Hello! I'm new at this.

KirstenCas · February 2016

I'm going for my first IVF consultation next week, I'm nervous and I don't know what to expect. I've been reading so many supportive and informative posts on this board, I'm hoping you ladies might have some advice or possible some questions I should ask my doctor. I feel slightly embarrassed that i don't know my level of this and that. I'm hoping to learn a lot more.

DH (I'm trying to get used to the acronyms

and I have been TTC for 18 months and have been with a clinic since Sept 2015. He has a situation that is making IVF the only option for us, that being said I'm 40 and only responded mildly to very high doses of clomid and femara. This would be bb#1 for both of us.

I'd appreciate any advice. I also welcome any etiquette suggestions, I'm acutely aware of how sensitive the topic can be.

dragonfaerie · February 2016

@KirstenCas Welcome! I'm still learning acronyms too! The first post by the site has a list of helpful info. Don't feel bad about not knowing anything up front, that's what the doc is for! Don't be afraid to ask a ton of questions. I'm constantly asking why he chose that protocol, what that med does, what I can expect, etc. One thing I have definitely learned from all this is to not wait to ask for help. Having a strong support structure that you can lean on is so important. We're here for you too!

cmm012 · February 2016

Welcome to the group. I hope you have a quick and successful IVF journey.

LynnNJ · February 2016

Welcome. I am sort of new to this group too. I posted one time back in July and hope to follow the message boards more now that my situation is slightly different. I just finished my 3rd (back-to-back) retrieval cycle. The transfer will hopefully be within a month. I am 42 now and do not have any other children.

I would ask the doctor anything you are unsure about. Also find out if your husband has questions. It has been stressful when my DH would ask me the questions and this would put a lot of pressure on me. Sometimes the timing was not good.

I also hope to pick up on the etiquette so I can't really help with that.

2legbaby · February 2016

The first consultation can be really overwhelming, DH nearly passed out while the doctor was just going over everything

Ever since then he has been "that guy" to all the nurses and they make him lie down for blood draws just in case

We asked the doc if we could record the discussion, so that way we could go back and remember everything that was discussed. Make sure to write down all your questions and at the end of the consult go through and make sure they have all been answered. Don't be nervous about asking too many questions....you are going to be paying a lot of $$$ you need to feel comfortable that you have all the info you need. We had oodles (I mean oodles) of blood tests performed the first day so be prepared for that as well.

Good luck to you next week!

tvh1982 · February 2016

I agree with the above, ask ask and ask.
Anything that pops up, ask about it.
And don't forget to stop your RE once in a while to ask them to give more details/take it slow. As for them it's something they do on a day to day basis, but for you it's the first time.
Make sure you are comfortable with everything they do, tell you and will be doing to you. If mamma ain't happy, no one is. So that you leave the office and feel comfortable with the plan they have in mind.
GL in your journey!

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