This is mostly going to be a venting session for me, since I've been all keyed up since my doctor appointment yesterday and desperately need to let off some steam. But I'm also looking for some advice. I'm a FTM, also.
I went to my OB yesterday for my 39 week appointment (I'm 39+2 today). She did a cervical check, and I'm still only 1 centimeter dilated and 30% effaced. I know that most people here believe that the condition of your cervix isn't a huge indicator of when you'll go into labor, and I feel the same way. But she also mentioned that LO still hasn't dropped (he's at a -3 station) and this, I feel, does mean that I will likely go past my due date. My OB thought so as well.
Of course, she's fine with letting me go past my due date (as am I), but mentioned that I would need a BPP to check on LO and make sure that he's doing okay in there. So right now, the plan is for me to go back to my OB next Thursday for my 40 week appointment, then schedule a NST and BPP for Friday. My OB said that as long as LO is doing okay in there, she's fine with letting me go to 41 weeks - and then we'll re-assess his condition.
But here is my worry. DH goes on-call at work on February 18th, and when he's on-call, it pretty much means that he's gone all hours of the day and night. I want to give LO as much time as he needs to keep cooking, but I hate cutting his potential delivery date so close to when my husband will be gone. We were hoping that he would at least get a couple weeks of paternity leave to spend at home, helping me out with LO. I brought this up to my doctor and she said that potentially, we could schedule an induction for Monday the 8th - putting me at 40+5. But again, I hate to rush LO out if he's not going to be ready yet - especially if he still hasn't dropped by then, since I feel like it's just a recipe for a C-section.
I know that I just need to take a deep breath, be patient, and wait to see how everything looks at my next appointment/NST/BPP. And I'm trying to. But I can't help but feel so anxious that LO will be 2 weeks overdue, and I'll have him when DH goes on call at work and is gone. Should we induce or should we just let him continue cooking? I don't want to be selfish and rush him out if he's not ready, but I want DH to be at home with us after the birth. I'm so torn.