PP sex

Blueyedsky · February 2016

Question: Does waiting a little longer after being cleared make the first time PP sex any better? Or should I bite the bullet and go for it now in the hopes that it won't hurt anymore in a couple of weeks?

Getting really nervous about this!

MissMheMhe · February 2016

I'm right there with you. We were cleared yesterday. I'm terrified it's going to be so painful. I had stitches in two spots and have this image that those areas are going to rip open, even though my dr said they healed up good as new.

Becky012016 · February 2016

I still have a few weeks until I'm cleared (I'm assuming ill be cleared) and while I want sex now I'm also super nervous about actually doing it again. I hope some STM+ can offer insight for us!

carlyhammond · February 2016

I went ahead the day I was cleared.
It was a little painful. Not nearly as bad as I thought it would be though.
I told SO to go slow which helped.. It's just initial pain it goes away.
But we have "done it" several times since then and I still have that initial sting.

failuretofly · February 2016

I was cleared for sex at 2 weeks pp by my midwife, (vaginal delivery, intact perineum) DH and I tried at 3 weeks pp and it was excruciating, I started crying almost immediately. I think part of the problem is I am still wearing liners 24/7 as I continue to have a lot of discharge and don't feel comfortable going without, so the skin down there is really irritated. I didn't have any internal pain, just external. I am hoping once I feel comfortable going without a pad/liner things will be better. Luckily, DH has been extremely understanding and is in no way putting any pressure on me.

BarrettJ89 · February 2016

After my son, we went at it the day I hit 6 weeks pp. I had 3 internal tears with DS, which had healed and I was cleared for sex. It was absolutely excruciating for me. We didn't get far. I was terrified and we didn't try again for about 2 weeks. It was much better for me to wait a little longer.
I'm pretty nervous about it again this time around. I had a second degree tear. I'll be 6 weeks pp on Monday. I know SO is counting down.

Lots of lube, go slow, and it may be better for you to be on top so that you have the control. It does get better though (got pregnant again around 12 weeks pp).

kaym6 · February 2016

I had a second degree labia tear requiring ten trillion stitches. I went in for my 6week appt today and told him it still hurt horrible and he said I have granulation tissue in a couple of areas and gave me estrogen cream to try for the next month. I was told not to attempt sex for minimum another month and while I can't even imagine trying it's still annoying. Anyone have experience with this? He said if it doesn't feel better in 4 weeks he will have to use silver nitrate which does NOT sound fun. I'm so frustrated ugh

Kimberlyain · February 2016

I was cleared at my 6 week and we went ahead and tried that day. Let me tell you, it was not the most pleasant experience ever. I suggest lots of lube and a patient husband

scornwell717 · February 2016

I don't know if being young has anything to do with it but I went for it 5 weeks pp (oops) and it hurt a tad a first but then felt fine. I had a 2nd degree tear and my stitches were all healed and my vag felt ok, I was just mostly self conscious about it feeling loose or that the scar tissue would freak him out

but I agree that it's much better to be on top! We tried him on top and it hurt me so we don't do that anymore (plus it's a good excuse to be in control

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Monilee1017 · February 2016

I had c-section and waited until I was cleared. It wasn't really painful we just had to go slow the first few times.

Moore2love2014 · February 2016

I'm 7 weeks pp(8 on Friday) and still haven't attempted to have sex. In still terrified of the pain. I want to and I know my SO wants too, but I'm a pansy.

Blueyedsky · February 2016

Attempted and it hurt too badly, so I think I'll just wait a little longer. Thanks for the insight everybody!

failuretofly · February 2016

Anyone have any insight as so when I should expect the post partum discharge to stop? I'm no longer bleeding, just tonnes of clear discharge. I could not get away without a liner and the constant rubbing on my labia is doing a number on the skin. I really want to have sex but it's all so tender from the pads rubbing I don't think I can.

alisongem · February 2016

My doctor didn't technically give me the all clear but she didn't say not to, at my 6 week visit. She said everything was good except I still have one stitch still healing, and to give it two weeks. Do you think she meant give the stitch two weeks or wait to have sex for two weeks? I didn't think to ask because I wasn't even thinking about sex huntil my husband was like "so can we do it now" after the appt. hahhaha

UptownPearl · February 2016

alisongem said:

My doctor didn't technically give me the all clear but she didn't say not to, at my 6 week visit. She said everything was good except I still have one stitch still healing, and to give it two weeks. Do you think she meant give the stitch two weeks or wait to have sex for two weeks? I didn't think to ask because I wasn't even thinking about sex huntil my husband was like "so can we do it now" after the appt. hahhaha

Did she make an appointment for you to come back at 8 weeks? If not, she was likely referring to sex.

BarrettJ89 · February 2016

@alisongem I would think your doc meant to hold off on sex. If a stitch is still healing, I would think (I'm no doctor) that means it is still an open wound and sex could cause inflammation/irritation or infection. You can always call the doctors office and ask for clarification.

alisongem · February 2016

@UptownPearl @BarrettJ89 that's what I was thinking (and kind of hoping) too! Lol. Thanks for your input!

Mamabeagle · February 2016

kvacmak said:

Anyone have any insight as so when I should expect the post partum discharge to stop? I'm no longer bleeding, just tonnes of clear discharge. I could not get away without a liner and the constant rubbing on my labia is doing a number on the skin. I really want to have sex but it's all so tender from the pads rubbing I don't think I can.

How many weeks pp are you? By 4 weeks pp I had just light discharge and at 4.5 I don't need a liner anymore. I'd recommend using the witch hazel pads when wiping to help with the discomfort, and trying to give your lady parts some air even if you have to sleep on a towel (only if it's light!)

failuretofly · February 2016

Mamabeagle said:

kvacmak said:

Anyone have any insight as so when I should expect the post partum discharge to stop? I'm no longer bleeding, just tonnes of clear discharge. I could not get away without a liner and the constant rubbing on my labia is doing a number on the skin. I really want to have sex but it's all so tender from the pads rubbing I don't think I can.

How many weeks pp are you? By 4 weeks pp I had just light discharge and at 4.5 I don't need a liner anymore. I'd recommend using the witch hazel pads when wiping to help with the discomfort, and trying to give your lady parts some air even if you have to sleep on a towel (only if it's light!)

Just 4 weeks today. I have some soaker pads left from my (attempted) home birth so I might try sleeping with those. Thanks for the tip

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