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I am SO pissed off

jcjohnson12jcjohnson12 member
in February 2016 Moms
So my mom came from down south to help with the girls and Jannelle when we got home from the hospital since hubby has to work. So I think great! I can get a shower and have a nap. 
So what is she doing? she's passed out drunk on my couch while I fix dinner and take care of a newborn after just having given birth. 
I just can't. She's scheduled a week off work. For what? As a free pass to drink all day and have me cater to her? 
He'll no.
Not in my house.
I'm seriously considering asking her to leave tomorrow because if i have to do it myself I don't want her in my way and causing me unneeded stress. 
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  • AchaeAchae member
    Yikes! I'd definitely ask her to leave once sobered up, that's ridiculous and sad :(
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  • ashton2190ashton2190 member
    Oh wow that's really awful. I would definitely let her know that you're glad to have her there to help out but if she plans on repeating tonight's events, she should just cut her trip short because it's definitely not helpful
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  • moomeemoomee member
    I'd definitely tell her to leave. That is totally unacceptable and very disrespectful. 
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  • silverwoodsilverwood member
    I'm so sorry you've had to deal with that. Is this usual behavior for her? If the situation is going to continue, and  cause you more stress and use more of your energy, then don't hesitate to ask her to go. You deserve to put your needs first. Do what you need to do. 
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  • cMichelle0423cMichelle0423 member
    Hell no! I'd definitely tell her to leave. The last thing you need it a full grown adult getting drunk at your house after you've just had a baby. I'd be furious. 
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  • BabySeaTurtlesBabySeaTurtles member
    Not cool at all. Once she sobers up I would tell her in one way or another to stop acting like a college kid and start acting like a mom and grandma or she can leave.



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  • =caenis==caenis= member
    Time for a talk in the morning.
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  • Lnewman013Lnewman013 member
    Sounds like something my mom would do. Which is why she won't be getting this same invite. It's one thing to offer help, it's another to help herself first. Completely selfish and disrespectful. Give her the boot.
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  • Knottie1455832158Knottie1455832158 member
    Ugh, I'm so sorry you have to go through that right now. I hope the conversation goes well. 
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  • jcjohnson12jcjohnson12 member
    edited February 2016
    Thanks guys, for the support. She did better today helping to take us to Jannelle's newborn appointment and then grocery shopping. 
    I know she'll be drunk by the end of the night, though, because I know how she is... So I told her it's time to take off come tomorrow morning. 
    She took it well, but she doesn't think she has a problem. 
    Oh well. I can't help others if they have no interest in being helped.
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  • lbart86lbart86 member
    You are so tough. I'd be in tears, seriously frustrated and disappointed if this were my situation. I'm glad she took it well, she must at least know deep down she does have a problem or she likely wouldn't have taken it so well. Best of luck with your little ones!
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  • ashton2190ashton2190 member
    jcjohnson12 said:
    Thanks guys, for the support. She did better today helping to take us to Jannelle's newborn appointment and then grocery shopping. 
    I know she'll be drunk by the end of the night, though, because I know how she is... So I told her it's time to take off come tomorrow morning. 
    She took it well, but she doesn't think she has a problem. 
    Oh well. I can't help others if they have no interest in being helped.
    I'm so impressed that you were able to put your food down. I'm not sure if this was the first time this conversation had to come up, but it's so hard to stand up to your parents (especially when it comes to something like this)
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  • VkrosaVkrosa member
    edited February 2016
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  • princesspriscillaprincesspriscilla member
    It's your house....I'd tell her to leave. When you get home from the hospital, if someone is not there to help and is causing nothing but additional legwork on your part, no thank you. Hit the door.

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  • jcjohnson0216jcjohnson0216 member
    edited February 2016
    @ashton2190This is definitely not the first time this has gone down. 
    Of course she knows she has a problem...I think most level headed adults suffering from alcoholism know they have a problem, they are just in denial. Like my mom.
    Like i told hubby last night...I love my mom, but i love her from a distance. 
    She's caused me a lot of pain in my years and I'm just over it.
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  • jcjohnson0216jcjohnson0216 member
    edited February 2016
    @princesspriscillaI agree 100%
    Unfortunately I'm having to pay the price lol. I was doing well at first, but now my legs are painfully swollen and my back is giving out after having such a huge baby.
    The doctors are concerned about blood clots and have me monitoring my bloody pressure everu hour. I can't even tell you how much my legs hurt. even just touching them kills.
    Oh and I'm engorged so that's fun.
    At least I can pick stuff up off the floor now! 
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  • jcjohnson0216jcjohnson0216 member
    Ugh I'm so out of it. I meant to quote you guys but i pressed reply instead
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  • wisco29wisco29 member
    Achae said:
    Yikes! I'd definitely ask her to leave once sobered up, that's ridiculous and sad :(
    Yes this. 
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