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Working, traveling mom

lindseystanslindseystans member
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Well here we go again...my 4th trip since my LO was born. I hated traveling before and now? I HATE it even more. I get so anxious almost sick when I have to leave. I miss my baby so much. Any other moms in this position? I wish I could be a SAHM. For those who do stay home...did you leave a job? How do you and DH afford it? Did you cut back, sell house or what? I keep asking my husband to stay home but we can't afford it he says. 
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  • n3na94n3na94 member
    I'm sorry mama, I really hope a better job opportunity can come and with more flexible hours. Try talking to your company and see if they have an opening for a position that doesn't require traveling. At least you'll still be working and getting some money minus the traveling. I hope things get better!! Hang in there mama our babie a know we work to be able to provide the best for them! Many blessing your way and your family! God bless you! 
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  • VTomanVToman member
    I'm sorry! I have such anxiety leaving her at the nursery at church; I can't imagine how you feel leaving for days at a time. 

    I was a hotel manager before having DD. Hubby and I talked about it before and during pregnancy about me being a SAHM. With the cost of childcare, it just made more sense for one of us to stay home. Financially, we have no outstanding debt except for house payment. My salary would have barely covered childcare. And, I was way passed burned out and wanted a change in career. So, me staying home worked for us. 

    Sure, there is less eating out, less clothes shopping, less going to the movies, etc. That would have happened anyway because of having the baby and not always being able to get a babysitter. It's worth it, but only because it made financial sense for us. If it didn't, I'd have gone back to work ASAP.

    Is there maybe another position in your company that you wouldn't have to travel so much? 

    Good luck, mama! Stay strong!!! I know it's tough being away, but your doing what you need to do for your family. :)
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  • meq124meq124 member
    I became a SAHM after a month back at work. We never thought it was something that we could afford, but thanks the the horrible maternity leave in the US, I only had a month worth of PTO so two months were unpaid. Living solely off my husband's income made us realize it was possible and we wouldn't really be sacrificing too much. Prior to leave I had been on a saving kick to cover this, but we never had to tap into it. I never thought I would want to stay home, but towards the end of my maternity leave, my husband got a promotion which meant he was traveling about 2 weeks out of the month. I just couldn't keep up with the house, bottles, pumping, baby, and the dogs. I wanted to be fair to my job so I still came back, but gave them a month notice that first week.  

    We certainly aren't living as carefree as we once were, but it's definitely something that is doable. I was suggesting to a friend who is preggo and wants to stay home, but is unsure if they can afford it, to try living off just the one income. Worst case scenario they realize they can't do it, but they have her income which she was saving during the time to cover the excess. The best case scenario is they realize it's doable and have socked away a fair amount of money for emergencies!

    Good luck! I hope you can make it work or find a job that has you staying close to home, or even find something part time!
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  • kyrenorakyrenora member
    I suggest you do a google search for Mr. Money Mustache. It's a site that teaches you how to cut down your spending without sacrificing quality of life. My husband and I swear by it. I get to stay at home now, and he's still on track to retire before 40 thanks to what we've learned. 
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  • oneblessedmessoneblessedmess member
    edited February 2016
    I quit my job to stay home with LO when she was 4 months old. I was back at work for 8 weeks and the whole time I wanted to quit because childcare was eating up most of my paycheck and I wasn't sure the little I was bringing home after paying daycare costs was worth it. Then DH unexpectedly got a good raise that made up for what we would lose if I quit. So we got lucky. You are a great mom providing for her family! I can't imagine traveling for work, I don't have it in me lol.
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  • linzedeng514linzedeng514 member
    I am a working, traveling mom as well.  It's so very tough to leave for business trips - I now hate them!  But it's whats best for my family.   We are unable to live off of one salary.  I'm not sure how people do it!  But just remember, you are working hard to provide your baby a wonderful life!  You are showing your baby you can have a successful career, be a great mom, and be a great wife!  Someday I hope my child is proud of me - for doing everything I am doing at my career and home.  Best of luck to you!
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  • wheresilenceismusicwheresilenceismusic member
    SAHM here.  How do we do it?  We're piss poor, but happily so. :):)  DH makes ~2,500/mo.  We pay $800 in rent, $220 for his car, $200 in utilities, $120 for cell service, $60 for internet, and we try to keep food under $400/month and save for car repairs.  We do not go out to eat or for coffee or movies; we don't vacation; we don't buy clothes.  We hike a lot, kayak, bird watch, and have dinner parties with board games.  We cannot afford to save for retirement.  We worry about money CONSTANTLY.  I am only a SAHM because my husband is military, we were moved, and I had worked fewer than 12 months as an elementary school teacher before I delivered LO so I did not even qualify for FMLA leave (I had used my sick days for Dr's appointments while pregnant).  I paid off $50k of college loans and saved a nest egg before becoming pregnant (that we thankfully haven't had to tap into).  Being military, healthcare is free.  We are on WIC.

    If you have paid your college loans off… you can probably do it!  Just keep in mind that your lifestyle might be dramatically different.  And often we SAHMs *want* to work.

    However it works out, I'm sending lots of support & good vibes to you!
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  • dmd0830dmd0830 member
    I recently made the decision to leave my 50-60 HR a week job. One of the reasons being that they had asked me to travel more. It became clear to me that it was no longer the right fit. I gave them a month long notice they asked me to stay a little longer and I agreed and my boss has now approached me with the possibility of staying on in a part time work from home position. I'm shocked at the opportunity and am happy that everything seems to be working out. My point is it doesn't have to be all or nothing. If traveling is making you sick to your stomach follow your heart and you may be surprised with what different opportunities pop up! Good luck!!
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