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Cold feet?

saturnswirlsaturnswirl member
in February 2016 Moms
I'm 39 weeks pregnant with my first child, a baby I have dreamed about since I was a child myself. I'm scheduled to be induced on Wednesday due to my gestational diabetes and I'm feeling terrified as the minutes pass. I'm of course worried about the pain and process of how the labor will go, but I'm feeling more fearful of becoming a parent I guess. It's been my partner and I and our pets for 8 years and now we will add a human into our home. It's daunting. Is anyone else feeling this scared? I feel so selfish but I'm suddenly terrified to be responsible for another being. For the rest of my life. Yikes! 
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  • ayokay516ayokay516 member
    That's totally normal. I felt that way just before each of my kids and I feel it again now with the 3rd. I think everyone has at least a moment of panic before baby comes. Don't let it overwhelm you. You're going to be a great mom. Focus on the happy things you plan to do with your child. You're gonna be just fine!
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  • BabyHope2013BabyHope2013 member
    Totally normal! Relax and know you are going to be fine. You are going to fall so in love with your LO that you will forget all of these worries when you meet them. Then you will just start to focus on taking care of them. You will be a wonderful mom--just enjoy every second and if you have questions on what your doing, ask! People are there to help you and no one expects you to just know everything. 
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  • lilqt3929lilqt3929 member
    PPs have great advice. I think everyone feels that bit of panic at some point in pregnancy or even after birth. Motherhood is such a rewarding experience, there's truly nothing like it that compares. Sometimes it takes a while to get in the mentality that you'll be able to do it and even after baby is born it's normal to have times of being overwhelmed. You will be fine, just roll with it and like others said dont hesitste to ask for help if you ever need it. That little baby will change your life and responsibilities but they will also melt your heart and bring so much joy into your life. Hang in there, you will be just fine! 
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  • Kimbarbour08Kimbarbour08 member
    I'm right there with you! My husband and I have been married for 7 years now and right from the start knew we wanted to have kids (FTM here). Our pregnancy was planned and I'm so excited to meet my little man, but I have been having little panicky moments when I think about how we are now parents first and foremost and that our lives will never be the same. I had the same kind of moment right after we got married too, I think it's just any major life changes can cause some stress, especially when it gets to the "no turning back now!" point. It's so going to be worth it though!
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  • BabySeaTurtlesBabySeaTurtles member
    All those feelings are completely normal. I felt them with DS and now with this one. Of course it will be an adjustment but you will find your new normal and wonder how you ever lived without this LO. Focus on one day at a time, one need at a time and keep in mind that it goes by so fast so savor those good moments. You will do just fine.



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  • princesspriscillaprincesspriscilla member
    I am going through this exact same thing - my husband and I have been married for 5 years and dated for 4 prior to marriage. For 9 years, it's just been us and our doggies. It's scary being responsible for a HUMAN BEING and the labor part really scares me and has been keeping me up at night just playing scenarios of all the "what-ifs" in my head. I've learned that all I can do is relax and take care of myself during the ending days of this pregnancy, for that's what's best for our little one. When baby comes, you will know what to do and how to handle having a child. It comes naturally and I will trust my instincts. Hang in there! You will know what to do when the time is right.

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  • paytonpedropaytonpedro member
    I don't have it now, I'm totally ready for him to come! But, I did have it earlier in my pregnancy, a feeling like I wasn't ready. We tried for almost a year and to feel that way made me feel guilty, and then I got over it. I'm glad you made this thread and that I'm not alone in those feelings. 
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  • g0lightly8706g0lightly8706 member
    I think we all feel this way at some point or another. I mean, how could you not? Being responsible for another human life seems so daunting and terrifying at times. I've wanted to be for a mom for a while now and still feel scared shitless at the thought of all the things that could wrong. It's human nature to worry though. All we can do is think happy thoughts and try our best!
    Married: 8/25/12
    Started TTC: 1/1/14
    BFP: 6/1/15
    Baby Girl Athena Born: 2/7/16

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