explain to me the purpose of a BFPB

nikinikinine · January 2009

I know what a BFPB is, but I have no idea why I would want one. It seems like it's just someone else to talk to about TTC and that's kind of what this board is for to begin with...

I get labor buddies on 2nd and 3rd tri because they are going through bizarre changes in their bodies, etc. and such. But I just don't get the BFPB thing.

*Bee* · January 2009

BFPB's are just someone you can talk with a little more about TTC. It's helpful to have one or two people to go to that know your story well, know what is going on with you and can help with any questions or concerns you may have. It's a closer bond than just talking to random people on the board
And then when you do get your BFP, buddies sometimes send a gift or card.

happysong · January 2009

They're is supposed to be someone you can talk to for support and to share the journey with. Some people send a little gift when they get their BFP.

Abc15379 · January 2009

I'm actually the opposite. I totally get BFPBs and don't get labor buddies at all. Anyway, BFPBs are to share the journey with, and you're typically keeping in touch with them outside this board,and talking about more than just TTC. When one gets their BFP, usually a small gift is sent to congratulate them.

I also keep the board updated if my BFPB is sick or having computer issues and wants to let everyone know how an u/s went or something like that.

bat stafuny · January 2009

it's more personal.. someone you becomes friends with.. chat with, email with, mail surprises to. some even text or call.. and then send a gift when they get their bfp.

it's like having (almost) real friends on the board.

happysong · January 2009

PS - I have one but would love to have two if you're interested!

*Bee* · January 2009

Abc15379:
I also keep the board updated if my BFPB is sick or having computer issues and wants to let everyone know how an u/s went or something like that.

This is basically the point of labor buddies. To keep other people updated on labor and delivery when the time comes. But they also talk each other through the pregnancy, too, and share things that are going on with them. Like BFPB's do.

babydreamer · January 2009

Don't have a BFPB but then again I just started on the bump

Abc15379 · January 2009

Bee- I get that, and I get that since you and Spink and E were BFPBs and now you're all KU, that it makes total sense for you to be labor buddies. I just think it's odd if you never had a BFPB to pick up a labor buddy later. Then you'd be getting their story and jumping in on their journey a little late.

Of course, there will be people whom you form a bond with who aren't your BFPB, like myself and my love, Bee. Wink

*Bee* · January 2009

Abc15379:
Of course, there will be people whom you form a bond with who aren't your BFPB, like myself and my love, Bee.

You got that right. Smile

ZacksBride · January 2009

i'm with you Niki- i don't see the need...but i'm not a true "regular" to the board either...

imaPrincess · January 2009

I never jumped onto the BFPB thing, not that I don't get it, b/c I do, I just thought that you should get to know the people around before picking a BFPB out of the air that you know nothing about. I thought there needed to be some chemistry involved, just MO. Not that I'm opposed to one Wink

nikinikinine · January 2009

happysong:
They're is supposed to be someone you can talk to for support and to share the journey with. Some people send a little gift when they get their BFP.

thanks happysong, but I would be an awful BFPB. I have a hard enough time keeping up with my IRL friends.

nikinikinine · January 2009

imaPrincess:
I never jumped onto the BFPB thing, not that I don't get it, b/c I do, I just thought that you should get to know the people around before picking a BFPB out of the air that you know nothing about. I thought there needed to be some chemistry involved, just MO. Not that I'm opposed to one

this I totally agree with. There are some people I think I click better with so the cattle call BFPB thing kind of makes me uncomfortable because I always feel like people will get stuck with someone they won't like LOL.

bat stafuny · January 2009

imaPrincess:
I never jumped onto the BFPB thing, not that I don't get it, b/c I do, I just thought that you should get to know the people around before picking a BFPB out of the air that you know nothing about. I thought there needed to be some chemistry involved, just MO. Not that I'm opposed to one

agreed. but you don't really "get" this point when you're first coming in. worked out well for me, but i've gained new buddies over time b/c of the chemistry.

speakin of chemsitry.... d.a.m.n. your pic is hawt. grr baby grr.

Abc15379 · January 2009

imaPrincess:
I never jumped onto the BFPB thing, not that I don't get it, b/c I do, I just thought that you should get to know the people around before picking a BFPB out of the air that you know nothing about. I thought there needed to be some chemistry involved, just MO. Not that I'm opposed to one

Hey, I totally agree, and don't assume that we all got our BFPBs by whoring ourselves out with a "Who wants a BFPB?" post. Some of us did feel people out for chemistry first. Just sayin.

imaPrincess · January 2009

batstafuny:

speakin of chemsitry.... d.a.m.n. your pic is hawt. grr baby grr.

that's how I roll...with the hawtness... Wink

imaPrincess · January 2009

Abc15379:

imaPrincess:
I never jumped onto the BFPB thing, not that I don't get it, b/c I do, I just thought that you should get to know the people around before picking a BFPB out of the air that you know nothing about. I thought there needed to be some chemistry involved, just MO. Not that I'm opposed to one

Hey, I totally agree, and don't assume that we all got our BFPBs by whoring ourselves out with a "Who wants a BFPB?" post. Some of us did feel people out for chemistry first. Just sayin.

I don't think that at all! I do see some "cattle calls" though and they are basically from people with under 30 posts. You can tell who clicks with their BFPB's and who doesn't.

ZacksBride · January 2009

nikinikinine:
happysong:
They're is supposed to be someone you can talk to for support and to share the journey with. Some people send a little gift when they get their BFP.

thanks happysong, but I would be an awful BFPB. I have a hard enough time keeping up with my IRL friends.

I hear that!

Abc15379 · January 2009

imaPrincess:
Abc15379:

imaPrincess:
I never jumped onto the BFPB thing, not that I don't get it, b/c I do, I just thought that you should get to know the people around before picking a BFPB out of the air that you know nothing about. I thought there needed to be some chemistry involved, just MO. Not that I'm opposed to one

Hey, I totally agree, and don't assume that we all got our BFPBs by whoring ourselves out with a "Who wants a BFPB?" post. Some of us did feel people out for chemistry first. Just sayin.

I don't think that at all! I do see some "cattle calls" though and they are basically from people with under 30 posts. You can tell who clicks with their BFPB's and who doesn't.

Totally. And there is a special place in my heart for people who accidentally become BFPBs with an AE. Cracks me up, but so sad.

nikinikinine · January 2009

what's an AE?

Abc15379 · January 2009

an Alter Ego.

nikinikinine · January 2009

ahhh, okay now what the hell is an alter ego? You mean they're bipolar or they have two sn's?

Abc15379 · January 2009

Haha, in some cases, probably both. It's usually someone who gets flamed off the board, or someone who is outright crazy. They come back with a new sn and pretend to be a whole new different person. There was one girl who did it twice( 3 sn's total) and the regs here caught her everytime. Takes some detective work, but it's pretty funny when an AE gets outed.

nikinikinine · January 2009

okie dokie. I didn't realize things got so intricate. I like to live in my naive newbie world Stick out tongue

Thanks for all the explaining (lucy, you got some splainin to do...)

Abc15379 · January 2009

nikinikinine:
okie dokie. I didn't realize things got so intricate. I like to live in my naive newbie world Thanks for all the explaining (lucy, you got some splainin to do...)

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Haha, no problem. Stick around, you'll be amazed at the level of insanity that people bring here. It's scary.

happysong · January 2009

Abc15379:
Haha, in some cases, probably both. It's usually someone who gets flamed off the board, or someone who is outright crazy. They come back with a new sn and pretend to be a whole new different person. There was one girl who did it twice( 3 sn's total) and the regs here caught her everytime. Takes some detective work, but it's pretty funny when an AE gets outed.

That's wild. Thanks for the info, ABC. That's a little scary.

tisk*notme · January 2009

ZacksBride:
nikinikinine:

happysong:
They're is supposed to be someone you can talk to for support and to share the journey with. Some people send a little gift when they get their BFP.

thanks happysong, but I would be an awful BFPB. I have a hard enough time keeping up with my IRL friends.

I hear that!

Ditto! Plus those "cattle calls" really irk me.

Also, I always think that I would be a bad BFPB if I have to get away from the TTC obsessing.

AJflowers · January 2009

batstafuny:

it's more personal.. someone you becomes friends with.. chat with, email with, mail surprises to. some even text or call.. and then send a gift when they get their bfp.

it's like having (almost) real friends on the board.

Tru dat! Sometimes you might have been trying for a similar amount of time, or even have similar issues.

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