Why are people the WORST???

PCOSat25 · January 2016

Personal gripe for a moment...

Today we went to a birthday celebration for my husband. He is leaving for 10 months in 2 weeks so it was a good opportunity for family to get together. Apparently it was another attendees birthday (one year old) so it turned into a joint celebration. My husband is NOT big on birthdays so he definitely did not care but it would have been nice to at least be told about this before the event.

Anyway my husband and the one year old opened presents at the same time...alternating. I was moving around serving cake to everyone while this went on. My mother-in-law pulled me aside to point out a specific gift and told me to make sure I watched my husband open it. My husband pulls up this gift bag and begins pulling out item after item of baby clothing. My mother-in-law is just laughing hysterically saying "oops those items must be for the one year old". At the bottom of the bag there was a shirt for my husband. She wrapped the items in the same bag...on purpose...and then made sure I was there to witness her "joke". She is fully aware that we have been TTC for over two years and are actively treating with injectables and IUIs.

People are the WORST!!!

brandiwiggins91 · January 2016

Oh no!!! That is so insensitive!!!! I bet your hubby didn't take it well...

I am sorry that you had to experience that! People just don't seem to understand.

arbasham · January 2016

Wow. That is incredibly rude and insensitive. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

AandDM2014 · January 2016

Oh my gosh.

I can't believe your MIL would do that! Has she always been that way toward you? I just can't even imagine someone being that terrible.

I am so sorry that this has happened to you. I sincerely hope that you only see her a few times a year.

tvh1982 · January 2016

Oh, I am so sorry to hear/read that. My heart broke a little for you two.
That was definitely the worse I have heard so far.
I hope you and your DH are doing ok, and can put that cruel joke besides you.
Enjoy the next to weeks with your DH, only do fun stuff, and forget about the MIL.
xoxo

ultratomato · January 2016

Wow that is really crappy. She should be supporting you both. She would be the last one to know if you got a BFP.

oxinfree · January 2016

Not only is this insensitive, it's just plain weird. My mother and MIL are very cautious around the topic because they want nothing more than us to be happy. I can't imagine not having their support of all people. I'm so incredibly sorry you had to go through that. Ugh. Infertility is really an incredibly challenging thing to go through, and then to have others just basically smack you down even further, the worst.

vssbrm · January 2016

@PCOSat25 I am so sorry you had to endure that. That is crappy. I hope you were able to express to get how that was inappropriate!

I hope the 10 months fly by while he is away.

laurenlalap · January 2016

What is wrong with people!!!! That is so insensitive. Ugh! I hate people

Tulips29 · January 2016

What was she thinking? I'm sorry you both had to go through that. People really do suck!

mskeenan · January 2016

Omg what the hell ? How could that be funny to anyone ? On any level ? TTC or not . It's not funny . How did you guys react ? I would be infuriated and would want to minimize contact for awhile . I'm so sorry that this happened to y'all . You don't deserve to be treated with such disrespect . I'm angry for you

kaityh1 · January 2016

I'm so sorry! That is NOT ok... How could she even think that would be funny? I've been dealing with some very inconsiderate family members as well but not to this level. I hope you two are doing ok!

laurenlindsey09 · January 2016

that is probably the worst thing I've heard of happening to a person going through all of this!

We have been trying for over 2 years as well and I think my DR is about to put me on injectables...I'm feeling your pain here!

Al I keep hearing is "did you know, so and so's pregnant?"...and I'm all, "didn't you know I don't care?" lol

PCOSat25 · January 2016

Thanks for all the support everyone! I was in such shock I just walked out of the room and poured myself a glass of wine (which I then only took a few sips of...stupid tww). My husband played it off really well. He is generally mr. Cool. He brought it up on the ride home saying he was super offended by it and I just LOST IT and balled. He said he was going to talk to his dad about it but I asked him not too. It wouldn't change anything and would probably just turn into my reliving the moment in conversation multiple times...

I am so glad I can come here and vent. You ladies mean the world to me!

smdrodgers · January 2016

Seriously, that is the worst thing I can imagine! Why on earth would she think that was funny?? Oh MILs are the worst!! And if you had done anything similar to her, you would have been the awful DIL.

Did you/DH say anything to her about how hurtful that was?

riveridgional · January 2016

There. Are. No. Words. I showed this post to my husband, and his mouth just dropped open. All I can say is, you are a much bigger person than me for walking out of the room and telling DH not to bring it up with his parents. I mean, wow. Just, wow. There would have definitely been a scene either at the party or shortly thereafter or outside.

susykat77 · January 2016

Seriously. WTF. WTF. WTF. Why did she do that!?!? Just horrible. I am so sorry you had to go through that. Big (creepy internet) hugs.

blessedmama82 · January 2016

That is really mean. It's hard to imagine somebody doing that. Some people can be really heartless.

tvh1982 · January 2016

You've handled that very mature @PCOSat25, (and so did your DH) but do remember that you are allowed to get it of your chest and tell them how it make you feel, and that you may say that that's the end of the conversation.

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