Single moms ?

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• SweetnSassy23 member

  January 2016

  A baby adds a lot of stress to a relationship, and everyone is tired. There are bound to be ups and downs. Can you two sit down and communicate your frustrations?  Perhaps you need a date night without LO? Hang in there and good luck!

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• Knottie86443352 member

  January 2016

  I have tried and he just don't listen I guess he's always telling me he can't wait until he leaves me and things like that and it hurts because it's not just one time he says it it's basically on a daily basis sometimes he tells me he rather be at work just so he Dosent see me .. I try to be in a good mood with him and he always kills it and always complains I'm in a bad mood ..

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• SweetnSassy23 member

  January 2016

  If that's the way I was treated, then I would be in a bad mood all the time too. He is emotionally abusing you and you don't have to put up with it. If he's that unhappy perhaps a break would be the best thing. Would he consider counseling?  If not, go on your own and help yourself.

  He has to have a reason for why he's telling you he doesn't want to see you. If he's not communication that, then the relationship is going to struggle substantially. Is he invested in the baby and a good father?  Is he good for you? Do you have a healthy relationship?  Are you and baby in a safe environment?  If the answer is no, then you have to put yourself and baby first.

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• meganraschke member

  January 2016

    this makes me sad. Having a baby has been such a vulnerable experience/time in my life. I am so sorry you are going through this. I don't have any advice, just support. 
  But I will say this, no matter if the two of you stay together or split up you will be in each other's lives. It may be good to point that out to him to encourage him to work on the underlying issues. Because even if you were in a bad mood, your mood isn't what's causing this. And if he is willing to work on the issues hopefully you can save your marriage. 
  

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• ladynesiko member

  January 2016

  As a single mother, pretty good. The selfish thing about it, I have my LO all to myself without being dictated on how to raise my DD. Me and the baby's father have stopped communication since I was 6-7 months pregnant. We haven't. Yes, but all things considered we weren't partners when I conceived her a year ago. Being a single parent with an infant isn't quite so hard as most feared, but I suppose I have the "semi" help from my mother. (I live in the same house as her, so it makes it a bit easier). But, I suppose I am blessed I don't have a colicy/unhappy baby which probably adds to the matter. When your EBF, you are pretty much doing most on your own regardless of partner or not. And if the partner is iffy about changing the baby's diaper, getting them dress or bathing them. If you turn out to be a single parent, it's not the end of the world and you will make it by without the father. It's the matter does he still want to be in the LO life at all, will be the kicker when he/she gets older and wonders where their father is. And why he/she doesn't celebrate father's day.  
  

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• danniellemichelle member

  January 2016

  I am so very sorry you are going through this  
  
  Marriage is not something that will thrive if it is just thrown on the back burner. It's like a plant ... If you don't water it, it will dry up and die.
  
  I agree with the other ladies, one way or another you two will always be in each other's lives because of your child that you share together.
  
  Please consider looking into counseling if possible to get to the root of the problem. 
  
  I really hope it all works out and no matter what you find happiness!  

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