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Day care teacher advice needed

meganraschkemeganraschke member
in October 2015 Moms
My sons day care teacher is very opinionated (the political way to put it). She has a terrible attitude but I don't actually know how to resolve this problem. Day care is in my building so I am there frequently. I spend my lunch hour downstairs feeding him. Lately I don't feel like I am welcome there at all, to the point where I have contemplated feeding him in my car outside just so I don't have to sit there with them over th hour. it is important for me to not feel stressed when I am nursing and nursing there makes me feel stressed. She isn't ready to go when they open. They open at 6:45 and I have to be sitting at my computer at 7. Which is completely doable if everything goes right. But most days I am waiting until 6:50-6:55 until she is even sitting in the classroom! 
Which means the later I get to work the later I have to leave. I fight Houston traffic every day, every minute counts here. 

Last week she told me LO had started screaming. I thought that was strange because he doesn't scream at home. So I questioned her on it. 'Like because he wants his diaper changed? Or he's hungry? Or tired' nope just screaming she said. Two weeks this has gone on apparently and she first says something now!? If there is something different I want to know. 

This morning she was wearing her headphones when I came into the classroom and completely ignored me. I had to wave my hand in front of her face to get her to realize I was talking to her. 

I I want to talk to her boss but I'm worried she will just act out more. I also am not a confrontational person at all. Do I just go to her boss and talk about her being late and the headphones or do I tell her that I don't feel like I belong in his classroom because of her? I want to feel like I belong around the people who are taking care of my son 10 hours a day, that is important to me. 
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Re: Day care teacher advice needed

  • mbrenda12mbrenda12 member
    I would definitely talk to her first then if that does not work talk to her boss. If she's rude to you... Imagine her with the children. 
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  • AiramJAiramJ member
    Why is she being a nightmare?! I wouldn't want to leave my son with her acting out. I'd be worried she lets it out in my baby, especially when she says he has been screaming the past two weeks. I would definitely speak to someone. Maybe ask her directly what her issue is!
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  • SweetnSassy23SweetnSassy23 member

    Sounds like she's lazy and not doing her job properly. Wearing headphones while caring for children? That's ridiculous. You are paying for a service and she is not providing it to the best of her ability.  "Acting out" is a kind way of saying she's an irresponsible/immature person.

    It's great that the daycare is in your building. I would start popping by unannounced and document everything you observe. Document conversations with her, where you bring up concerns. Then go directly to her boss.  Your child deserves excellent care.  She should be addressing screaming concerns immediately with you, not waiting two weeks.

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  • dAsch14dAsch14 member
    Definitely talk to her! Tell her honestly how you are feeling. Focus more on saying "I feel like..." when you're talking with her so she doesn't feel threatened and shut down.
    You should always feel welcome to be at the daycare with your LO any time you want.
    If things don't change immediately (like by the end of the day) talk to her supervisor and maybe see if you can plan alternative care until you can have a sit down with the teacher and the supervisor.
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  • meganraschkemeganraschke member
    Thank you ladies! The only thing that worries me about talking to her is that she is confrontational and I tend to shut down. I don't want to bring something up with her only to feel defeated. I worry that if I bring something up without fully getting my point across that she will act out even more. I feel like if her boss knows there is a problem someone will be watching her
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  • SweetnSassy23SweetnSassy23 member
    Don't shut down if you can help it. Stand up to her and stand up for your LO. He deserves better and you shouldn't have to worry about the quality of care he is receiving.  You have to be your child's advocate.  If it helps, maybe you could write down your concerns so you don't get steamrolled. That will also help you to stay focused and not forget anything important.
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  • meganraschkemeganraschke member
    Thank you @SweetnSassy23 I just got done talking to her manager. I did write down my points to bring them in. I think I gave myself more anxiety leading up to it than I needed. Hopefully it gets better now 
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  • KBass85KBass85 member
    I fight Houston traffic every day too! Just adds to the stresses of the day!
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  • meganraschkemeganraschke member
    @KBass85 yes it does! 
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  • adurr119adurr119 member
    Hello, as a prior childcare provider in must say her behavior is totally inappropriate. She's on the clock at 6:45, so she should be ready to work. The headphones are totally disrespectful. She has a job because  of the parents whom enroll there. I would suggest a private meeting with her director. If you feel she's  confrontational, it could only get worse if you try to approach her on your own. She needs to be held accountable for her actions. This definitely doesn't sound like she enjoys her job, maybe she just  wants the money and  could care less on her impression to the parents. 
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  • meganraschkemeganraschke member
    @adurr119 it helps to know that it's not just in my head. This morning I asked her if she had diapers for my son and she just flat ignored me. She's always nice to me if someone else is around but if it's just the two of us she ignores me now. I genuinely do not trust leaving my son with her anymore. If she ignores me there isn't any part of me that feels like she doesn't ignore my son. I'm planning this week to make a few unannounced drop ins just to make sure everything is going okay with him. 
    I am shocked that she has kept her job for so long with an attitude like that. 
    She was on time today so hallelujah I was on time too. 
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  • meganraschkemeganraschke member
    Update: I did 2 random drop ins yesterday. On the first drop in my LO was in the same spot I left him in 2 hours earlier and he had peed multiple times in his diaper. The second time I dropped in she was confrontational with me. Needless to say we are in another classroom today. Thank you for all your support ladies! It really helped 
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  • SweetnSassy23SweetnSassy23 member
    meganraschke said:
    Update: I did 2 random drop ins yesterday. On the first drop in my LO was in the same spot I left him in 2 hours earlier and he had peed multiple times in his diaper. The second time I dropped in she was confrontational with me. Needless to say we are in another classroom today. Thank you for all your support ladies! It really helped 

    Glad you followed you gut and got LO better care. I would consider filing a formal complaint. Keep up with the daily check ins!!
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