Just got the blues and need to talk it out (thanks, pregnancy hormones!)

kes0028 · February 2016

Hi all,
I've been feeling so nauseous day in and day out that I'm starting to feel depressed over it. I feel like I'm not being a good mom to my toddler, because all I want to do is lay on the couch and check out emotionally and physically. I feel that bad. I'm barely able to function right now, much less do everything I'm supposed to do like laundry, cleaning, grocery shopping, etc. It all seems soo hard with how I feel. My husband has been phenomenal in helping, but he's a student and works full time, so I know it's wearing on him.

I think another thing that is hard is that this pregnancy is making me feel soo ugly. I've already gained 8 lbs from the water retention and bloating, and there is nothing "glowing" about me right now at all. My skin is super dry, I feel fat, I'm nauseous, constipated, excessively thirsty, I have to pee every second, I feel foggy brained and just BAD. Anyway, thanks for listening; at least someone out there might understand, too! I'm excited about my first sonogram on Friday, I need to see the baby and have a visual reminder as to why I'm suffering through all this!

quailbeach · February 2016

Hugs! The first trimester sucks balls. I hope we all start feeling a bit better as the second trimester appraoches!

bornmommy · February 2016

I hear you about the mommy guilt. I'm dreading the exhaustion that tags along around 7-9weeks for me. With two toddlers literally fighting over me (we have "MY MOMMY!" wars going on all the time over here) I feel like I might start yelling before I even get out of bed.

My advice - cut yourself some slack. I know it's easier said than done but sometimes "just okay" is good enough. Sometimes remembering to wear a shirt is the best part of the day and hey! You weren't topless today in public! High five!

I got nothing when it comes to the weight/water retention. I can't button my pants already. Granted, I never fully lost my baby bump from the last one. I'm in full acceptance of spandex pants forever and ever now. Come join me on the dark side.

Seriously though - Hugs mama. You'll get through. We all somehow do.

kes0028 · February 2016

Thanks so much for the encouragement! I know the first trimester is the price we have to pay for a beautiful baby. And I didn't lose my last bump, either! That's why I look 3 months pregnant right now when I'm only 6 weeks, 3 days!

lilbabybrown · February 2016

I totally feel your pain! I have a toddler as well and last night while he played, I literally laid on the floor while he played around me. I have those days where I feel like a slacker mommy! And I'm currently sitting at my desk at work saying to myself, "Don't throw up, don't throw up." I too already have "the belly" since I didn't lose the last 10 lbs of baby weight with my first. Not great when you're trying to hide it from your coworkers!

But like others have said, all we can do is try to stay positive and look forward to the amazing gift we'll get at the end of all of this (cheesy as that sounds, it's true). Even the awful side effects can be a positive thing - for me, it gives me assurance that things with the baby are "okay". My sister never had morning sickness and felt great her first trimester. She went on to have a healthy baby, but she was worried 24/7 that something was wrong because she felt so good. And the 2nd trimester is just around the corner...here's to feeling better and getting back our energy!

Hugs to you!

mamajen10414 · February 2016

I hear you. I'm 6wks 4days, so really close to you! And I have a two year old son. The other day I broke down and just cried to my husband. I don't even know what I want to make myself happy anymore. And most days I'm just a bump on the couch and my son plays by himself and I have major mom guilt.

Im so over feeling nausous and exhausted and just miserable. It's making me depressed, which is not me at all. I'm usually a pretty happy go lucky person. Not a bump on the couch. If you need to talk feel free to msg me, sounds like we have a lot of similar symptoms and having a toddler.

Feel better

alysie89 · February 2016

Hugs. Feel your pain, I have an 18 month old and a three year old.

I'm feeling the foggy brain and nausea and they not want to get out of bed. It's been so hard to get motivated to do anything. Also I put on about eight pounds as well water retention.

Just remember that you're a great mom, and it's okay to need to take a break. The first trimester is such a short time and honestly there's nothing wrong with just needing to spend a bit of time on the couch. Some mornings paw Patrol and I co parent. One of the things I started doing my kids is setting up before I go to bed a small activity or craft on a little table for them so that when I wake up they have an activity to do and I can have 30 minutes to wake up and start to feel human. I hope you start to feel better soon

Lauren0216 · February 2016

Aw, hugs! Hormones stink in the first trimester! Don't be so hard on yourself. Your toddler is just fine playing solo for a little while you rest on the couch. Right now, it is important that you take care of yourself and that growing baby. Have you talked to your dr? Mine was ready for write me a script to help with the morning sickness, but I told her that I'd wait a little longer and try to stick it out. Try scheduling an appointment just to talk about it with your dr. Hope seeing that sonogram helps brighten your day!

kes0028 · February 2016

Thank you everybody for the encouraging words. It's nice to know I"m not alone with how I feel!!!!

kelbell182 · February 2016

This is my first baby, but my sister has 3. One of the fist things I said to her after telling her I was pregnant was that I don't know how she managed to be a mom and be pregnant at the same time. I don't have any advice but you do have my admiration. Hang in there!!

Koalamomma3 · February 2016

So sorry you are feeling so awful, momma! This was me with my last pregnancy, I had a 15 month old and a three year old and my MS and fatigue were just the worst. It was a very rough first 6 weeks and I just felt completely good for nothing. I am also very independent, and hate asking for help so I was all around miserable. I felt so bad because there were a few days that all I could do with my girls was lay in bed with them and read books, but it actually made some really sweet memories. The best thing you can do is tell yourself what an awesome mom you are for taking it easy for your little growing babe. And raising a toddler is rough enough without being pregnant, you are doing just fine!

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