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How to politely tell friends or family to stop ...

Rach8672Rach8672 member
in January 2016 Moms
Luckily my family is overly cautious with my LO and doesn't take her without asking. They do offer a million times to feed her etc but I'm fine with telling my parents what I'm thinking.  However , how do you politely tell in-laws or friends no or not to do something with LO. It seems everytime I have a friend over (whom doesn't have a child) they always do something with my baby that erks me ! For example picking up baby without asking , without washing hands , sticking thier finger in her mouth as a pacifier ... Like Wth ! Any suggestions  ???  Im Not a hard ass but Im going to have to step up and speak up for my baby ! 
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  • BarrettJ89BarrettJ89 member
    I've given up being nice to FIL. He's really the only one I have problems with. He's a heavy, heavy smoker and I'm severely allergic to cigarette smoke. He comes over unannounced, smokes on my porch, then tries to rip my kids from my arms. No. Not happening. He tried taking food off of my 14 month old's tray and hand feeding him! Definitely not, get your grimy hands away from my (already sick) child's mouth! He also insists on taking pictures of my kids in just their diapers. Again, no. I have resorted to being a super blunt bitch with him. He just doesn't get it...
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  • mrsgetz4000mrsgetz4000 member
    I'm a huge fan of honesty
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  • MissMheMheMissMheMhe member
    Don't worry about being polite! You have to speak up for your LO. We have a giant bottle of hand sanitizer on our coffee table and the first few times people came over we would just point to the bottle when they asked about holding him. Now, it's the first thing they go to after stepping into the house! Does your LO take a paci? Offer it to whoever is holding her when they offer their finger....that's just gross unless you are mom or dad I think lol.
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  • Rach8672Rach8672 member
    It seems there is no offering there's just doing !!! I guess I just have to hawk people when they are holding her !! I'm definately going to start pointing people to the hand sanitizer right away and then maybe that will set the tone for them to be more cautious .  Some of the things people do is so crazy !! I'm noticing its more so with friends who haven't had kids. It's so odd because I was overly cautious around babies before I ever had one !
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  • l4rkl4rk member
    Just tell them your preference and briefly explain why. Don't make a big deal out of it and they shouldn't either. That's how I've been handling it.
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  • Grace213Grace213 member
    I agree with what others have said. I have a giant hand sanitizer bottle that I pull out when people are coming over and when people go to grab DS I tell them the sanitizer is on the table/counter! I have heard MIL say she didn't want to cuz it would make her hands cold and smelly when he was first born. Don't care! I don't want a sick baby!
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  • scornwell717scornwell717 member
    I'm so glad you posted this cause I feel the same way. Except it's not as much with friends and family as it is her own dad! Him and I aren't even in a relationship so I'm very thankful that he's around for her, but some of the things he does with her pisses me off sooo bad. I don't want to boss him around or anything but it drives me NUTS. Like for the love of God, when she's crying do everything you can to make her stop, don't throw her up in the air!
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