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Going to the sitter

dmendo01dmendo01 member
in December 2015 Moms
so, DD will be going to the sitter in 2 weeks. She comfort nurses a lot and I am worried she is going to cry all day at the sitter. She has taken expressed milk in a bottle and does just fine but never seems fully satisfied. Even if she takes 5 ounces she acts like she wants to nurse. If she's sleepy she wants to nurse. And in both of these instances she doesn't take the paci for more than 30 seconds at a time and she's very cranky until she gets to nurse and then she's content and usually goes to sleep. So when my mom has watched her she just keeps feeding her expressed milk to make her happy but I don't know if this is the answer? I feel like she can't be hungry she just wants me to nurse her and she isn't getting that obviously when I'm not there. Anyone have experience with this and did anything help? I'm not sure what to do but I am gonna be a nervous wreck the first day she goes thinking she's crying all day. I also don't want the sitter to go crazy bc I have a high maintenance baby. She also likes to be held all the time. I feel like we are in trouble
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  • Gingermom15Gingermom15 member
    edited February 2016
    Sounds like comfort sucking. Have you tried a pacifier?

    ETA apparently I cannot read today. I see now that you have tried. Sorry :/
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  • kdoak2015kdoak2015 member
    I would say try not to fret, your baby will adapt. It may take a few days and she may cry but she'll get use to it. They are such adaptable little suckers. Just stay positive and assume she's super happy at the sitters. 
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  • taysuntaysun member
    On the paci front, DD will not keep the pacifier in herself even when she wants it. She pushes it out with her tongue- which I was informed has to do with the way babies nurse. Apparently around four months they're able to move their tongues differently which is why that's when you can introduce solids. 
    A wubbanub was recommended me because they can hold it and root back to the paci. 
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  • dmendo01dmendo01 member
    @taysun we have tried the wubbanub and she does a lot better sucking on it but her arms go crazy and bat it out of her mouth...sigh...but if she's swaddled it won't sit right and stay in her mouth but we do use the soothies but she tongues those out too. 
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  • dmendo01dmendo01 member
    @kdoak2015 I am afraid that's my only option at this point. I figure I should just only bottle feed her still on weekend days so when she does adapt I don't mess her up. 
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  • ksrkimksrkim member
    dmendo01 said:
    @kdoak2015 I am afraid that's my only option at this point. I figure I should just only bottle feed her still on weekend days so when she does adapt I don't mess her up. 
    I wouldn't say that it is necessary to bottle feed on the weekends.I think she will figure it out. At the sitters I get a bottle and when I'm with my mom I get my mommy. It may take some time but she will get it!
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  • ATolentino89ATolentino89 member
    She will figure it out. Babies are smart. My son acts different depending on who he is with. Being momma, I get the one who always wants the boob. 
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  • angelicac06angelicac06 member
    I'm with you @dmendo01. 100% :(
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  • dmendo01dmendo01 member
    @angelicac06 how old is your LO? DD is 6 weeks
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  • dmendo01dmendo01 member
    @ATolentino89 yes I hope she figures out quickly and has no trouble!
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  • breezypipbreezypip member
    I'm in the same boat with DD, 8 weeks old. She nurses constantly and I'm very anxious to see how this works out when I go back to work.
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  • angelicac06angelicac06 member
    @dmendo01He will be 10 weeks in a couple days. 
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  • Court11152325Court11152325 member
    Solids shouldn't be introduced until 6 months per the AAP recommendations. Also, 5 oz of milk is a ton for 1 feeding, especially this early. Babies generally need 1 to 1.5 oz (1.5 for older babies)of milk for every hour. So if she goes 3 hours between feedings, that's only 3 to 4 oz. 

    DD comfort nurses a lot too. One thing my mom did with the pacifier was put it in her mouth and then hold her like she was being breastfed. I would say that's probably why she started tolerating the paci, but it's still not something she cares for.

    have you heard of pace feeding? I would suggest showing anyone who will be feeding your daughter videos from YouTube. This slows the process down and may even allow her a little comfort sucking. It allows bottle fed babies to realize they are full.

    I think she will be fine. I'm sure your babysitter understands that young babies cry and need comfort. :)
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  • kdoak2015kdoak2015 member
    5oz isn't a tone my DD has been taking 4-6oz since 7-8 weeks.
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  • celainevcelainev member
    dmendo01 said:
    @taysun we have tried the wubbanub and she does a lot better sucking on it but her arms go crazy and bat it out of her mouth...sigh...but if she's swaddled it won't sit right and stay in her mouth but we do use the soothies but she tongues those out too. 
    Mine is 7.5 weeks and does the same thing. Constantly wants food. Currently we're doing breast milk and formula in bottle and he'll go through 4 oz breast milk then 2 oz formula and still wants to suck if he's awake! So I find that holding the pacifier against my chest while its in his mouth and walking around with him calms him down to sleep. Have you tried this? My mom can do it too and he falls asleep.
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  • Court11152325Court11152325 member
    @kdoak2015 you're right, I should preface that it depends on the baby. Some babies may eat more than others; however, from the reading I've done and what I get from it, younger babies should get fuller on smaller amounts. It's generally better to start with, say, 2.5 oz and then add additional ounces if baby needs it. I use the following link to help:

    https://kellymom.com/bf/pumpingmoms/pumping/milkcalc/
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  • dmendo01dmendo01 member
    @Court11152325 yeah we don't do solids for sure, but we do pace feed her and most generally that's still how much she takes. When I pump I get 5oz very consistently so I figure she gets that typically but thanks for the link it does add some things that we don't do that I will try. i had a thread about feeling that she was being bottle fed too many oz but apparently that's not too crazy for some babies. She has started to go 5-7 hour stretches at night so I figure she may get in some bigger feeds during the day. 
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  • dmendo01dmendo01 member
    @chaelainev I have done this some and it kind of works but maybe I'll tell my mom and DH to try this to see how it goes with them. Thanks!
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  • amye02amye02 member
    @dmendo01 I had to try several different pacifiers with DS before we found one he liked. I wound up with the MAM silicone and in the beginningI would express a drop or two of BM on it right after BFing and still holding him on my chest. He takes the pacifier no problem now. 
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  • taysuntaysun member
    edited February 2016
    Court11152325 said:
    Solids shouldn't be introduced until 6 months per the AAP recommendations. Also, 5 oz of milk is a ton for 1 feeding, especially this early. Babies generally need 1 to 1.5 oz (1.5 for older babies)of milk for every hour. So if she goes 3 hours between feedings, that's only 3 to 4 oz. 

    DD comfort nurses a lot too. One thing my mom did with the pacifier was put it in her mouth and then hold her like she was being breastfed. I would say that's probably why she started tolerating the paci, but it's still not something she cares for.

    have you heard of pace feeding? I would suggest showing anyone who will be feeding your daughter videos from YouTube. This slows the process down and may even allow her a little comfort sucking. It allows bottle fed babies to realize they are full.

    I think she will be fine. I'm sure your babysitter understands that young babies cry and need comfort. :)
    My point was that at around four months babies stop pushing everything out because their tongue movements change. At four months even if solid foods are unnecessary, PHYSICALLY baby is able to have them. 
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  • Court11152325Court11152325 member
    edited February 2016
    I'm not trying to argue or anything. I just wanted to pass this information along. The American Association of Pediatrics has updated their recommendations of solid food to 6 months from the traditional 4-6 months, but even at 6 months the baby needs to be able to sit up on their own, have a firm pincer grasp, and their tongue needs to be able to move food backwards.

    https://kellymom.com/ages/older-infant/delay-solids/

    ETA: I am an advocate of doing what's right for your own family and parenting! I just know I was surprised by this info.
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