost at a year so I felt okay about it. It was sad but I knew it was the right thing to do.

I recommend doing what you can but remembering your own health and well being. Weaning is tough for a week. Kids adapt and move on much more easily than we do.

However it it goes for all you mommies - good luck!

klmk0822 · February 2016

My DD is still nursing and she'll be 2.5 soon, with no sign of giving up the boob.

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