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September 2015 Moms
ashleyturner0808
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If I didn't love my family I would be in jail...
ashleyturner0808
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My daughter has been in a home daycare ran by a neighbor in my subdivision since she was 6 weeks (she's 17 weeks now). The last few weeks something inside my spirit was telling me that something wasn't quite right. Especially lately there were so many times my daughter came home with only 2 dirty diapers (she wears cloth) and left over breast milk (I send 12 oz and she would only drink between 6 and 9oz). Also noticing that my baby still hated tummy time and didn't seem to progress in that area. The last two weeks I haven't really sent her because again, it didn't feel right and plus we had a few snow days.
Fast forward to this past Thursday. My husband picked up the baby and she was drinking a bottle when he got there (10 hours later) and she had only drunk a total of less than 6oz and her diaper had just been changed making a total of 2 diapers for the entire day.
I go on Friday to drop her off but knew she wouldn't stay long. Just long enough for me to finish a project and attend a virtual meeting. When I drop her off the assistant was there alone (like always) with about 10 kids and she stated she had some things to tell me.
1. When the kids cry she locks them in a back room until they finish or falls asleep.
2. She doesn't know when my daughter needs to be changed so she doesn't change her.
3. She doesn't have time to warm up her milk so she leaves it out the fridge for 10 mins and then serves it.
4. My child doesn't get fed often because she has often times cried herself to sleep.
5. She burns lavender essential oils to help them stay sleep.
6. She doesn't do tummy time nor utilize the play mat I sent because she's not getting on the floor.
7. She 'plucks' the toddlers in the forehead when they don't 'act right'.
8. And she's gone for 1/2 the day at least everyday running errands.
My heart broke when I heard what was taking place. The assistant asked me not to say anything because she doesn't want to get in trouble. So I'm not sure how well my call to the VA licensing and CPS would hold up if I don't tell what she told me. I couldn't sleep last night so I told the assistant that she has until noon on Monday to make the call and quit before I make the call on Monday late afternoon and tell everything.
my heart breaks every time I think about it and what really breaks it is because the provider (after I told her it was my child's last day) had the audacity to ask me if I could let her come over a few days out the week because she was going to miss her so much. She kept hugging her and saying she didn't want to say "bye".
Fast forward to this past Thursday. My husband picked up the baby and she was drinking a bottle when he got there (10 hours later) and she had only drunk a total of less than 6oz and her diaper had just been changed making a total of 2 diapers for the entire day.
I go on Friday to drop her off but knew she wouldn't stay long. Just long enough for me to finish a project and attend a virtual meeting. When I drop her off the assistant was there alone (like always) with about 10 kids and she stated she had some things to tell me.
1. When the kids cry she locks them in a back room until they finish or falls asleep.
2. She doesn't know when my daughter needs to be changed so she doesn't change her.
3. She doesn't have time to warm up her milk so she leaves it out the fridge for 10 mins and then serves it.
4. My child doesn't get fed often because she has often times cried herself to sleep.
5. She burns lavender essential oils to help them stay sleep.
6. She doesn't do tummy time nor utilize the play mat I sent because she's not getting on the floor.
7. She 'plucks' the toddlers in the forehead when they don't 'act right'.
8. And she's gone for 1/2 the day at least everyday running errands.
My heart broke when I heard what was taking place. The assistant asked me not to say anything because she doesn't want to get in trouble. So I'm not sure how well my call to the VA licensing and CPS would hold up if I don't tell what she told me. I couldn't sleep last night so I told the assistant that she has until noon on Monday to make the call and quit before I make the call on Monday late afternoon and tell everything.
my heart breaks every time I think about it and what really breaks it is because the provider (after I told her it was my child's last day) had the audacity to ask me if I could let her come over a few days out the week because she was going to miss her so much. She kept hugging her and saying she didn't want to say "bye".
Re: If I didn't love my family I would be in jail...
the other children.
I'm making the call Monday at 1:00 pm. I told the assistant I'm thankful for her giving me the info so I'm giving her a chance to make the first call to clear her of the situation. If she doesn't call and she gets caught up in this then that's her fault and it proves she's just as guilty for sitting back, watching and not being a voice for those babies.
Our baby has been so clingy (more that usual) so we've been holding her, loving on her and letting her comfort nurse. It breaks my heart to know that a neighbor, someone we looked at like a friend would be so evil. Glad my baby is out!
Sorry this is happening and that it falls on you but you are lucky this assistant told you something.
Another thing I would do is sit down and write down every word you can remember the assistant telling you. Document the days and times your baby came home with x amount of diapers and x amount of bottles.
I said the heck with it. I called the abuse and neglect hotline for my state which so happened to be CPS. The rep had the same thing happen to her so she was very sympathetic. She also suggested that I make a report with licensing as well. So I've done both! I guess I'll be the hated neighbor on the block.
You definitely did the right thing and don't let anyone tell you different! You possibly just saved multiple little one's lives!
thats something really hard to do when it's someone you should trust....