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November 2015 Moms
mamamadelyn
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Opposite Shifts
mamamadelyn
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So I returned to work recently in order to retain mine and DS' health benefits (DH's health benefits SUCK)... and in order to do so, this meant going back to work full time (at least 35/week business hours only). Childcare really isn't an option for us yet - I don't feel comfortable leaving DS with non-family/non-friends yet and quality care costs almost as much as my monthly take home pay. Our solution to retain my health benefits, yet avoid childcare was for BF to take overnight shifts. We work opposite shifts Monday through Friday. We realized this isn't working and BF is working hard to get a job with great health benefits.
We anticipated the change in his work schedule... but didn't anticipate the toll it is taking on both of us. Weekends are great, but during the week we are like two passing ships - both coming and going. We communicate throughout the day every day, but I am really find myself needing his help in the evening.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? What did you do?
We anticipated the change in his work schedule... but didn't anticipate the toll it is taking on both of us. Weekends are great, but during the week we are like two passing ships - both coming and going. We communicate throughout the day every day, but I am really find myself needing his help in the evening.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? What did you do?
Re: Opposite Shifts
I work 3am to noon and DH works 3pm to midnight. I'm Monday through Friday while he is Sunday through Thursday.
We see each other for lunch each day and then have Friday afternoon, all day Saturday and Sunday mornings.
It it can be tough but it's so worth it to save the money. We also have learned to really make our time together count.
The best thing you can do is get a good system and stick to it. Figure out a good routine and do as much as you can on the weekends to make the week days easier.