Feeling really low...

Af2013nl · February 2016

Just found out I'm miscarrying...again. I just feel so empty and don't understand what's wrong with me. This is the third early loss (June, September, and now). I don't understand why we had no complications with my son but now can't seem to have a baby stick around more than a couple of weeks. Tried really hard not to get hopes up this time around, but doesn't hurt any less. Guess the next steps will be to call the doctor on Monday and see what our next steps are. Sorry for venting and thanks for listening.

cjs260 · February 2016

I'm so sorry you find yourself here again. I hope your doctor has some insight for you. Creepy hugs your way.

catiecatp · February 2016

hugs - I'm so sorry for your loss - hopefully the doctor will be able to do some testing to help you figure out what is going on

EALasagna45 · February 2016

I'm so so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself

BrightenMySky · February 2016

I am so sorry for your losses.

Kay6519 · February 2016

I'm sorry for your losses. I hope your doctor is able to provide some answers! Take care of yourself!

m6agua · February 2016

Sorry for your loss. It sucks. Hopefully you can get some answers from your doctor.

glamakitti · February 2016

Sorry for your losses. Hope your doctor can shed some light on what is going on

zrain · February 2016

I'm so sorry for your losses. I hope you get some answers. *hugs*

silentP · February 2016

I am so, so sorry to hear this! Please take care of yourself and I hope you get the answers you seek. Biggest hugs.

fivetimesnoluck · February 2016

I'm so sorry. That's a lot to take! You'll be in my thoughts. Be gentle with yourself.

Daisydoodle86 · February 2016

I'm so sorry to hear that sweetie

please take care of yourself, sending lots of hugs your way.

Af2013nl · February 2016

Thank you all for your kind words. I even tried to prepare myself for bad news this time around. Oh well. I know I will feel better once a little time passes. I haven't found too much related to recurrent early losses, so I will post if my doctor has any insight. I'm just hoping it is something that can be fixed.

beff12 · February 2016

I'm so sorry

I hope your doctor can help you figure out what's happening and where to go from here. Hope you can get some rest.

Pompomlove · February 2016

This sucks. Very sorry for your losses. Hopefully they'll check for everything and find something easy to fix.

Kbalas1018 · February 2016

I'm so so sorry for your loss(es). I know how painful it is. I have had 1 early miscarriage and then my next pregnancy which was 10 months later, I delivered my baby girl at 33 weeks and she only lived for 30 minutes because she had trisomy 13 (1 in 16,000 chance) and her lungs weren't fully developed. My heart is broken.
My husband and I for some unexplained reason had trouble conceiving on our own so both of our pregnancies were the result of an IUI through the fertility clinic. I say all this basically just to point out that sometimes it takes a little help. Sometimes not being able to carry a pregnancy is due to low progesterone and that will be fixed by taking progesterone supplements as soon as you find out your pregnant until about 11 or 12 weeks along.

Have you ever been tested for endometriosis or PCOS? These things can make it difficult but are fixable.

My my husband and I are going to try again and I just started taking Maca root. It helps to balance hormones. I talked to an herbalist and this is a supplement she highly recommends and has used to help many of her clients get pregnant and have a healthy pregnancy after infertility.

I think the great news is you are able to get pregnant. The losses are so so sad but I truly believe if you are able to get pregnant, with a little bit of help it's only a matter of time til you'll have a sweet healthy baby in your arms.

Fairhaven Health has a TON fertility herbs and supplements you can order. That's where I got the Maca and I also purchased Fertilitea.
I think you should focus on getting your body as healthy as can be. Ditch the sugar and try not to eat many processed foods, if you do. Take a probiotic, vitamins, lots of water.
I hope this helps in some way and again I'm sorry for you loss. Praying for you! Hugs momma!

mylittleversailles · February 2016

@Af2013nl My sincere condolences. What an awful place to be. I hope you're finding your peace and that every day is a little brighter. All my best.

ThePax89 · February 2016

I'm so sorry. Please pursue this with your doctor. Three pregnancy losses are unbelievable. I'm so sorry that you are going through this and pray that you get answers soon.

Af2013nl · February 2016

Thank you again everyone, and so sorry you are also on this same journey. Hopefully we will all get some resolution and peace soon. I have a doctor appointment tomorrow to hopefully get a jump start on some testing.

@Kbalas1018 I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine saying good-bye to a child after carrying her for 33 weeks. My heart goes out to you. Endometriosis and PCOS are two things I'm going to have my doc test for, along with thyroid function and progesterone levels. I will also ask about Maca, I hadn't heard of it before. Do you recommend powder or pill form?

catiecatp · February 2016

I'll chime in - I'm on Maca root too - MIL suggested asking the naturopath after I mentioned some hormonal issues (prolactin) and PMS. I mentioned it to the naturopath but she didn't think I needed it. After my MC with my short LP she started me on it - I take a capsule filled with powder in the morning.

queenklau · February 2016

I am so sorry for your loss. Miscarriages are so hard, and multiple losses can make it seem impossible. I agree with PPs, the outlook for a healthy pregnancy is still very good! I am glad you are talking with your doc soon to figure out the strategy. I had several tests after my second loss, let me know if you want to talk after you discuss options with your doc.
For now, take it one day at a time, because thinking about it all at once can be overwhelming. I send you e-hugs.

DinosaurJumper · February 2016

I'm sorry for your losses. Hope you are able to get your sticky baby soon. I know that there are some tools out there that can help with carrying to term, I hope they work for you.
Also, did all of your losses occur while under the care of an OB? I only ask because my first two happened before I got to the doctor (The OB prefers to wait until week 8 to schedule an appointment) My third made it to the office, and they literally rolled their eyes at me when I told them of my previous losses. Five days later I lost that one, and can't help but think that maybe there could have been a way to prevent it or something. Or at least feel supported.
Anyways, sorry for the rant. Creepy internet hugs and I'm so sorry we had to meet here.

Af2013nl · February 2016

@DinosaurJumper my OB wants you to be at 7-8 weeks prior to coming in. They did order blood tests to confirm loss all three times. Nurses first time were really supportive, second time not so much. Went in for an appointment today and they were super supportive. Got a bunch of lab work run today for blood clotting, thyroid, and diabetic problems. After next cycle will be going in for an inter uterine scan to see if scar tissue is preventing implantation from sticking. Hopefully will get some answers and game plan for a sticky baby soon.

cooaladoll · February 2016

So sorry to hear you're going through this a second time. I hope that something comes from your testing that allows you to resolve whatever is keeping you from full term, or at least perhaps gives you some peace of mind as to why and what is going on inside your body.

MissPrint1219 · February 2016

I am so sorry for your losses. As a fellow member of the "struck by lightning" club (3 losses here, too), I recommend asking your OB for a referral to a Maternal Fetal Medicine Specialist (MFM). They are far more knowledgeable in the management and treatment of high-risk pregnancies, and with 3 losses, you should have no trouble getting a referral. I'm still waiting for BFP #4 to put my MFM's plan into action, but I already consider it the best move I've made on this crazy journey.

Kbalas1018 · February 2016

@Af2013nl Thank you. She will always be part of our life and we embrace the grief because it means we gained our precious daughter. We are learning a whole new way of life now though and it is not easy.

I take 1 capsule filled with the powder daily. It can definitey affect people differently so it was suggested to me to start with a low dose and so far I haven't had any issues. I have hypothyroidism caused by Hashimotos (an autoimmune disease). So I have to be careful what I take.
There's sooo many different things that could be the cause of your losses. I do recommend getting checked out before deciding to take anything. Like I said before the great thing is you are getting pregnant and with today's technology it usually just takes a few tests to figure out what is going on. One of my friends had 3 losses and then she found out she had endometriosis. They performed an outpatient surgery and a couple months later she was pregnant.. And now has a handsome baby boy.
When I got pregnant the second time (my daughter) I asked to take progesterone supplements because I was using a $300 fertility monitor a couple months before that and it was indicating that my progesterone levels weren't staying elevated after ovulation which can cause miscarriages if pregnancy was achieved that cycle. So I'm wondering if that is why I miscarried the first time.
I know I'm being very wordy but I really just want to encourage you. What you are going through is very hard but don't give up hope.
I will continue to pray for you!

Af2013nl · March 2016

Kbalas1018, wordy is good. I like to be prepared for different scenarios and have different things to explore with my doctor. Just got the results of my blood work and everything looked normal. In about four weeks I am scheduled for an inter uterine scan. If results from that are inconclusive we will bypass the gene match (as we conceived our son without difficulty) and will be making an appointment with the reproductive endocrinologist. Hope to get some answers soon.

roxgibbons · March 2016

I am so sorry for your losses and the pain and upset you have experienced. I hope you are able to get some answers. Keep us posted. Hugs to you

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