Sex? Husband rant

MamaGooGoo · February 2016

So I was cleared for sex yesterday. Attempted to initiate last night, but it seemed like my husband was tired and not into it so I didn't want to force it if it wasn't the right time. So tonight I tried again and made it more clear. He actually told me he didn't want to. Just said he didn't want to. I got upset and Got ready for bed and we didn't talk about it at all. He asked if I was mad at him and I just said no (you know, in that way where it's obvious that, yes, I am in fact mad at you). Ugh! I was put on pelvic rest around month 5 and between then and now I think I've given him maybe 5 blow jobs and that is it! He just never seemed interested whatsoever. You think by now he'd be dying for any kind of real contact, but no. I guess he'd rather jerk off alone in our bedroom while I continue to sleep on the couch so I don't wake him up when I get up in the middle of the night to feed our baby. I wouldn't be so upset over this one thing if I didn't already feel like he's acting like his life has been disrupted so damn much and his fucking complaining about being tired all the time when he's getting the same amount of sleep as before. God I'm mad. Insight? Am I being a pyscho?

scornwell717 · February 2016

Hell no you aren't psycho! Either that or I'm psycho too, haha. Forget about the sex, I'd be mad that he's complaining that he's tired when YOU'RE the one sleeping on the couch and getting up to feed the baby and he's sleeping like a little angel in his nice cozy bed.
But I can totally see why you'd be mad about the sex. If it were me I'd straight up ask him what his deal is!

LIly436 · February 2016

Not really a psycho, but...Just joking.
Often we expect men to behave like in a romantic movies. Maybe you thought, that he wants to have sex as much as you and he is just adapted to a different routine - a lot easier, then asking you. Give him time, inform him that you are ready, but don't pressure.
Or just buy a JackRabbit

danasphillips · February 2016

Yeah, forget the sex issue, he's being a complete dick in general. Try to have a conversation and be honest about your feelings, but it sounds like he has some growing up to do.

Monilee1017 · February 2016

Why are you sleeping on the couch? If he wants to not wake when you feed the baby he can sleep on the couch! But back to the point he is being a jerk. We aren't feeling good about our bodies right now, even if we lost it all we still don't look the same now that we have a floppy stomach. He needs to tell you how beautiful you are have and sex with you and deal with the fact that his life is NOT the same as it was before.

ondabianca · February 2016

I would be upset too. Sex is an important part in a relationship. That said, could there be a reason? Going as long as he has, maybe his body physically got used to abstinence? How old is he? Some men have difficulty as they get older? It could be something he can't control over and something to see a doctor for? I would wait until you are not mad anymore and calmly bring it up to see what the underlying reason is.

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