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May 2016 Moms
Pascal86
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Postpartum Birthday Party!
Pascal86
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My due date is May 27th - although I'm basically planning on baby girl being late, probably early June, and my birthday is June 12th. I am obsessed with my birthday. I don't always do something super exciting, but I love celebrating and savoring every second of it as much as possible. This is going to be my 30th and I'm obviously not planning on a huge exciting thing, but still want to look forward to it!
So, anyone have any ideas on how to have an awesome birthday 1-2 weeks postpartum? Will I still be wearing a diaper? (Is wearing a diaper postpartum a thing? I'm not totally clear on this). Will I be able to go anywhere? Should my birthday party just be me watching Netflix all day? Who else has dealt with this in the past? Anyone else in the same boat?
So, anyone have any ideas on how to have an awesome birthday 1-2 weeks postpartum? Will I still be wearing a diaper? (Is wearing a diaper postpartum a thing? I'm not totally clear on this). Will I be able to go anywhere? Should my birthday party just be me watching Netflix all day? Who else has dealt with this in the past? Anyone else in the same boat?
Re: Postpartum Birthday Party!
i totally get where you're coming from, My 30th was a big deal. H planned a surprise party for me and it was awesome. I was about 4 mos post partum and I will tell you that it was a little stressful for me, even at 4 mos pp. I was nursing DD and was up at least 2x a night at that time. The suprise party was at 7 (or 8pm?) and tbh, by that time of the night I was tired and ready for yoga pants and a tee shirt. Sounds lame, but if you're a FTM, you'll soon understand, haha!
Do I think I could, or would want to do anything at 2 weeks pp? Hell to the no!
Honestly, if you have a vaginal birth you're still going to be sore, if you have a CS you're definitely going to be sore and either way you're going to need rest. Maybe I'm just lame, but I think unless you're a rockstar who needs no sleep and has time for all of that, I'd say wait. You can always celebrate your bday at home and then a few months later when you know what you're up against.
Hope this doesn't sound Debbie downer-ish. I just appreciate when people are honest with me, hoping it's ok to do the same. I really think your best birthday gift is going to be that little baby in your arms. Snuggles with your LO will trump any birthday party you can imagine
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
I wouldnt plan anything until you know how you feel, but I think going to dinner would be manageable!
Oooh, I like this thread! Our 5th anniversary is 2.5 weeks after due date, so I'd love to do something special but I doubt I will be up to it. Before we got our BFP we planned on going to Vegas for it, but it looks like it might be Netflix and lottery tix on the couch
DH turns 30 a month after LO is due, and I turn 30 the month after that. I LOOOOOOVE planning parties but I'm guessing that it won't be much more than a "come visit us" party, which won't be much since we live 1.5 hours away from most friends and family.
I'd say see how you are feeling at the time - if you want a mani/pedi and a blowout, do it! If you want to pig out on cheesecake and watch movies while DH cares for LO, do it!
I would agree that you'll probably want a low key celebration rather than a major event. Maybe plan to do a party next year instead and just enjoy your DH and new baby with some cake and champagne.
I would say do something low-key and all about you. It is tough to transition from "you" to "mom", but you deserve some time to pamper yourself. I agree with PP that if you can get someone to watch your baby it would be nice to have a quiet spa day or intimate dinner out with your SO and close friends. I wouldn't plan for anything big just because you don't want to push yourself too hard or set yourself up for frustration. And also, you hopefully won't be in diapers, but 2 weeks postpartum you might still be sore and healing depending on how the delivery goes. Some women bounce right back, but others need more time so don't push it. Take care of you and I wouldn't recommend planning anything too involved that can't be adjusted or rain-checked last minute, depending on how you feel.
I don't like to make a big deal about my birthdays and so I haven't had a birthday party since I turned 21, but I'm sure my H and I will do something special to celebrate even if that means a nice dinner and a movie at home.
At this point my birthday has become something we celebrate near the date, as long as we do something special I don't care what day it ends up being on. And it's a neat thing for my son and I to (almost) share.
Or plan something big for later. When my husband is deployed (3x now) we give ourselves a year to celebrate our bdays or anniversary. We celebrated our 10th anniversary about a month after our 11th, lol, but it was worth the wait!
Your 30th is a big one though! You know how when you're younger, you judge women for lying about their age? I realized after 30 that they probably aren't lying, they just plain forgot. I cannot remember how old I am without doing the math because post 30, it's like an age wasteland of nothing cool happening. For the record, I'll be 33 this year. And yes, I just used my calculator to make sure. My husband is the same way. He was doing an interview with the news at work, and they asked how old he was. He told them he was 32 when he was actually 33. He wasn't trying to lie. It's a bizarre phenomenon.
But last year I essentially didn't do a birthday because it was the weekend after my wedding shower and bachelorette party, and as much as I love my birthday, I couldn't stand any more attention OR planning at the time. But now I feel birthday deprived!
And random note on @laurenmdrn16 and @missnc77 - I'll be interested to see if I stop remembering my age after 30/having a baby. So far I've always been acutely aware of it! And the few times I've ever lied about my age, usually for some stupid reason/just for fun, I always lie and say I'm older. Don't understand why people try to pass for younger than they are, then they just look like they haven't aged well. Way better to have people tell me, "Wow, you look REALLY good for 35!"
At 2 weeks PP you'll likely be a hot mess still. Adjusting to your new life, hormones going crazy, leaky boobs (if you're BFing) and the exhaustion. You'll probably have many Netflix marathons by that time as well. I think if you're able to do it get out of the house by yourself for a mani pedi or whatever you like to do that makes you feel pretty and special. Then plan a dinner or dessert date for later that night. I'm suggesting you spread the two out because if you're BFing you're likely going to need to feed every two hours, maybe 3 if you're lucky so it wouldn't give you a lot of time for relaxing and dinner if you try to do them both in one stretch.
As as for the diapers...everyone is different. You may of may not still need the giant pad at that point.
ME: 35 DH: 39
Married July 2011
DD Born 8/12
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Now my first born has a bday when baby will still be very tiny and I always make them fun so I am also struggling with this question, I know for sure I will scale it down if I do anything.
And a big anniversary is coming up for us when baby will be 3 months and we usually go out of town driving for hours to go "camping" in cabins to celebrate every year and bring our LO and huge dogs. We are still going to do this as it was scheduled way in advance. But now that I think about it I want to cancel. But I would have huge mom guilt about that for my first born, who LOVES that trip.
Something easy like going out for a pedicure and maybe having an at home party that someone else helps out with would be totally doable.
I am so terrible with numbers, though I have trouble remembering, too: I was 27 for like two years because there was nothing memorable about the number 28. Am 34 now (for like three weeks) and I haven't yet forgotten. We'll see what motherhood does to that!
But also, I hate when folks say: "you don't look [insert year]!" Yes, I do, that's my age, and this is what it looks like. It's like they expect at thirty I'd have leather for skin and be permanently fused to my mom jeans, or something.