Laparascopy today.. can't stop crying.. ( child mentioned)

runner76 · February 2016

I don't know what to think because my husband talked to dr.. but based on what he told him i am not completely hopeless.. So good news is i had no endo at all. I always thought i had endo cause I've always had severe period cramps. but nothing.. my left tube had hydrosalpinx which i knew and he removed it.. my right tube is fine.. here is the bad part.... So ten years ago I had a child with my ex husband, I had emergency c section.. it was a horrible pg with preeclampsia amongst other challenges.. Well my c section has formed a lot of scar tissue.. he could not remove the scar tissue due to it being attached to descending colon. So he said she can sustain a pregnancy and it won't be effected but if she needs another c section it can be a potential issue since they need to cut through abdominal wall again.. Im so scared now.. i am pretty sure i would need another c section.. and even so u never know and what if i tried to push and ended up needing one? He said they would need to be very careful.. from sound of dr it seemed like it would be very risky... i don't know what to think... is there another way to cut?? I just feel so hopeless.. I thought it was good news cause the nurse told me everything but that... now i find out this and i don't know how ill ever do this... Please don't get me wrong i am so grateful for my daughter.. but i am devastated i can never have this with my husband.. I just wish i had a glimmer of hope left but its slipping away

PCOSat25 · February 2016

I am sorry you are having a tough day but that actually sounds like pretty good news. No endo and your doctor does not think the scar tissue will prevent future pregnancy. It sucks that you will have to have another c-section but let's face it, you would be pretty hard pressed to find a doctor that would let you try a VBAC anyway. Fx for future cycles!!!

runner76 · February 2016

Really? Im thinking it is awful but do u think theres hope here?? But how would they avoid cutting my organs? Do they not to VBACS very often? i don't know much about it.. thank you

PCOSat25 · February 2016

From what you have typed I would think there is hope. And it sounds like you got the information like 4th hand (doctor to nurse, nurse to husband, husband to you). The information that you got might be 100% what the doctor intended. I think you definitely just need to have a conversation with your doctor. There have to be options. And if they know a pregnancy will have a "risky" delivery that will be able to make a safe plan for you from the beginning. Sending positive thoughts your way!!!

runner76 · February 2016

my husband played the recording.. he recorded it on his phone. He basically said the only issue will be if i need another c section ( which ik i will) since there is a lot of scar tissue attached to bowel and abdominal wall.. my husband said but is it possible? he said they would really need to watch.. but its possible.. his tone just sounded like he thought it was pretty risky

tvh1982 · February 2016

From what I read I believe you'll be fine.
You will be having a c-section (or I would believe you will) as they can't preform an emergency c-section. They need to plan ahead.
So I doubt they'll take the risk.
Good news. They know your situation and trust me, they know how to get the baby out once you get that far.
But do talk to your doctor. Not by listening to a recorded message, but face to face. Ask the risk, ask about your worries and get all the fact, risks and positivity out there.
Ask anything you want to know to make you at ease with any decision you make.
GL on your journey!

runner76 · February 2016

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runner76 · February 2016

Ok what do you think of this response ?

PCOSat25 · February 2016

The image is a little cut off but from what I can read it doesn't sound like you doctor is that concerned about it. You may be "higher risk" but the doctors already know that at would be able make the proper preparations for delivery. Clearly this is an emotional subject for you. Is it possible that you are letting emotion cloud your reasoning? It seems like you may be blowing this out of proportion from what the doctor intended. What does your husband think about all of this? Is he as concerned as you are?

I know now it is easy to get REALLY anxious about all of this. Wishing peace for you!

runner76 · February 2016

You think it sounds okay ? I'm sure i am prob overreacting. I'm so scared that all. And anxious it won't happen. Ty for your thoughts it helps a lot

tvh1982 · February 2016

From an outside point of few I think you worry too much, which is of course very understandable!
It sounds like they have and will have full control.
Take a breather, let all the information sink in. You will be in good hands.
Of course all of the above is very easy for me to say, but I truly believe that you shouldn't worry too much.
Hope you will see that too in a little bit xoxo

KidShrink · February 2016

I'd agree that you may be reading too much into it. Higher risk doesn't impossible or too dangerous, just 'let's make sure we got our ducks in a row prior to delivery'. I've had two laparoscopies in the last year (one to remove my gallbladder which was likely malfunctioning because of endo, the other to finally confirm and remove a massive amount of endo). I have scar tissue from the first one around my belly button. I've been seeing a pelvic health physio (and used to see an osteopath who did very similar work) to help with mobility, adhesions and scar tissue. Maybe this would be worth looking into?

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