So my mom is moving closer to is to be near her new first granddaughter. We worked out a deal that I would pay her to watch my daughter 2 days a week, and then she would find another part time job to pay her bills.
But she fell into an awesome situation where her apartment is attached to a house with an older lady... And the owners are letting my mom live in the apartment rent free, but are also paying her more than what I bring home to keep an eye on this older lady... (Cook for her, do her laundry, keep her company).
We had originally agreed to $10 an hour... Which would come out to like $640 a month... To watch my daughter only 2 days a week. It seemed like a lot in the first place, but this was when she was worrying about paying rent and finding another job... Now that she isn't paying rent and pretty much making more than me... I don't want to pay her as much.
Don't get me wrong... I will pay her... I just don't know what's fair.
Any help or suggestions are greatly appreciated!!!! Thank you.
Re: What to pay my mother to babysit.
I definitely think what you worked out is too much, maybe offer her somewhere between $80-$100/week and see what she says.
For example, I pay $40 per day for care that goes from 8:30-4:30. My daughter is provided 2 snacks and 1 meal per day plus milk and water to drink.
If I could make her take more I would. I feel weird that she watches my son and does my dishes every day for a pittance. It feels like I am taking advantage of her. But she it's always saying she feels guilty for taking money for watching her own grandson.
It all depends what your relationship with your mom is. I mean, you already came to an agreement....
Would you pay a nanny $10 to care for your child? $10 is on the low end...so you might actually be making out cheap AND you don't have to deal with the hassle of searching for nanny, daycare, etc. I assume you trust your mom with your child, so you also won't have those initial trust issues you might have with a nanny or daycare.
DD #1: 2012; MMC: 2014; DD #2: 2015; It's a boy! 3/31/2018
I wish i coukd could tell you it worked out but it didn’t.
A few months into the arrangement, my mom started making mention of all the nannies she would meet and how much they make. At that point, I was ready to put Ds in daycare so that we could get out of this arrangement (she was very passive aggressive and emotionally abusive) but she didn’t want to stop watching ds. It was horrible - she was getting more resentful and so was I. Long story short, I don’t have a relationship w her today (my decision) because of what we went through dealing with her.
Bottom line: if you can help it, it’s best not to mix family and money. If you have the type of mom that’s going to help in exchange for the pleasure of helping and you can do nice things for her (gift certificates etc) than do it. But if it’s more of an arrangement, it can really cause a lot of drama.
DS: 18 months
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