STMs + Did You Have a Trick Baby? FTMs Beware :)

ksrkim · February 2016

I read an article the other day about your first born being a "trick baby." It basically meant that everything went so well with baby one that you were tricked into having another, possibly too soon.

It kind of summed up my situation.

I have a two year old. He was our trick baby, he made parenting seem easy. He made us think we were good at parenting. Having another one of him around seemed like a fantastic idea.

We we were wrong. See, we conceived before the real "toddler" behaviors came out. Those behaviors are accentuated by the fact that he does not have his mommy and daddy to himself anymore. And the poor new little guy, he has tummy issues which make him pretty high needs. We are currently living in sleep deprived chaos.

Don't get me wrong, I love my boys and am trying to treasure them at these ages because it goes by too fast, but the joke is on me lol. DS1 was definitely a trick baby.

Sooo who else had a trick baby? Share your experiences!

JulieK79 · February 2016

This is what my friends have been warning me about since I became pregnant. My DS is 2.5 years old and is in general very happy and easy going. They kept telling me, "There's no way you're going to have two kids that are like that." My pregnancy was a bit on the dramatic side, but so far DD hasn't been too difficult. Because of what my friends have repeatedly told me though, I'm just waiting for her to become difficult or dramatic.

katy4128 · February 2016

Op: you and I have very similiar situations! My ds1 will be 2 in april and he was the best baby and for the most part is a very well behaved toddler. He spoiled us! People always said just wait, your first kid is near perfect and easy so you will have more!

Ds2 has been very high needs. We had to do homecare for bad jaundice, had weight issues, gas issues, changed formulas, er visit, chest xray, and now we are on breathing treatments for bronchiolitis. He sure is cute though and we love him!!!

Mizuiro007 · February 2016

We had the opposite. My first pregnancy was super easy but delivery was really rough and then DS had so many issues with intolerance and his weight. He hit the toddler phase super early. He's been fully walking and saying some words from 10 months and was climbing like a monkey before that. He was seven months when he first climbed out of his climb, nothing in there to step up on and mattress was at the lowest height. He's constantly moving and into everything so there's no break.

My second pregnancy made up for the first. But then my labor and delivery with DD couldn't have been much easier. She had bad jaundice and a rough patch from 5-9 weeks where she had awful gas and grew two inches but really she's not a hard baby at all. She's the trick baby. She has me thinking DS was the fluke, that not all babies are so demanding and that another one would be more like DD. I keep reminding myself it's a trap.

KRH6829 · February 2016

DS was a great baby. He is now in his terrible twos, but I know that it's just a stage. DD has also been a great baby so far. I can't believe how many people told me that DD would be a fussy baby since DS was so great. I found it extremely rude.

misamima · February 2016

Yes! DD is 2.5 yrs old and was an absolute angel baby. She rarely cried, and if she did, was very easily soothed. She STTN at 9 weeks, eats, and naps like a champ. She has DH's temperament, attitude, and patience. She's still the same way at 2.5. No signs of terrible 2's, but we'll see when she becomes a threenager.

LO is only 6 weeks old but I can already tell the difference. She's very hard to soothe. Cries all the time. We have to hold a certain way otherwise she screams bloody murder. Hates naps.

I always hated when people told me that #2 will be polar opposite of #1. They were right. And I hate them all.

cedixon2 · February 2016

My son was a pretty easy baby except for the colic phase. He was a little cutie with curly red hair to boot. Then he started school and his real antisocial personality reared its ugly head. In kindergarten, He trampled snowmen and kicked principles, drew pictures that had the teachers up in arms, and basically just refused to do any school work from 3rd to 6th grade. It was rough!!
Both of his younger sisters are perfect sweethearts though. Their teachers love them and were very easy babies.
Now I have these twins who are up every two to three hours even at 10 weeks old and I wonder if they will be sweet kids too or are going to grey my hair with worry and stress.

ksrkim · February 2016

It's funny, no one really ever said to me that this baby would be harder. I didn't read the trick baby article until about a week ago and thought about how it perfectly summed up my life.

Like @Mizuiro007, I've heard of others who have a tough one first, must make the second one seem like a dream!

@cedixon2, this has nothing to do with the post topic but I have no idea how you do that. My one baby is up every two hours and it is so hard. Moms of twins are all rock stars, IMO.

teachmegs817 · February 2016

A friend of mine was just talking to me about this the other day. She said to me, "Have you ever heard of the phrase;"

"If you had your second first, you would have stopped at one?"

I hadn't but her and her husband are having one heck of a roller coaster with their second. Their daughter was a breeze, but their little boy has been making up for that, and then some on certain days they say.

blended10 · February 2016

My ds #1 was easy for me but no one else.
dd is equally challenging/easy for everyone so I think long-term she might be overall easier but we shall see.
With ds 1 I was basically "it" for 3 years.

MomofEv+1 · February 2016

This conversation really cracks me up because everyone warned us that our second would be really difficult after having such a wonderful first child. In fact, we jokingly referred to this baby as our devil child in the womb.

If anything this one has been easier so far. My 3 yo had dairy issues that weren't fun, and made her a little fussy until we figured it out. They were both tiny at 5 lbs 6 oz and 5 lbs 3 oz so all of those issues were similar. Both had difficulties nursing because of their size but we figured it out.

I do not regret having them so far apart and I think that has been our real saving grace. Our 3 yo is very self sufficient and not at all jealous. Even after being diagnosed with cancer when I was 33 weeks pregnant, she has been such a great big sister. She is an amazing little girl and I have no doubt her sister will be too.

I better not be tricked into having a third. I don't think we could pull off this level of chill again. Haha!

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