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Crying: preparing for news of possible loss

alphaphi98alphaphi98 member
in September 2016 Moms

This week I've been a wreck. It started with going to my OB on Tues to see if my empty sac from last week was still empty. Unfortunately it was still empty but continued to grow to a 7 weeks size; probably a blighted ovum. Very round, empty, no fetal pole or yolk sac. However later they found a 2nd tiny gestation sac measuring 5 weeks size. It was not detected before. My OB says I definitely threw her a curve ball as this is uncommon. Although my blood work came back great and I don't have cramping or bleeding, I'm fearing the worst. If the 1st sac is not turning out well, I'm afraid the 2nd sac will turn out the same. It seems odd that 2 sacs would be so different in size anyways.  I broke down in tears last night fearing for the worst. My husband tried to reassure me that we still don't know everything and not to jump to conclusions. This pregnancy was not planned and was a total surprise anyways, so he tells me to focus on our TWO healthy toddlers that are the loves of our lives at home. If this 3rd pregnancy is meant to be, then we'll see.

I go back in two weeks to check everything again. It's the longest two weeks ever! And you girls have been so supportive with thoughts & prayers. Really appreciate your encouragement. Keep the T&P coming! I'll let you know if 2 weeks if it's good news or more likely if I have to say good-bye.

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  • JennM205JennM205 member
    Thinking of you and hoping for the best!  So sorry you're going through this right now and having to wait for definitive news.  Waiting can sometimes feel like the hardest part.  I hope you can find a way to distract yourself over the next two weeks so it's not pure torture.  (I know it's easier said than done but for your own sake, I hope you can find an outlet!!)  Keep us posted!
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  • vampirinavampirina member
    I too am thinking of you during this difficult time! I wish there was something I could to do make the wait shorter or easier to deal with. I'm sure this is so difficult. Keep us updated on your journey - I'm rooting for you!
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  • pilotswifeypilotswifey member
    Oh, wow. I'm sure thinking about you and sending good thoughts your way. 
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  • Sporty1216Sporty1216 member
    This is so hard. I'm sorry you are having to go through this and the waiting is awful. I'll join the others in saying I'm thinking of you, and hoping for the best! And I hope that you can absolutely find some ways to distract yourself. Sometimes time moves so slowly....
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  • mom2adoodlemom2adoodle member
    Fingers crossed for you! The wait sounds brutal! 
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  • reesaXdenreesaXden member
    Thinking of you.   You are in my prayers! 
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  • cassloumycassloumy member
    sending my thoughts and prayers your way!
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  • JessTy3JessTy3 member
    Thinking of you!  Waiting stinks...  I, too, have to wait two weeks to see if pregnancy is viable.  My OB gives it 40/60 chance...40 being good.  My betas werent great. although we saw a fetal pole and sac - it was measuring small.  I find out this coming Tuesday.
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  • RedMarRedMar member
    <hugs> mama... Hang in there!!! Keep us posted when you find out the news. In the meantime, try to do some activities with the LOs to keep you distracted! Not sure where you live, but indoor water parks are popular around these parts during the winter. 
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  • tinypikachutinypikachu member
    I'm sorry you're having to wait for news, it's excruciating! I would try to stay distracted and focus on other things. Like PP said, maybe plan some activities with the kiddos. And when the worrying thoughts come to you, remind yourself that all you can do is wait as (good or bad) nothing you do will affect the outcome. I've read your story and, personally, I'm staying positive. Crazier things have happened in successful pregnancies and your betas were great. It's way easier said than done, but try to stay positive.
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  • Ah825Ah825 member
    Thoughts and prayers for you! 
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  • PrncestaPrncesta member
    Prayers for you!  Waiting is so hard...We're all here thinking about you and praying for the best
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  • ThemaritimemamaThemaritimemama member
    Sending good thoughts your way
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  • sunshinern96sunshinern96 member
    Waiting and not knowing is just so hard...sending positive thoughts your way!
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  • alphaphi98alphaphi98 member
    Thanks for all your T&Ps! It means a lot. After my appointment last week, the dr suggested getting blood work once a week for the next 2 weeks until my next checkup. My betas 7 days ago rose from 115,00 to 140,000 after 2 days. However my betas were checked today (7 days later) and it plummeted down to 110,000. It's still high, but maybe my body has caught up to the fact that my sac was empty last week. I know this isn't a good sign. Now I'm just wondering if the 2nd sac they found last week will have the same fate. I'm prepared for the worst.

    It's so hard waiting 2 weeks until the next check up.  Thanks again for all your thoughts and prayers. Keep them coming! 
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  • Sporty1216Sporty1216 member
    Hang in there! I can't imagine how hard the waiting is....
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  • mhilpisch10mhilpisch10 member
    I'm so sorry. Waiting 2 weeks actually sounds like torture! Oh, I hope everything turns out good. Praying for a happy ending. Try to stay positive. Maybe start a project to try to keep your mind off of it. 
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  • MommaMacriMommaMacri member
     <3 praying for good news!!


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  • danielle1290danielle1290 member
    Sending lots of T&P, I know weeks can turn into an eternity when you're waiting for news like this. I'm really hoping things turn out for you!
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    Hang tough mama- sending positive T&P! <3


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  • alphaphi98alphaphi98 member
    Update: I just got my blood drawn again to check my betas and they totally plummeted again from last weekend. Last weekend it went down from 140,000 to 110,000 and this weekend it fell to 60,000. I know this isn't good. I have a bad feeling about this. Just have to wait til next Thursday's appointment to confirm that this pregnancy isn't viable. Thanks again for your continued T&Ps. I'll update you all again next Thurs. 
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  • RedMarRedMar member
    Sorry to hear the news wasn't what you're hoping for. Continue to pamper yourself and do something special with your family to get your mind off all this! Hang in there, we'll be thinking about you! <3
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  • Sporty1216Sporty1216 member
    I'm so sorry. I hope time passes quickly to Thursday. Take care. 
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  • alphaphi98alphaphi98 member
    Update: my doctor just ordered more lab work to check my betas before my appointment this Thursday. I just got the results and after another 3 days, my betas plummeted from 60,000 to 40,000. Sucks! We'll probably be discussing options at my appointment this Thursday. I'll update again when I know more. Thanks again for your T&Ps. 
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  • anneb644anneb644 member
    Dear @alphaphi98 - I'm so sorry to hear about your discouraging betas. I know you have two great kids but - and that's just my view - I also think it's important and ok to give yourself the time and space to grieve the kid that could have been. I'll be thinking of you (and, however irrational, hoping for a miracle for you on Thursday). Hugs.
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  • RedMarRedMar member
    Hugs and prayers to you!!
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    Sending you my love
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