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Where is everyone?

rachlee2010rachlee2010 member
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What happened to this group?
I only joined a few months ago and it was a great group of ladies.  Now I feel like nobody is here. I know there was a BFP (maybe others I missed) which is great but where is everyone else?

I said I would take over the weekly updates but feel like at this point it's pointless as there are like 2 of us who come on here.

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  • GK2009GK2009 member
    I know...it's you and me.  I was wondering what happened to everyone... hopefully they all got good news or made happy life decisions for themselves.  I never jumped over to the IF board because Secondary IF feels different to me especially since I didn't have a struggle the first time around.  I hope other people join us in finding the support they need... then again, I hope we both get to leave this board in the rear view mirror very SOON!  I mean that in the nicest way possible... the ladies here are always so great.  I wish I had a few updates from some of the girls that used to be regular posters...
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  • Jodee37Jodee37 member
    honestly this board has been dying for a while now. the "oldies" have all since either gotten a bfp or finally accepted the shitty reality that it ain't happening and they have moved on to greener pastures. as an oldie here, god i realize i am the only oldie left coming here, it's incredibly hard to log on and realize i am it. out of my 2 years straight here, i am the last one still insanely refusing to throw in the towel while i see everyone else lap me. it's pure torture. so i avoid this place. more and more. but i am a glutton for punishment and still lurk and probably should stop doing that. 

    and my avoidance is nothing about you newer ladies, nothing personal, and definitely not a result of anything you did or said or anything. you guys are simply where i used to be, on the cusp of greatness and hope burned a piping hot flame in your soul. and i envy that. and i know you will find success. and i can say that because i have gone on to see everyone move on. i speak the truth. 

    and more ladies will come. because 2IF is a sick twisted bitch that doesn't discriminate. i'm not sure where the newer girls went. but i can tell you the oldies are gone. and this one is nearly there too. best of luck to you all. and keep your head up you two, you're nearly there. 
    Me: 36, DH: 36
    DH's SA = normal
    1 tube only wonder
    AFC 3-5, AMH 0.30

    BFP #1 3/29/11.  EDD 12/4/11... Missed m/c 5/9/11. Cytotec fail. D&C 5/17/11.
    BFP #2   7/5/11.  EDD 3/14/12... Our rainbow Kellen born 3/14/12 via c/s.
    BFP #3 5/30/13.  EDD 2/8/14...  6wk u/s HB 126. 8wk u/s lost HB. D&C 7/12/13.
    BFP #4 2/18/14.  EDD 10/30/14... Ruptured ectopic with L tube removed & D&C 3/7/14.
    BFP #5 7/27/14.  EDD 4/9/15...  m/c @ 5w4d.

    IVF #1    Oct 2014 - antagonist protocol: 9R, 7M, 5F. 3dt of 3 Grade 2 embies. BFN. 
    IVF #2    Jan 2015 cancelled due to dominant follicle.  Converted to IUI #1. BFFN
    IVF #2.1 March 2015 cancelled due to dominant follicle.

    BFP #6  (SUPRISE!) 3/19/15.  EDD 11/30/15...  CP at 4w2d.
    IUI #2:    Clomid + Follistim = 3 follies. BFN.
    IVF #2.2 May 2015 - horrible response to micro lupron flare protocol: 3R, 3M, 3F. 3dt of 2 Grade 3 embies. BFFN. 

    BFP #7 (beyond surprised again!) 4/26/16. EDD 1/5/17. beautiful betas!!!! and then near-fatal hemorrhagic corpus luteum. turns out baby was ectopic after all; another lap 5/6 (@24dpo).

    the universe can fuck off.


     "You are overly paranoid and delusional that every one is out to get you." -lastsliverofhope

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    all AL welcome. TTC #2 for 43 44 months.
    follow my infertility journey here at timestandsstillblog.com

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  • GK2009GK2009 member
    @Jodee37- so good to hear from you!   I know you have so much frustration...I am so with you.  I just want to let you know that your dedication is so inspiring to me.  Heck..you have a dream...don't let anyone steal your thunder.  Everyone decides what's best for them and when.  I continue to keep you in my thoughts and thanks for popping your head back in on us.  
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  • AprilDrew04AprilDrew04 member
    I am still around, but after over 6 years of ttc #2 I find myself pulling away from here. It is hard to come to a board where everyone (or so it seems) has left you behind. If you want to know where some of the other "oldies" went send me a pm.

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    DD conceived after 3 years of ttc.
    MFI - DH had varicocele repair and took Clomid to get DD b. 02/2010

    TTC #2 since 6/2010
    10/2012 DH diagnosed with Epilepsy
    A few failed IUIs summer 2012 and 2013. 
    DH taking clomid and waiting to see if he needs another vericocele repair. 
    Hoping for a 2015 baby or babies. 
    Wishing, hoping, waiting.


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  • FlamingemuFlamingemu member
    Hi. I am just coming back to check in on everyone. After my 4th failed surgery in August and my surgeon telling me he wouldn't operate again, I was left in a black hole. My RE gave me a rec for an Ashermans specialist, but I 'lost' his number. I had a really hard time with all graduates here in the fall and had to step away. I have spent the entire last 2 years preparing for and recovering from procedures/surgeries. It just sucks.

    Well, I finally asked my RE for the new Docs # again and have an appt on the 18th. Since I scheduled the appt, my whole demeanor sucks. I feel like I am already set up for failure, but I have to know. I need this man to tell me it is over or that he is willing to try. One way or another, I need an answer and need you guys. So I am back. At least for a bit. My job has settled down a bit, though I can't check in during the day, I will try to remember to at night. 

    Kid #1 - 09/03/12
    Kid #2 - maybe???
    Diagnosed with Severe Ashermans 
    Hysteroscopy #10 - scar tissue grew back reblocking my right tube
    #11 or IVF with scarring still inside?
    1 lone embryo from September 2016 retreival, dx with Trisomy 16, starting fresh
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  • pdbirdpdbird member
    Welcome back @Flamingemu! Glad to hear you keep pushing for answers. Sound of mind is the best. Stay strong and positive. :smiley: 
    Me: 37 DH:41
    10/2009 - TTC#1 Stopped BCP! Let's DO this!
    1/2010 - BFP (Natural) --> 10/2010 - DS born! Yay!
    12/2010 - DH diagnosed with stage 3B testicular cancer. #cancersucks
    10/2011 - Complications with DH and lymph nodes in groin area removed. No longer able to ejaculate.
    1/2014 - TTC#2 - IUI#1. No luck. Findings: DH sperm did not survive freeze. RE recommends IVF with ICSI.
    3/2014 - IVF Cycle #1 Started BCP
    4/2014 - Lupron, Gonal-F, and Menopur
    5/7/2014 - ER day (25 eggs retrieved, 15 mature)
    5/10/2014 - 6 fertilized, 3 embryos frozen - one grade A and two Grade B. Plan was to grow out to blastocyst stage but rest of eggs arrested by day 3. Decided to freeze on day 3.
    2/9/2016 - FET #1 with Grade A (8 cell - 3 day embryo); 2/20 - Beta was <5. BFN.  :/ Waiting for period and start next FET.
    7/8/2016 - FET #2 with Grade B (8 cell - 3 day embryo), fingers crossed this one sticks. :)
    7/19 - Beta was 74. BFP!!!!; 7/21 - Beta was 182; 1st U/S on 8/2; 2nd U/S on 8/16 :)

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