Competitive moms

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• LoveLee85 member

  February 2016

  my DH post one picture a month of our LO on his private Facebook page. His mom commented that he was precious then said all her grandkids are. Someone random said how big and cute he was...so my SIL comments how her baby is so much bigger than our LO and all this stuff about her baby under the comment section of our sons picture. Nobody even asked her...so it was weird. We were thinking wow, way to make everything, including the one picture we post a month, all about your son. I have a feeling she is forever going to be comparing and pretending like her LO is better. Sounds like fun, right? NOT! Ugh. 

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• mrsbacz member

  February 2016 edited February 2016

  My SIL had a baby the end of November, and it's not her but my MIL who does it! She constantly compares the two babies and makes me feel so terrible about myself. Probably just because she doesn't like me, it has nothing to do with my son.
  
  So sorry you're dealing with this! Is there any way you can gently say that it doesn't make you feel very good or your hubby can get the message across? Giving the benefit of the doubt that the person is harmless and doesn't realize that they're doing it. If that's not the case, snarky side comments always make me feel better.

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• LoveLee85 member

  February 2016

  I forgot to add to my comment above. I know I can't change her. I just plan on ignoring and spending as little time with her as possible. Note: this isn't the first time I have had issues with her, some being very serious issues. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. 

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• shelbydd member

  February 2016

  I think most of us have at least one person that does that. It's extremely obnoxious. I have a friend who's daughter was born about 2 weeks after my son. She doesn't speak to me, comment on my Facebook, or anything like that unless it gives her the opportunity to brag about her daughter.

  

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• ambernhelland member

  February 2016

  Yes! One of my best friends unfortunately. My daughter was born may 2012, her son august 2012. Right from the beginning it was a competition and it drove me crazy. 
  Now our younger babies are two months apart and both girls so she makes even more comparisons... it makes me not even want to invite her over because I just don't want to hear it! 

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• rosalbap2 member

  February 2016 edited February 2016

  I wouldn't say competitive, but have noticed a few mom's that I have as friends on social media that will post similar things that I have posted about my LO before. When I was pregnant, one of the moms asked me what theme we were doing for LO's nursery. I told her it was just going to be simple white and different shades of grey. I asked her about her LO's and she said another theme. Fast forward a few weeks and she posted a picture of the nursery and it was grey! It doesn't look like LO's nursery but I thought it was funny she changed the theme after I told her.

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• kylaelizabeth92 member

  February 2016

  Yep! I made a post about this a month or so ago... I am SO not a competitive person and pretty laid back so it annoys the crap outta me when people are like that!! 

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