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Having a rough day

chelseajeanenechelseajeanene member
in September 2015 Moms
I know I vent about my DH on here and you ladies never hear about the good stuff, but he truly is everything to me. His birthday was yesterday, so I took him to his favorite place to eat. He had Crohn's disease and he isn't supposed to eat certain foods. I'm usually really nagging him about what he eats because I don't want him to have a flare up..but last night I let him eat what he wanted and I didn't speak up. I figured it's his birthday so he should be allowed to have whatever he wants. Well here we are in the ER since 8 am this morning with the worst Crohn's episode he's had :'( I feel so guilty for not nagging him. I've never been away from my son this long before and I only had 2 hours of sleep so my anxiety is off the charts. I've always slept in the hospital with him during these flare ups and I've never left him. We've never slept apart and knowing I have to leave is killing me. I miss my baby but being away from either one of them is so hard. I'm scared I'll have a panic attack when I'm home alone with the baby :( I just hate this 
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    tlc11934tlc11934 member
    I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your H.  Your H is in good hands at the hospital.  Can your mom or someone stay with you while you're alone with your LO?  Hugs.
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    cait040415cait040415 member
    Oh no :( hugs!!! I wish i knew what to tell you. I get serious anxiety when I'm home alone with LO overnight, too. Try not to feel too guilty, it's really hard to have to take on the responsibility of someone's illness, especially when you just want them to have a sense of normalcy! You are doing your best! You're a great mom and a great wife; hang in there and keep us posted!
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    chelseajeanenechelseajeanene member
    Thanks ladies❤️ I broke down for awhile once I got home, but I took my anxiety medicine and tried to distract myself with the baby and funny tv shows. I'm texting him in between him sleeping but it just sucks. I don't want to sleep in my bed without him, I'm contemplating just sleeping on the cough so it won't be as hard. Times like this just makes me appreciate the man I have. He's my rock and he does so much around here. Little things that I don't even realize, like he's the one who feeds our pets and makes the bed for us. I hope he doesn't have to stay overnight too many days 
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    squidlydoosquidlydoo member
    This hits really close to home at this point and I hope this doesn't come across in the wrong way. 

    My view on Crohns has changed immensely in the last month. Crohns is nothing to mess around with and he should be so thankful of your reminders. We just lost my sister in law due to complications to Crohns on jan.17th (not even a month ago :() due to her not following the diet properly and just eating whatever. He may view it as nagging, but it shows how much you love him!! I wish we could be 'nagging' her on what foods she should be eating, but we can't :(. 
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    BrandiLaw87BrandiLaw87 member
    edited February 2016
     @chelseajeaneneHugs to you! My brother has crohns and it can definitely get scary. I hope he feels better and comes home soon. He is very lucky to have you looking out for him. I can't sleep when DH is away either. Try to get some rest anyways!

    @squidlydoo Sorry for your loss, that is pretty devastating. 
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    squidlydoosquidlydoo member
    BrandiLaw87 said:
     @chelseajeaneneHugs to you! My brother has crohns and it can definitely get scary. I hope he feels better and comes home soon. He is very lucky to have you looking out for him. I can't sleep when DH is away either. Try to get some rest anyways!

    @squidlydoo Sorry for your loss, that is pretty devastating. 
    Hugs to you all!! It can be a scary disease!! I'm definately thinking about you @chelseajeanene. My thoughts and well wishes are with you and your family!!
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    chelseajeanenechelseajeanene member
    @squidlydoo I'm sorry for your loss :( it's such a scary disease. His flare up happen without warning so we're always blindsided by it. He hasn't had one since before I was pregnant, so we'll over a year now. Was she taking her medications regularly or just not caring?
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    squidlydoosquidlydoo member
    chelseajeanene said:
    @squidlydoo I'm sorry for your loss :( it's such a scary disease. His flare up happen without warning so we're always blindsided by it. He hasn't had one since before I was pregnant, so we'll over a year now. Was she taking her medications regularly or just not caring?
    She went into remission and got the flu in October and it came back worse than it ever was. She kept it secret until 2 weeks before passing. She was taking some medications but was waiting to see a specialist. She wasn't following the diet at all and her boyfriend wasn't helping to keep her accountable either. 
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    chelseajeanenechelseajeanene member
    @squidlydoo that's so tragic and scares me so much :( he does take his medications but his problem is that he thinks if he's taking his medicine, that he can eat whatever he wants 
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    CraftyMommy14CraftyMommy14 member
    edited February 2016
    Hope your hubby is feeling better soon and that you and baby are managing ok without him home! That's a lot of stress on you, sending hugs and hoping for a speedy recovery :) You're doing such a good job taking care of both your guys!
    @squidlydoo, so sorry for your loss. What a very sad story.
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    chelseajeanenechelseajeanene member
    Thanks for all the hugs ladies ❤️ Not having him here last night was extremely tough. I woke up every hour and 2 of them were to panic attacks, it was terrible. I slept with the lights on lol and cuddled my little guy all night. My DH had to have a tube put in through his nose that led to his stomach, to stop his vomitting but they removed it this morning. I'm upset because I can't go see him today, it's too cold to take the baby out. The windchill is making it feel like 1 degree. Trying to stay strong 
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    akg629akg629 member
    Hang in there mama!! I know how you feel on a similar level. My husband has gout (not as severe as chron's, I know) but he has to be so careful with what he eats and drinks. I am always nagging him when I know he is eating something that will trigger an attack, he gets annoyed but then realizes that I only do it because I care.

    I hope your husband feels better soon and can come home. When you're used to sleeping with someone all the time it's hard when they aren't there. Hugs to you!!!! 
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    chelseajeanenechelseajeanene member
    edited February 2016
    I got to bring him home tonight :)
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