Has anybody else been feeling a little alone and disconnected from their partner since finding out they're pregnant?
My husband tries so hard to serve me and cater to me, but that's not what I need. I need somebody to be emotionally invested in this pregnancy with me. It hurts me that I seem to be the one who always initiates the conversation about our baby and what's going on with me. Anytime he talks about being excited, it's as if all he's excited about is how my boobs and tummy will grow. He doesn't talk about becoming a father or wanting to understand what I'm feeling through this process.
I finally broke down and told him last night that I've been feeling so distant and alone because of how little he seems to be involved with what's happening. Obviously he can't feel my aches and pains, but I guess I just thought he would at least share in more of this excitement and worry and daydreaming. Or at least be asking some of the same questions I've been asking. And he told me he'll try harder to be there for me emotionally, but I'm still skeptical. I'm afraid that I'm expecting too much from him and I should just get used to being alone and misunderstood.
He even has this terrible habit of falling back asleep on me anytime I wake him up to ask for something (seriously, it's the most ridiculous thing) and that happened to me TWICE last night. I woke him up to talk about how alone I feel and it took FOUR tries to get him to stay awake for it. If your partner does this to you, you probably know what I mean when I say that it eventually stings and hurts. And then I told him I'm starving and unable to go back to sleep and he offered to make me toast then promptly fell asleep again. So I made my own damn toast and sat alone in the kitchen at 4 in the morning. And that's when the thoughts hit me of how unreliable he can be. And I'm scared every night with our newborn will be like this -- me trying to find support in my husband and just being let down and left to fend for myself.
Is any of this normal? Is anybody else in a similar funk as me? And is there hope that he really will come through for me and become more emotionally involved? He's such a great husband most of the time, but it's been a rough couple of weeks, and I just feel like the distance between us right now is getting bigger and bigger.