Has anyone ever?

-lc- · January 2016

I recently found out I was pregnant with my boyfriend. We are living together and have been dating for 8 months. I was having some doubts during the month I conceived (before I found out) and now I'm beyond worried that because I was having doubts about him, when we bring this baby into the world we aren't going to work out. This baby will be our first and he is completely in love with me and has been since we met. He would marry me tomorrow if I would do it. Am I just letting hormones get the best of me!? lol

Has anyone been in a situation similar to mine? Did the relationship last? I feel so discouraged that we haven't been together long and are having a baby. It's just not logical to me which is what scares me.

No judgement!!

RedMar · January 2016

We were engaged after 5 mos of being together and then married a year later. So personally, I don't think 8 mos is all that daunting of a number.

Take it slow, OP. If you're having any doubts, just mentally go for a longgggg engagement. No need to rush into marriage just because you're pregnant. That needs to be a decision you both make, not one the baby decides for you.

My parents got married because of me (mom was ~5 mos pregnant in wedding photos). But that was a different time period IMO. My mother's side is extremely Catholic and having a baby out of wedlock was taboo. Well the religious reasoning didn't hold out since they eventually divorced and both re-married, but it always gives me a weird feeling that I'm the top "reason" they wed.

-lc- · January 2016

Yeah I definitely said I don't want to get married yet. I want to wait for a while. I'm just concerned that I will be having a baby with someone I won't be with down the road. I know how common this is, it just isn't what i imagined for my life.

persingerma · January 2016

A relationship counselor may be reassuring for you. My husband and I have had check-ins periodically with a counselor since we got engaged. It helps keep communication open and offers a safe mediation when we're having issues.

jennlynn777 · January 2016

Me! No judgement but I found out I was expecting right after I met my DH. I must have been ovulating our first time because bam I'm pregnant! At about the 4 month mark of my pregnancy we started having some seirous relationship issues. He just wasn't the person I had hope he would be. He probably thought the same of me. The added pressure of caring for a child soon probably didn't help matters. The baby was born and things were better but not great. Then when my daughter was 9 months old I found out I was expecting number 2 and it was decidd we should get married. We are both Christians and really didn't like the idea of bringing another child into the world out of wedlock. We wanted that union for her. We went through a few more rough years with counseling and communicating and now we've been married for 10 years. I think if its a relationship you BOTH really want then you won't let situations and personalities end it. My husband and I both really love each other but we understand now we were young and under a ton of pressure. I think we would have had a much easier relationship had a child not been introduced so early. I'm glad we stuck it out because I couldn't imagine my life without him.

HaidensMom96 · January 2016

This might sound insane but I don't care lol.

I met my DH , Then 3 months later we got engaged.. Then 4 months later we got married . I ran away and got married at 18.. I got pregnant with my first a month in half when we got married .. So I never tend to judge people who " rush" lol . I've been married 2 years going on 3 and I'm expecting our 2 nd . Couldn't be happier. My family judged me so hard .. But does it look like I gave a shit lol. They might still do. Idc lol. It will work . Put all your effort towards it and realize this.. You have one life with this guy .. One life .. Do you really want to spend it fighting ?

irishblessings916 · January 2016

This was our situation, too. We were together for 4 months before I found out I was pregnant. There were a lot of ups and downs, especially with me being pregnant, hormonal and living with him and his dad. But, we just celebrated our 5 year anniversary this past September. And now having our 2nd in September this year.

mommytimesfour · January 2016

I haven't been in your situation, but I don't think the amount of time you've been together will make or break you. If you love each other and have a strong relationship, it absolutely could be a great and lasting thing. With that said, I'm a huge believer in NOT getting married or staying together just for the sake of being pregnant or having a child. I wouldn't make any kind of marriage related decisions right now. Having a baby is a huge deal and it will impact your relationship (in good and bad ways). Get used to parenthood together and then reevaluate and decide if you want to get married.

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