I have serious sinus pressure and I can't think straight! And my boss just returned from a week-long work trip so she's laying on the tasks like crazy. I just want this day to be DONE!
Also, DH decided to NOT go on his work trip tonight, and I was actually looking forward to the "free-time" to run errands and get things done around the house. I swear each task takes twice as long when we are both there. We each feed into each others lazy and that's just not productive!
My mom won't keep her mouth shut! I have told her and told her we are not telling people until after 10 weeks. She has already told most of her friends and work. I know they won't say anything and will be very supportive if we have another loss but I hate that she keeps running her mouth.
We told my Inlaws yesterday as a bday present to MIL. All they said was "well we hope it works out this time" (I had a loss last year). Seriously? I was so shocked I didn't say anything. Also, DH thinks that response is understandable and acceptable since I had a loss.
Me: 30 | DH: 32 Together since 2008 | Married 2012 TTC #1 October 2014 BFP #1 October 2014 | CP #1 October 2014 BFP #2 November 2014 | CP #2 December 2014 BFP #3 June 2015 | MMC at 16 weeks September 2015 BFP #4 January 2016 | EDD September 12, 2016 | Baby Ducks born September 5, 2016
@ducks6, that was totally inappropriate. They may have been well-meaning, but that's definitely something you shouldn't say out loud. A simple, "Yay! We're so happy for you!" would have sufficed.
I would like to bitch about my skin. Where did these zits come from!? I woke up this morning and my face looks like a middle-schooler's. WHERE IS MY GLOW, DAMMIT?
I'm frustrated with how things work in Texas versus Minnesota healthcare-wise. We had DS and DD in Minnesota and will be having #3 & #4 in Texas.
First off, why do I have to see two separate OBs simply because I'm high risk? I was high risk before and saw one OB through the entire pregnancy.
Secondly, why, according to my regular OB, hospitals in Texas are doing away with nurseries is beyond me. Oh, but every state is apparently doing that. Huh. I'm thinking I don't believe that. I'm told that this is to encourage bonding time and to prepare new moms for having a new baby around 24/7. I get it. But having the nurses take both kids for 3 hours at a time during the night (so i could actually sleep) and bringing them back so I could breastfeed was a GOD SEND!!
And third....I swear to Heaven above that the ultrasound tech that I had to see today will get smacked if she doesn't back the hell off! "Twins? Congratulations! Do you have any other kids?" "Yep. Six-year-old twins." The discussion progresses and she's told that I carried DS and DD to 37.5 and they were 6 lbs 4 oz and 6 lbs 12 oz. (I can't seem to get pregnant on my own, but damn it, I can grow them.) This woman proceeds to tell me that I'll be lucky to make it to 1 August. She's also in complete shock that they even let me go that long with twins. And I would never have been able to have a traditional birth so, of course, I had a c-section.
I am soooooo sick and tired of people like this!! I know things happen. I know some women aren't able to make it that far with twins. When people said things like this to me during my first pregnancy, I cried. Now it just pisses me off. Be supportive instead of being an ass. I did it before, therefore I have no reason to think I can't do it again. Ass clowns.
It's 35 degrees and pouring down rain. It's Monday and it's after 4:00 so my energy for the day has been spent. I just want to sleep, but I still have to go to the grocery store in the freezing rain with a toddler, prep dinner, and be at a rehearsal at 7:00. I just don't want to adult anymore today.
I need this Monday bitchfest like no other... I have my CVS testing scheduled for tomorrow morning. I scheduled it 3 weeks ago.. I've been a nervous wreck anticipating this date. H took off to come with me ( I am already off). I was give forms to fill out, and a paper to go get blood and urine sample for pre test tests. I went to the local Quest to take care of this two weeks ago, was told everything came out good. Then I get a call THIS afternoon telling me that my chlamydia test was not done when it was supposed to be ( think this was the fault of the lab). They said it had to be done within the last three months in order to do the test, so the one they have for me last year at my check up could not be used. (btw.. I do not have chlamydia - just part of the tests they need) I had to run out in the snow storm back to the local Quest to give a urine sample again and was told I may not be able to have my test tomorrow if they don't get the results in time. H and I are absolutely FURIOUS!!! I even called the hospital hysterically crying explaining that I need to have the test tomorrow, and that it's not my fault that the lab messed up. They basically told me I would have to call back tomorrow morning before I leave to go in.
Time is of the essence with these tests.. I made my appointment so it could be done at the earliest possible date. I am seriously losing it guys. I'm a mess.
Me:35, DH 37 ~ Married July 2014 ttc July 2015 ~ bfp Nov 2015 (cp) bfp Dec 2015 ~ (tfmr 17wk, March 2016, genetic disease) ttcal May 2016
I am fed up with the packaging of heat and eat foods. Like why do they all have that horrible metal tab lid that you have to pull off before you put it in the microwave? I can NEVER open one easily without getting soup/sauce/etc splashing all over me. I have been wearing beefaroni since 12:30 pm.
Had my first abdominal u/s today and damn...it felt like the doctor was trying to shove the wand all the way through my stomach and out my back. I'm stillsore 8 hours later.
And the images sucked. The babies look like shapeless blobs, not the tiny people I'm used to seeing.
Had my first abdominal u/s today and damn...it felt like the doctor was trying to shove the wand all the way through my stomach and out my back. I'm stillsore 8 hours later.
And the images sucked. The babies look like shapeless blobs, not the tiny people I'm used to seeing.
THIS!! Same thing happened for us this morning. I'll go back to vaginal ultrasounds at this point!
My complaint is the frieking weather. We experience extreme cold (-10) the entire weekend and I didn't leave the house for 3 days. Tomorrow I go back to work and it's supposed to be 50 degrees and rainy. Where the f*ck is the snow. We have had zero delays/closures this year. Unheard of in my parts.
@UnwritteN12 where in TX are you? Im in Dallas and high risk and have only 1 OB and had my son less than 2 years ago and there was a nursery in recovery? Unless maybe that's new, which I agree would suck!!
I'm so sick of being nauseous and tired. I thought I was starting to feel better, but today I felt like I was hit by a bus. I miss exercise and having energy.
@izzetoot - We're in Austin. I didn't even know there was such a thing as a high risk OB until now. I'll deal with the 2 OBs, even though that means appointments every 2 weeks, but the nursery thing is so upsetting to me. Maybe my OB is wrong and it's really just an Austin thing. I just know that, especially having twins, the nursery was an answered prayer.
Thanks ladies. My family has been really supportive. My mom and sis and BFF are super excited.
Me: 30 | DH: 32 Together since 2008 | Married 2012 TTC #1 October 2014 BFP #1 October 2014 | CP #1 October 2014 BFP #2 November 2014 | CP #2 December 2014 BFP #3 June 2015 | MMC at 16 weeks September 2015 BFP #4 January 2016 | EDD September 12, 2016 | Baby Ducks born September 5, 2016
@KarenBeth714 I'm so sorry you have to go through all that! Hopefully everything will work out. It's so nerve wracking and emotional going through testing and lab errors DO NOT help. Best of luck and hopefully everything will go well for you and your baby.
We we have our CVS scheduled for March 1st and they better not mess with that date!
@izzetoot - We're in Austin. I didn't even know there was such a thing as a high risk OB until now. I'll deal with the 2 OBs, even though that means appointments every 2 weeks, but the nursery thing is so upsetting to me. Maybe my OB is wrong and it's really just an Austin thing. I just know that, especially having twins, the nursery was an answered prayer.
The nursery thing is a thing at my hospital in Chicago. They still have them but other than taking baby for a bath, baby is with you the entire time. When I had my first, they took her out of the room to do hearing tests and other things, but by my second, everyone came to my room. I also saw something on the news about doing away with nurseries. Seems like the way of the future.
@KarenBeth714- what's the word this morning? Get in for the appointment??
@UnwritteN12 - I hear you on the nursery. My 1 year old is a singleton, but I had quite a bit of excessive bleeding after giving birth - luckily some extra meds up my rear helped stop that.. but because of the extra blood loss I was extra exhausted and really need a couple hours to focus on getting myself healthy and ready to be a mom. That nursery was amazing.
@izzetoot - We're in Austin. I didn't even know there was such a thing as a high risk OB until now. I'll deal with the 2 OBs, even though that means appointments every 2 weeks, but the nursery thing is so upsetting to me. Maybe my OB is wrong and it's really just an Austin thing. I just know that, especially having twins, the nursery was an answered prayer.
The nursery thing is a thing at my hospital in Chicago. They still have them but other than taking baby for a bath, baby is with you the entire time. When I had my first, they took her out of the room to do hearing tests and other things, but by my second, everyone came to my room. I also saw something on the news about doing away with nurseries. Seems like the way of the future.
My hospital encourages what they call "family service couplet-care", meaning mom and baby should and can stay together as much as they want. But they do have a nursery as well. With DD, they only took her at night so DH and I could get some sleep and when they did tests on her (until she was jaundice, anyway... then she had to go on bili lights). I breastfed so they would bring her to me every 3 hours or so. The first night I didn't want them to take her, but it ended up being a blessing. We both (DD and I) ended up getting sleep that I think, otherwise, we wouldn't have. I wouldn't be happy about no nursery either.
My hospital has a nursery but DS never went to it, other than for some tests. At night he stayed in our room and through out the day. Thankfully that night the nurses forgot about us and DS slept the entire night as did I in the room together. But, if he had been up a lot I would have called the nursery, I had been awake for 60+ hrs in labor so I needed the sleep to function
My little guy actually slept fine in the nursery, a couple 3 hour stretches and they brought him to me when he stirred to see if he wanted to feed while they did their tests. I remember the nurse saying "If he's really fussy, we'll bring him back" and for a good hour every footstep outside the door I assumed was him coming back. Not sure if we'll use the nursery or not this time, but it was a nice option - I gave birth near 8pm and he used the nursery the first night as we controlled my bleeding.. I don't remember if we used it the second night, but probably did for 1 stretch of sleep (3 hours or so).
Also - pregnancy symptoms can be so cruel. I'm peeing more often and with a heightened sense of smell. The women's room at work has become pure torture. The smells ... OMG. Like, I can handle normal bathroom smells - pee and poop I think I could hold my breath and survive, but the smells in this bathroom - do these women I work with have super funky vajayjays? Or is it a smell coming from the in-stall receptacles for tampons, etc? Whatever the smell is, it was bad before pregnancy, and now I'm in there 3x more often with my bloodhound nose. Ugh.
My bitchfest has nothing to do with babies or pregnancy.
I'm part of a local nonprofit, and the "director" above my position is being a major PITA. If I say I think something should be done X way, she always jumps on me and says "no it has to be done Y." What's really fun is a week later when others question why it's being done like Y, she totally changes her tune and says "oh no, I always thought it should be done X the whole time." She's driving me bonkers and it's making me not be able to effectively do my job because I have to keep changing the processes back and forth. Or she changes her mind and never communicates that and expects me to just know that she changed her mind. And if I try and ask her questions up front to make sure we're on the same page, she rolls her eyes and acts like I'm stupid and inconveniencing her for wanting to talk things out first.
It's making me what to take a Leave of Absence through the end of the year so I just don't have to deal with her anymore. I'm fine with different people doing things different ways and I don't need to always be right, but I literally can't do anything right by her. It's causing more stress than being involved in a non-profit should.
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32 TTC Since 11/2015 #1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
@UnwritteN12 Ugh - how frustrating to not be trusted with your own body! Have you considered going the midwife route? Of course no judgment however women choose to birth, and this is my first so I don't have experience with either, I've just heard many women say they felt much more empowered with a midwife then their OB/GYN.
My rant: I feel like CRAP. Depressed, exhausted, crying at the drop of a hat, unmotivated to do anything, bloated, nauseous, and covered in zits and a rash. Ugh. Where is my pregnant glow??
@Tennis11785- I totally understand what you mean! My boss has been incredibly micro-managy lately and she constantly keeps changing her mind on how to address certain projects and materials, which means that I constantly have to go back and re-do all the work. And most of the changes she wants make NO difference in the final materials or projects. She just keeps sticking her nose in for the sake of sticking her nose in!
@WildMama- I've got neck acne over here. It's glorious. I had it last time too - actually with wacky hormone levels on the regular (some form of PCOS diagnosis, but without many symptoms) I go from perfectly clear skin to fantastic neck/backne overnight. I'm too lazy to blowdry my hair and wear it down to cover my neck, so it's just out there. I HATE when people say "oh gosh! Your neck, I think you have a rash! It's all red!" and I'm like "no.. I don't.. it's broken out and I keep touching it/scratching it" ugh.
@AnnaS930 I hear you on the smells! I can't handle the normal poo smells but I puked one day at the horrible vajayjay smell! I swear the woman before me was a smoker or something. I am gagging thinking about it. I hold my breath or breathe into a scarf anytime I walk into the restroom at work now.
Married: 3/21/15 First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
@WildMama - Honestly, I never have fully considered it. I've heard the same thing about midwives. Both of my pregnancies have been twin pregnancies and I'm diabetic so I never felt that I could do anything other than a traditional OB. I've never fully looked into either though. On the plus side, my OB did not echo the ultrasound tech but instead sided with me on believing that I could go full term.
Also - pregnancy symptoms can be so cruel. I'm peeing more often and with a heightened sense of smell. The women's room at work has become pure torture. The smells ... OMG. Like, I can handle normal bathroom smells - pee and poop I think I could hold my breath and survive, but the smells in this bathroom - do these women I work with have super funky vajayjays? Or is it a smell coming from the in-stall receptacles for tampons, etc? Whatever the smell is, it was bad before pregnancy, and now I'm in there 3x more often with my bloodhound nose. Ugh.
@AnnaS930, I had the same issue! I'm fairly certain the receptacles were responsible. I would literally breath into my shirt to keep from dying. Can you keep some air freshener or something in there to spray?
Thanks for the support guys! Just to follow up, they let me get the testing done! As it turns out, they didn't need the results because they were able to do it through the abdomen, not vaginally. It was a stressful day but I made it through the process and now we have to wait 3-4 weeks.
Me:35, DH 37 ~ Married July 2014 ttc July 2015 ~ bfp Nov 2015 (cp) bfp Dec 2015 ~ (tfmr 17wk, March 2016, genetic disease) ttcal May 2016
Re: Monday Bitchfest
Also, DH decided to NOT go on his work trip tonight, and I was actually looking forward to the "free-time" to run errands and get things done around the house. I swear each task takes twice as long when we are both there. We each feed into each others lazy and that's just not productive!
Me: 30 | DH: 32
Together since 2008 | Married 2012
TTC #1 October 2014
BFP #1 October 2014 | CP #1 October 2014
BFP #2 November 2014 | CP #2 December 2014
BFP #3 June 2015 | MMC at 16 weeks September 2015
BFP #4 January 2016 | EDD September 12, 2016 | Baby Ducks born September 5, 2016
I would like to bitch about my skin. Where did these zits come from!? I woke up this morning and my face looks like a middle-schooler's. WHERE IS MY GLOW, DAMMIT?
First off, why do I have to see two separate OBs simply because I'm high risk? I was high risk before and saw one OB through the entire pregnancy.
Secondly, why, according to my regular OB, hospitals in Texas are doing away with nurseries is beyond me. Oh, but every state is apparently doing that. Huh. I'm thinking I don't believe that. I'm told that this is to encourage bonding time and to prepare new moms for having a new baby around 24/7. I get it. But having the nurses take both kids for 3 hours at a time during the night (so i could actually sleep) and bringing them back so I could breastfeed was a GOD SEND!!
And third....I swear to Heaven above that the ultrasound tech that I had to see today will get smacked if she doesn't back the hell off! "Twins? Congratulations! Do you have any other kids?" "Yep. Six-year-old twins." The discussion progresses and she's told that I carried DS and DD to 37.5 and they were 6 lbs 4 oz and 6 lbs 12 oz. (I can't seem to get pregnant on my own, but damn it, I can grow them.) This woman proceeds to tell me that I'll be lucky to make it to 1 August. She's also in complete shock that they even let me go that long with twins. And I would never have been able to have a traditional birth so, of course, I had a c-section.
I am soooooo sick and tired of people like this!! I know things happen. I know some women aren't able to make it that far with twins. When people said things like this to me during my first pregnancy, I cried. Now it just pisses me off. Be supportive instead of being an ass. I did it before, therefore I have no reason to think I can't do it again. Ass clowns.
Time is of the essence with these tests.. I made my appointment so it could be done at the earliest possible date. I am seriously losing it guys. I'm a mess.
ttc July 2015 ~ bfp Nov 2015 (cp)
bfp Dec 2015 ~ (tfmr 17wk, March 2016, genetic disease)
ttcal May 2016
And the images sucked. The babies look like shapeless blobs, not the tiny people I'm used to seeing.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
Me: 30 | DH: 32
Together since 2008 | Married 2012
TTC #1 October 2014
BFP #1 October 2014 | CP #1 October 2014
BFP #2 November 2014 | CP #2 December 2014
BFP #3 June 2015 | MMC at 16 weeks September 2015
BFP #4 January 2016 | EDD September 12, 2016 | Baby Ducks born September 5, 2016
We we have our CVS scheduled for March 1st and they better not mess with that date!
@UnwritteN12 - I hear you on the nursery. My 1 year old is a singleton, but I had quite a bit of excessive bleeding after giving birth - luckily some extra meds up my rear helped stop that.. but because of the extra blood loss I was extra exhausted and really need a couple hours to focus on getting myself healthy and ready to be a mom. That nursery was amazing.
I'm part of a local nonprofit, and the "director" above my position is being a major PITA. If I say I think something should be done X way, she always jumps on me and says "no it has to be done Y." What's really fun is a week later when others question why it's being done like Y, she totally changes her tune and says "oh no, I always thought it should be done X the whole time." She's driving me bonkers and it's making me not be able to effectively do my job because I have to keep changing the processes back and forth. Or she changes her mind and never communicates that and expects me to just know that she changed her mind. And if I try and ask her questions up front to make sure we're on the same page, she rolls her eyes and acts like I'm stupid and inconveniencing her for wanting to talk things out first.
It's making me what to take a Leave of Absence through the end of the year so I just don't have to deal with her anymore. I'm fine with different people doing things different ways and I don't need to always be right, but I literally can't do anything right by her. It's causing more stress than being involved in a non-profit should.
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
My rant: I feel like CRAP. Depressed, exhausted, crying at the drop of a hat, unmotivated to do anything, bloated, nauseous, and covered in zits and a rash. Ugh. Where is my pregnant glow??
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
And here's hoping that the glow shows up soon!!
ttc July 2015 ~ bfp Nov 2015 (cp)
bfp Dec 2015 ~ (tfmr 17wk, March 2016, genetic disease)
ttcal May 2016