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Am I wrong? Help

mbrenda12mbrenda12 member
in October 2015 Moms
Ok so my cousin in law (Jane) had been trying to feed baby solids (cookies, chips, ice cream, coke and etc) for about a month. LO is only 3 months and 2 weeks. Two weeks from Sunday all my family got together to play bingo and Jane tried to feed LO a cookie I told her to stop seconds later she crumbled the cookie and placed it inside LO mouth. I quickly jumped up cleaned his mouth and yelled and when I mean I yelled I yelled with an attitude... I said WTH Jane why are you feeding him, stop geez I had told you not too!!!! She laughed and said oh listen to her (directing herself to everyone else in room) listen to the teacher she said not to feed the baby, she kept laughing. FYI I'm not a teacher but I do tutor all my family's kids. So with an attitude I said well fck he's not your son go try to feed your kids and leave mine alone. 

She hasn't spoken to me since. We see each other almost everyday. I have said hello, goodbye and she just ignores me. 


Was I wrong?! Should I apologize? I need help. 
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  • kaylerjeankaylerjean member
    I probably would have reacted the same way. You specifically told her to stop and she continued anyways. I would have been livid. Especially considering how young LO is. 
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  • danniellemichelledanniellemichelle member
    edited February 2016
    Totally not wrong I probably would have freaked out even more ...

    I'm sorry that you even had to go through that ... This makes me so mad ... The nerve of some people :angry:     
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  • AiramJAiramJ member
    What the hell! Does she have issues?? Why is she trying to feed your baby?! Who does that! And chips, Coke and ice cream?! That's no diet for a baby! You were totally right to scream at her. 
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  • indylardelliindylardelli member
    no way it's your child so what you says goes, that's disgusting her trying to feed your child all that rubish 
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  • jmelodijmelodi member
    Omg!! I would've freaked out too! My FIL always joked with giving my LO a cookie and I think he got the message when I gave him a death glare every time! 
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  • mbrenda12mbrenda12 member
    I know but this time my death stare did not work. 



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  • kdoak2015kdoak2015 member
    Nope she's crazy but I'd apologize to be the bigger person.
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  • momma2charmomma2char member
    I wouldn't apologize. You're the mother and what you say goes. She should know better than to disrespect you and your parenting decisions - especially since you told her right before she did that. I can imagine her going against your parenting decisions again later in your LO's life behind your back. Id stand your ground and be firm with what she shouldn't be doing with your LO but keep being polite with your communication with her
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  • wack0032wack0032 member
    I agree with J1D. Your baby could have choked and died. I would point that out and ask her to apologize. Completely unacceptable.
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  • CasseylemonCasseylemon member
    I'd be glad if she was ignoring me...
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  • J1DJ1D member
    mbrenda12 said:
    Well at first I was a little upset that she wasn't speaking to me. But now I'm not f that. My kid could have died. I'm glad I stopped and stood up for myself now I realize I don't need toxic people in our lives 
    Preach!!!
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  • sarapagansarapagan member
    NONONONONONONONO apology necessary! 
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  • MariahOBrienMariahOBrien member
    Ew. No, you're not wrong at all. That's actually fucking foul, dangerous, and makes zero sense to me. 

    Honestly, I'm proud of you for speaking up and teaching that woman a lesson. 
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  • amwright33amwright33 member
    I would have also freaked out and yelled too. I have already made it clear that I will be the only feeding my daughter solids and am not afraid of keeping my daughter away from anyone who disrespects that decision. 
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  • nianicho777nianicho777 member
    I would have flipped my s:#t on her!! Also if she was ignoring me I wouldn't even be nice enough to continue to speak to her after she disrespected my wishes....who gives that stuff to a friggin baby??
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  • Knottie35278873Knottie35278873 member
    I wish anybody could explain to me what's up with people wanting to feed other people's babies foods that they shouldn't be eating and trying to pressure the parents into allowing it and making the parents feel dumb for not being okay with it. My sister allows my mom to put cookies in my nephew's mouth (he's 5 days older than my son, and my son is 17 weeks old) and candy canes and pickles and pizza sauce so he can suck on it. Which I mean I'm not going to judge, it's not my child. But then everyone is like "okay now let's try Aiden (my son)" and I'm like "no he's okay, he doesn't need that stuff" . And my mom is always asking every time she sees me "so has he tried any real foods yet". Then I go visit my distant family and my grandma is trying to feed him doughnuts and a candy cane and they're like "your sister let us do it though (with her son)" and it's just frustrating. And my in laws are always talking about giving him different foods and asking when I'm going to give him real food and I'm like "uhm maybe when he's not only 4 months". I truly don't get why everyone is so pressed on what I feed my child and why they feel it's their place to give him stuff he doesn't need! I've had to get sassy with so many people over giving my son foods that he shouldn't have lol. So don't feel bad!!! I totally feel your pain. I wouldn't apologize if I was in your position! 

    Sorry for the rant lol
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  • mbrenda12mbrenda12 member
    @Knottie35278873 thanks for understanding luckily this is the only person who has tried to feed my son. You have it hard. 
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  • waltersmom83waltersmom83 member
    Wtf is wrong with people? If she can't respect your decision and rights for your child then she shouldn't have the joy to be around him. What a pshyco. 
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