@FinePlacentaPie : Funny story, when I was a little girl (about DD's age) I wanted to marry Jesus. I had a crush on him all through my child hood and even the less anglo-centric versions I've seen in my adulthood have me crushing on The Son of God. I feel kind of weird about it, but at the same time-- Jesus seems like a cool guy.
@DannieG79 Shut up. That's what I have to say next.
Anyone have anything to say about babies? Or pregnancy? I'm a first time mom (5 1/2 weeks). I have struggled with IF for years. I'm looking for support and camaraderie from you ladies. Stress does not help carry a child to term. Reducing stress, limiting caffeine, abstaining from alcohol, eating fruits and vegetables and being happy are the best things you can do to reduce the chances of a miscarriage. So let's do that, OK? Any thoughts on a good newborn checklist?
I want to use glass bottles (I'm a fist time mom so I'm neurotic) any good brand suggestions?
Breast pumps are so expensive. I would love a hands free but I don't think I can swing it. Anyone else researched these yet?
Anyone have anything to say about babies? Or pregnancy? I'm a first time mom (5 1/2 weeks). I have struggled with IF for years. I'm looking for support and camaraderie from you ladies. Stress does not help carry a child to term. Reducing stress, limiting caffeine, abstaining from alcohol, eating fruits and vegetables and being happy are the best things you can do to reduce the chances of a miscarriage. So let's do that, OK? Any thoughts on a good newborn checklist?
I want to use glass bottles (I'm a fist time mom so I'm neurotic) any good brand suggestions?
Breast pumps are so expensive. I would love a hands free but I don't think I can swing it. Anyone else researched these yet?
Did you mean this to go to the group or the one specific poster?
We can do a newborn checklist thread as we get past 24 weeks. I think its a little bit early to count those chickens.
@selena2016 : Stress of the average daily nature (and message board squabbles definitely fall into this category) does not have an impact on miscarriage rates. Genocide, war, starvation and mortal peril-- yes, those are stress events that can contribute to physical stress that can cause miscarriage. Please do not continue the myth that stress "isn't good for the baby". That's right up there with the "just relax" type advice to those that are TTC.
Reducing miscarriage is not an active thing. You can't really do anything to prevent a miscarriage if its going to happen.
@Selena2016 If you want to talk about newborn essentials you can start another thread so that more people will see it in their input. Also, there's a registry thread that has some suggestions on it. I get that it's still early, but talking about these things can be fun, so I feel ya! Looking at baby stuff and researching products helps, at least it helps me, keep my mind busy and off the ticking of the clock lol.
@PrimRoseMama yes my response was to one in particular I edited to clarify.
24 weeks oh that seams far away! I have totally been obsessing. Putting supplies in my online shopping carts and so forth. I feel like I can't properly decorate the nursery until we know the gender. You are probably right. Maybe we can talk about good diets while baby is growing so quickly. Any good nutrition apps for pregnancy? I use fitness pal but I'm worried about getting enough fruits, vegetables and calcium.
@PrimRoseMama yes my response was to one in particular I edited to clarify.
24 weeks oh that seams far away! I have totally been obsessing. Putting supplies in my online shopping carts and so forth. I feel like I can't properly decorate the nursery until we know the gender. You are probably right. Maybe we can talk about good diets while baby is growing so quickly. Any good nutrition apps for pregnancy? I use fitness pal but I'm worried about getting enough fruits, vegetables and calcium.
Definitely. Let me start a thread for it so it doesn't get lost in this thread here.
@PrimRoseMama I was simply trying to change the subject of this ridiculous argument. I'm leaving this thread because I'm looking for positivity and support. Not bickering. That's all. Stress isn't good for anyone. That was my point.
@PrimRoseMama I was simply trying to change the subject of this ridiculous argument. I'm leaving this thread because I'm looking for positivity and support. Not bickering. That's all. Stress isn't good for anyone. That was my point.
Except this is the real world and disagreements happen. I understand that's not what you are looking for, but the way community boards work, sometimes it happens. Its best to acknowledge it instead of finger-wagging every time it happens. Otherwise, its going to be a long 40 weeks for you here. I hear what you are saying, but every group of people cannot 100% agree all the time. Its just not reasonable. I'm a positive person and I don't necessarily ENJOY arguments, but its just a fact of life. I like debates and discussions.To each their own, but for your own health-- try not to expect nothing but puppies and rainbows from this site.
@PrimRoseMama just to be clear. I have been on bump IF communities for years. I don't need you to explain to me how communities "work". I have been pregnant for 5 weeks. I have been TTC for 4 damn years. It has been a horrible journey. I feel as though the women in my IF group share a real connection and sisterhood. There are disagreements and differences of opinion that always remain respectful and don't go on for pages and pages. People disagree that is a fact of life. I was not finger wagging I was trying to change the subject. For some reason you continue to go after me, reprimand me on everything I have said when all I have tried to do was get this thread back to the topic. I am, as we all are emotional wrecks right now as our hormones surge and the uncertainty of MC lurkes at the back of every positive thought. I check this thread every day for the stats posted about decreasing chances of a MC. I'm looking for any ideas scientifically proven or not to help me keep this precious child growing inside me.
@PrimRoseMama just to be clear. I have been on bump IF communities for years. I don't need you to explain to me how communities "work". I have been pregnant for 5 weeks. I have been TTC for 4 damn years. It has been a horrible journey. I feel as though the women in my IF group share a real connection and sisterhood. There are disagreements and differences of opinion that always remain respectful and don't go on for pages and pages. People disagree that is a fact of life. I was not finger wagging I was trying to change the subject. For some reason you continue to go after me, reprimand me on everything I have said when all I have tried to do was get this thread back to the topic. I am, as we all are emotional wrecks right now as our hormones surge and the uncertainty of MC lurkes at the back of every positive thought. I check this thread every day for the stats posted about decreasing chances of a MC. I'm looking for any ideas scientifically proven or not to help me keep this precious child growing inside me.
Um, what? Take a deep breath, there. You are going off on me when I wasn't reprimanding you at all. I think you need to take a step back & chill out.
You our joined here in November 2015. If you truly participated in TB culture before 2015 then you would know that threads often get side tracked & that I did try to honestly to redirect the thread for everyone's benefit.
Your arm-flailing about the progression of the thread is over the top. I am pregnant, but my hormones do not rob me of my common sense or my ability to have rational discourse.
There is is no way to prevent miscarriage & no amount of staring at stats will magically save anyone. It's nice data to have but don't assign it more power than it is.
there is no reason to freak out on me like this though. I haven't even come anywhere close to personally attacking you. I was trying to help you.
*Lurking from July* I would consider myself a strong Christian and I so strongly applaud you ladies for standing up to ignorance on this board! I would never consider telling people to just have faith and pray and it will all be all right because sometimes it not and things suck. Sadly but not sadly one member of this board has shown some true nasty colors but thankfully you all know this early on and don't have to worry about her thoughts or can easily shoot her down. I also here there is an awesome ignore button you can use to make a person go away as well as a report button when people say things that are truly hurtful or unnessary.
you have a great bunch keep the snark and and the sass and have a happy and healthy 9!
@PrimRoseMama just to be clear. I have been on bump IF communities for years. I don't need you to explain to me how communities "work". I have been pregnant for 5 weeks. I have been TTC for 4 damn years. It has been a horrible journey. I feel as though the women in my IF group share a real connection and sisterhood. There are disagreements and differences of opinion that always remain respectful and don't go on for pages and pages. People disagree that is a fact of life. I was not finger wagging I was trying to change the subject. For some reason you continue to go after me, reprimand me on everything I have said when all I have tried to do was get this thread back to the topic. I am, as we all are emotional wrecks right now as our hormones surge and the uncertainty of MC lurkes at the back of every positive thought. I check this thread every day for the stats posted about decreasing chances of a MC. I'm looking for any ideas scientifically proven or not to help me keep this precious child growing inside me.
@PrimRoseMama is one of the nicest, most helpful and sincere people you'll find on the bump. Going off on her when she was trying to help = not cool.
So anyway, it is very sad to see that most of us come here to give and receive support and that goal could get disrupted like this. I am just hoping each of us dealing with miscarriage concerns can feel free to continue to express those concerns in this place, as it isn't always possible or helpful to do so with many people in our daily lives, and to find some anxiety relief as we cope in the best ways we know. Let's stick together in our common hope for healthy fall babies, and anyone who has any other intent would probably be best served by a different forum that corresponds with that interest.
Except this is the real world and disagreements happen. I understand that's not what you are looking for, but the way community boards work, sometimes it happens. Its best to acknowledge it instead of finger-wagging every time it happens. Otherwise, its going to be a long 40 weeks for you here. I hear what you are saying, but every group of people cannot 100% agree all the time. Its just not reasonable. I'm a positive person and I don't necessarily ENJOY arguments, but its just a fact of life. I like debates and discussions.To each their own, but for your own health-- try not to expect nothing but puppies and rainbows from this site.
Unfortunately there are always going to be disagreements in large groups, so I think we're all just trying to let this one fall to the wayside. This seems to be a pretty great group of intelligent, strong women, with a lot of support to offer, so I hope you stick around!
@UponAStar16 There's a weekly PGAL check-in that you might find helpful. It's a great place to connect with other loss moms and express any anxiety/frustration your PGAL brain might be giving you. New ones are posted every Monday.
ETA: I may have read your comment wrong, but if you're a loss mom, please join the PGAL check ins!
I wish us all a happy and healthy pregnancy. I hope that many can find their place on this public group. It seems others are having trouble doing so. The only solution to that is lurking and participation. The best to you all!
Wow it's sad how this message which was meant to "encourage" has been blown out of proportion and @DanniG79 is being attacked in this manner. Not everyone will agree with all the things that will be posted here! The fact that the majority of you ladies disagree with this post doesn't make it a bad post. Just as @DanniG79 said it does not pertain to everyone! If you find comfort in this post and believe in the protection of God over your baby & yourself then may it come pass in Jesus name! But if not, then may whatever you find comfort/believe in see you thru! One thing for sure is that I don't find refuge in mere statistics let alone allowing it to decide my chances of miscarrying/not miscarrying! My God is the one who will see me thru this journey and in Him alone I find refuge!
“For the message of the cross(the word of God) is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God.”
Wow it's sad how this message which was meant to "encourage" has been blown out of proportion and @DanniG79 is being attacked in this manner. Not everyone will agree with all the things that will be posted here! The fact that the majority of you ladies disagree with this post doesn't make it a bad post. Just as @DanniG79 said it does not pertain to everyone! If you find comfort in this post and believe in the protection of God over your baby & yourself then may it come pass in Jesus name! But if not, then may whatever you find comfort/believe in see you thru! One thing for sure is that I don't find refuge in mere statistics let alone allowing it to decide my chances of miscarrying/not miscarrying! My God is the one who will see me thru this journey and in Him alone I find refuge!
“For the message of the cross(the word of God) is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God.”
1 Corinthians 1:18 NIV
Thanks for for bringing this back when we'd all already moved on.
Wow it's sad how this message which was meant to "encourage" has been blown out of proportion and @DanniG79 is being attacked in this manner. Not everyone will agree with all the things that will be posted here! The fact that the majority of you ladies disagree with this post doesn't make it a bad post. Just as @DanniG79 said it does not pertain to everyone! If you find comfort in this post and believe in the protection of God over your baby & yourself then may it come pass in Jesus name! But if not, then may whatever you find comfort/believe in see you thru! One thing for sure is that I don't find refuge in mere statistics let alone allowing it to decide my chances of miscarrying/not miscarrying! My God is the one who will see me thru this journey and in Him alone I find refuge!
“For the message of the cross(the word of God) is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God.”
1 Corinthians 1:18 NIV
Except no one attacked her? We are just trying to protect the feelings of those that have suffered losses. I think that is far more encouraging that preaching at them.
Re: Thread formerly known as "Chances of NOT having a miscarriage"
Here @DanniG79 - maybe you can understand this?
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
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Anyone have anything to say about babies? Or pregnancy? I'm a first time mom (5 1/2 weeks). I have struggled with IF for years. I'm looking for support and camaraderie from you ladies. Stress does not help carry a child to term. Reducing stress, limiting caffeine, abstaining from alcohol, eating fruits and vegetables and being happy are the best things you can do to reduce the chances of a miscarriage. So let's do that, OK?
Any thoughts on a good newborn checklist?
I want to use glass bottles (I'm a fist time mom so I'm neurotic) any good brand suggestions?
Breast pumps are so expensive. I would love a hands free but I don't think I can swing it. Anyone else researched these yet?
We can do a newborn checklist thread as we get past 24 weeks. I think its a little bit early to count those chickens.
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Reducing miscarriage is not an active thing. You can't really do anything to prevent a miscarriage if its going to happen.
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
24 weeks oh that seams far away! I have totally been obsessing. Putting supplies in my online shopping carts and so forth. I feel like I can't properly decorate the nursery until we know the gender.
You are probably right. Maybe we can talk about good diets while baby is growing so quickly.
Any good nutrition apps for pregnancy? I use fitness pal but I'm worried about getting enough fruits, vegetables and calcium.
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
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Not sure of actual progression of MC chances but I was told that at 13w4d I scored the lucky .03% chance
You our joined here in November 2015. If you truly participated in TB culture before 2015 then you would know that threads often get side tracked & that I did try to honestly to redirect the thread for everyone's benefit.
Your arm-flailing about the progression of the thread is over the top. I am pregnant, but my hormones do not rob me of my common sense or my ability to have rational discourse.
There is is no way to prevent miscarriage & no amount of staring at stats will magically save anyone. It's nice data to have but don't assign it more power than it is.
there is no reason to freak out on me like this though. I haven't even come anywhere close to personally attacking you. I was trying to help you.
Mercy.
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I would consider myself a strong Christian and I so strongly applaud you ladies for standing up to ignorance on this board! I would never consider telling people to just have faith and pray and it will all be all right because sometimes it not and things suck. Sadly but not sadly one member of this board has shown some true nasty colors but thankfully you all know this early on and don't have to worry about her thoughts or can easily shoot her down. I also here there is an awesome ignore button you can use to make a person go away as well as a report button when people say things that are truly hurtful or unnessary.
you have a great bunch keep the snark and and the sass and have a happy and healthy 9!
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BFP #4 1/2016, DD born 10/2016
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
ETA: I may have read your comment wrong, but if you're a loss mom, please join the PGAL check ins!
LFAF April Siggy: TV/Movie BFFs
BFP #4 1/2016, DD born 10/2016
I wish us all a happy and healthy pregnancy. I hope that many can find their place on this public group. It seems others are having trouble doing so. The only solution to that is lurking and participation. The best to you all!
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
Thanks for for bringing this back when we'd all already moved on.
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BFP #4 1/2016, DD born 10/2016
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
Married to DH for 6 years (together for 16)
DS born 12.13.14
DD born 10.15.16
BFP 1.24.18, MC 3.13.18
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Married to DH for 6 years (together for 16)
DS born 12.13.14
DD born 10.15.16
BFP 1.24.18, MC 3.13.18