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Work talk: How far to plan ahead in the early weeks

BernieRaeBernieRae member
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Not sure if this is a vent or a question... I'm a preschool teacher and my school likes to plan for the following school year around this time. I met with my director right after my IUI and we talked about the possibility for me to teach in a new classroom next year.  They're trying to finalize that teaching team in the next couple of weeks and I've been asked to meet and discuss things tomorrow. I am just 5 weeks and not ready to bring this up with my director. He does know that I've been doing infertility treatments. I decided to share why I was missing some work and he was very supportive. If everything works out (FX!!!!) I would not teach for that first year. If it doesn't work out (no!) I would want this new opportunity. I think I would be ok saying something if everything goes well at my first ultrasound in two weeks. Still really early, but I'd know a lot more than I know now. It just feels weird not disclosing that there is like an 80% chance that I won't be there next year. Any words of wisdom???

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Re: Work talk: How far to plan ahead in the early weeks

  • Wyattnash00Wyattnash00 member
    Since you've been honest with your boss already, I think you can be a bit vague, 'you know we're doing infertility treatments, I would love this opportunity but if I get pregnant in the next few months I would take time off,' see what she says. Then in another few weeks you can share the great news. You'd rather her know at least that much information as opposed to her counting on you as part of the new team. I used to teach preschool too;)
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  • Sporty1216Sporty1216 member
    I agree with @Wyattnash00 If your boss has been supportive thus far, you can probably drop a hint about what would happen were you to have a newborn soon. ;) I am in a somewhat similar situation. I do the scheduling at my school and I was not ready to discuss maternity leave plans yet--I will after the first scan, probably. However, I also wanted to set things up for an easy transition assuming I am out next fall/year. I scheduled myself in a such a way that it will be easy to find subs. So that was my compromise.

    I think it's important to remember too, though, that as much as we love our workplaces and our coworkers, we actually don't have to build our maternity plans around what is best for them. I did that the first time and got screwed. This time, I will do my best to be considerate of them, but I will also be putting my needs and my baby's needs first. I have been advocating this with other coworkers who have recently been pregnant and all has been well-received by the administration.

    Good luck with your decision!
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  • BernieRaeBernieRae member
    Thank you @wyattnash00 and @sporty1216! I overthink how to word things, and your advice helps me see what I can say to give him a heads up without really telling him.
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