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Avoiding everything (possible trigger warning)

groovylocksgroovylocks member
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Please don't google it. But i accidentally ran aground of a documentary about Chinese orphanages. 

I can't stress this enough. PLEASE do not seek this documentary out. 

I didn't see the whole thing, I saw a clip on social media and it was very misleading in the title - titled "Adoption of Chinese babies" or something like this. And I thougth it would be interesting. It was so horrifying that I have spent most of the evening holding Olive and weeping. Before she went to sleep she was so confused. Looking at me like "Dude.. i just wanted to listen to music. What the hell, man? What's wrong NOW?"

It seems we need an entire new set of coping skills now. I have been wary of going back on social media for fear of seeing something else that might traumatize me the way this clip did. Or reading the news. Or listening to people talk or really going out at all. Because I might see or hear something that makes the mother part of me die a little. 

Anybody finding this happening to them and what are you doing to get through the day after hearing something awful? Because one side effect of being a parent is that I see my daughter's face in every child. Especially babies.
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  • ammnam14ammnam14 member
    I think this just comes with the territory of being a mother. I saw a trailer yesterday that broke my hear. Jennifer Garner stars in the movie and it is about her sick daughter. I just cried at the thought of my Zoe being terminally ill and not being able to help. 
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  • groovylocksgroovylocks member
    It's funny. I can still watch scary movies and slashers and sci fi.. (lots of friends claim they can't go near those since becoming parents) But the second I see neglected or sad babies, it completely ruins my day. My entire day. Because it's real. I want to go out and adopt them all up. And I can't. 

    I went through this same thing when i first adopted cats. I became hyper-sensitive to the needs of cats. Stray cats. Abused cats. Cats out in the cold. It never got better.
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  • mltarriomltarrio member
    Yeah I had to turn off the nightly news recently when they had a story about the zika virus followed by one about the lead in the water in flint. All those kids suffering just broke my heart and I started to cry. Being a mom makes me so sensitive. I just always think, what if that was my kid?
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  • kleshellekleshelle member
    mltarrio said:
    Yeah I had to turn off the nightly news recently when they had a story about the zika virus followed by one about the lead in the water in flint. All those kids suffering just broke my heart and I started to cry. Being a mom makes me so sensitive. I just always think, what if that was my kid?
    This. A thousand times THIS. My heart is breaking for these people.
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  • redfallonredfallon member
    Things certainly affect me more now than before I had our daughter. The scene in Tangled when Rapunzel is kidnapped made me cry because I imagined the heartbreak her parents went through. DH will not even watch previews for movies that involve kidnapping of children. 

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  • rzarembarzaremba member
    Yes! I was watching a beloved telenovela yesterday wherein the baby is kidnapped by the father, and I actually ended up being super angry (caught myself yelling at the tv) at the mom because she didn't seem to be sufficiently upset and/or motivated to get baby back.
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  • preggoandglowingpreggoandglowing member
    I couldn't sleep two nights ago. I'm helping my family plan their trip to the Middle East (I'm a planner). I got curious about beaches there and when I googled, the drowned Syrian boy's story came up. I started crying immediately. I saw photos of other refugees changing their babies' diapers on the beach and kids being passed around after reaching shore. It was too much for me! Just thinking of how bad their situation must have been for them to risk their baby's life like that. I still brings me to tears. 
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  • goldochsigoldochsi member
    I totally agree with preggoandglowing! In Germany, with the ongoing crisis of the refugees, you can't avoid these stories and pictures of sick or dead babies that didn't make it during "the trip". I cry ALL THE TIME when I see them.
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  • MomofEv+1MomofEv+1 member
    I don't want to live with my head in the sand but I did have to stop myself from reading news stories about things I knew would give me horrible anxiety. Stories about kidnapping and molestation really get me. It took me a couple years to learn that lesson. I think my worst nightmare is one of my children being kidnapped and never knowing what happened to them.
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