Not asking for any medical advice just wondering what 2+ time moms are going to be attempting. I had a C-section with my first after being 10 days overdue, getting induced, being in labor for 2+ days, progressing to 9 cm and finally needing to be taken cesarean because my cervix started to swell. However I also had a 9lb 12 oz line backer. Hoping to go VBAC this time but I guess I will have to see what my body does...since with DS I had NO Braxton hicks contractions or signs he was ready to vacate his cozy home at all. How about you?
Re: C-section vs. Vbac. What will you do?
My 1st was due to fetal distress due to IUGR and Oligohydrominos. I basically had no fluid when he was born.
With DS3 I was going to attempt a VBAC but he also had IUGR an Oligohyrominos. They decided he needed to come out at 36 weeks. And since I was not dilated at all I just went ahead with a csection for fear of needing another emergency c/s. His delivery was so much easier than my 1st c/s.
This one there are no questions a c/s it will be. The only hospital that allows VBACS will not tie your tubes and I want to get my tubes tied while I am on the table. I also don't want to have to deal with an emergency c/s again ether.
My first was after being induced and being in labor for 15+ hours and then baby going into distress. I've thought a lot about trying a VBAC, but I just don't want to risk facing that scenario again. This time, I feel like a little predictability will be welcome (as much as that is ever possible when it comes to birth)! My OB said if I was planning 5-6 pregnancies, she would push for me to do a VBAC, but at 41, it's highly unlikely we'll be going for that many.
The most important factor is a supportive OB. VBACs are a pain in the ass for doctors, between insurance, hospital policies, and plenty else, and I think there are quite a few OBs out there who are supportive in theory but not in practice; "I'll think about it but VBACs are like a bus crashing through a paper wall" was one of the particularly good quotes I heard when I was looking for a VBAC doctor. When I found the right one, he was encouraging from the start and awesome from the first appointment to labor to post-partum. He gave me a hug when I first saw him for my current pregnancy and said "let's do it again!"
For or anyone entertaining the idea of a VBAC, check out your chapter of ICAN for a list of supportive doctors and hospitals. It makes all the difference.
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Married: 10/29/09
DD born: 11/30/10
DD2 4.2013 - vbac
DS1 9.2016 - vbac, team green
Baby #4 due 9.2018
With DS2 I had it planned but he came early and I went into labor again before the csection. Recovery was easier the second time around but I think it's because I didn't push like I did the first time.
In a perfect world I'd try for a VBAC but DS2 was over 9lbs and I'm pretty little. My hips/pelvis aren't wide enough and DS1 at only 7lb 8oz wasn't fitting so no way anyone bigger would fit either. I'm ok with a repeat csection, as long as this one doesn't come early and I don't actually go into labor first this time.
I really wanted to give it another try, with close monitoring during the third trimester to keep an eye on my fluid, but my husband said he can't possibly see me go through that again. It was so traumatic for me that I couldn't even discuss it for months afterward. I had nightmares that the baby didn't make it quite often. I couldn't sleep bc I was constantly checking to make sure he was breathing- If we had made it through all that I couldn't stand the thought of losing him afterwards.
So now we have moved and are in a new practice (and have given some scathing feedback to the management of the former practice) and we will be considered hi risk and will have a scheduled c at 39 weeks if all goes well. Now that I've come to terms with having a c and given up on a natural delivery, I feel very relieved and honestly I probably would have been absolutely terrified when it came down to attempting a vbac.
At this point I am open to a RCS and a VBAC, my doctor is supportive of either and I think I will make my decision as we get closer to delivery. I think size and position will help me make the best decision.
If my scar Didn't need to be revised I'd probably research doing a VBAC but I also don't want mess up anything else (leaky bladder, get a bad tear...) I already have the side effects of the CS. I don't need to collect all of them.
DD2 4.2013 - vbac
DS1 9.2016 - vbac, team green
Baby #4 due 9.2018