Weight at first US

kamroberts · February 2016

Hello fellow October Mommies!

This might be really silly and old fashioned but I absolutely do not want my DH to know my weight. I am tall (almost 6ft), bigger built, and around a size 10/12, so I weight more than the average woman. I doubt my husband would care at all, but I really do not want him knowing. I don't want anyone knowing my weight, let alone my DH. I have a lot of anxiety about it. Does anyone have any suggestions about how I can keep him from knowing how much I weigh? I know I could just ask him to not look, but I feel like he will!

Does anyone else have similar feelings to mine?

Thanks ladies!

von1976 · February 2016

While I don't have feelings similar to yours, I can understand because I used to be somewhat eating disordered and definitely had some body dysmorphia. I too am tall and weigh more than most people think, even when I'm in shape (which I'm definitely not right now).

I think if you mention to the OB staff that you don't want your husband knowing your weight, they won't announce it to him, and can simply talk in weight gained versus what is appropriate. Usually they weigh you straight off while getting your vitals, so you can ask your husband to wait in the lobby until after that's done.

I would encourage you to question why this is so important to you, and delve into whether this will affect the health of your pregnancy. For example, will you refuse to gain an appropriate amount of weight as determined by your doctor? If this is going to be an issue, I would suggest you seek counseling now rather than later.

kamroberts · February 2016

@von1976 thank you for your reply! I like the idea of having my DH wait in the lobby. I know that I am going to gain weight and I am really okay with it, I just would prefer to keep the weight gaining to myself. (:

PeggyOlsonFTW · February 2016

I highly doubt he'd be able to see your weight unless he was standing directly behind you looking at the scale. Those sliding scales are hard to read from far away and there's no way he'd be able to see the number on a digital scale. I'd try not to worry to much about it. DH had no idea what I weighed until I was in labor with DS because they asked me when we were in the delivery room.

coffee89 · February 2016

The nurse at my old OB never said the number, I could see it but DH couldn't. Seems the same with the new practice I saw today, no numbers mentioned out loud.

freckledlemonade · February 2016

I always had DH hold my purse/coat out of eyesight of the scale. He knew I didn't want him to see the number, and he respected that. To be honest after about week 16 I stopped looking at the number myself bc I didn't want to stress about it. I would think if you just tell him you'd rather he not see the scale he'd respect your wishes. I get where you're coming from. There was a point where I knew I'd outweigh DH and I was self-conscious about it, as silly as it is.

kamroberts · February 2016

Thank you so much @sidecarsareforbishes !
You really put my mind at ease. I was starting to think that I was absolutely ridiculous for posting this and for being so self conscious. Thanks again! (:

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