my gif-ing isn't cooperating today, but it'll work. Love my company, hate my current position. Working as a residential case manager, it's comparable to the staff on the floor being the babysitters and me being 'Mom'. " **** said a cuss word!" "***** didn't go to bed on time, what are you going to do about it?"
It's my birthday and it's a MONDAY, and I had to drive to work on icy roads. The main roads weren't too bad, but my local streets were absolutely terrible. I was hoping that my boss wouldn't come in today, due to the weather, but I just heard that he's on his way. Womp womp.
Dear SIL, texting "Sorry, I can't make it for dinner." 10 minutes before you say you're going to be there isn't cool. The excuse? She decided to have people over at the last minutes to watch some wrestling Pay-Per-View last night. She can just go STRAIGHT to hell. That's where she can go...
Woke up at 3am last night because DD was crying. She threw up all in her bed, I started gagging and almost threw up and then had to give her a bath. She also didn't want to go back to sleep after that because she thought it was playtime. So tired.
@amandazap that is really shitty! What she told you is probably the truth, but also not a valid reason to cancel at the last minute! So inconsiderate!!
@Lynnlove28 that sounds terrible! I'm sorry! In hope your DD feels better.
@MSUgrad12 That's the sad part-she was definitely telling the truth haha! Like, who would actually admit to that?? My husband is a huge wrestling fan (more than I would like to admit) and he even rolled his eyes.
@Lynnlove28 Dang, I hope she's feeling better! My kiddos were both up early coughing and blowing their noses. It's going to be a long week!
My bitchfest... We found out last night that my husband's ex, with who he has a 5-year-old, basically received legal custody. The plan signed by the judge says that they have joint legal and physical custody but then goes on to say that she gets the final say in decisions where they can't agree, and that her residence is the "primary residence" (which means he'll be moving schools every time mom moves). This is the same woman who has lived in three different houses in the last 6 months, has tried to keep her son from his dad every time she gets mad at him, and refuses to let him participate in extra curricular activities because SHE works weekends. Not only that, but she has severe social anxiety and has never, in her son's entire life, taken him to a doctor's appointment by herself. I sent a very strongly worded e-mail to our lawyer because she neglected to tell us this information, which was determined and signed off on over a week ago. Looks like it's time to find a new lawyer...
Me: 25 DH: 28
Hubby's little boy - my wonderful step-son - born 5/23/10
BFP#1: 06/2010...my beautiful baby girl born 3/7/2011
BFP #2: 10/24/15...mc on 10/31/15
BFP #3: 11/27/15. EDD 8/6/16
"Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm." -Winston Churchill
I was finally going to spill the beans at work. My co-worker has been in a terrible mood for like 6 months now, (because she is TTC and it isn't working out like she planned), well, she has made work a living hell for the past few days and has taken ALL of the joy out of my sonogram and excitement. I ended up telling my boss. But I still have no idea how to tell her. She is going to make work next to impossible for me.
I just want to be excited about little love!
first time momma -a heart at peace gives life to the body-
No major complaints. Just the fact that I'm at work after only getting 1 day off this weekend and I'm not at home snuggling my DD, eating girl scout cookies and watching Elmo...
@Lynnlove28 It's just the temporary order. The main problem is that my step-son is in a school he's no longer assigned to right now, so my husband and I were trying to convince the mom to move him to the school we're assigned to since we own our home and won't be moving, plus it's a better school. But unfortunately the mom is not very intelligent and doesn't understand how school assignments/districts work, so she's basically saying she's going to keep him there (but not doing any of the necessary opt-in paperwork). At the end of the school year, if her residence is still primary, he'll end up getting put in the school that her boyfriend's friend's rental house is assigned to since that's where she lives right now, and WHEN she moves again before he starts 3rd grade (the required 2 years living in the same school district before they'll "grandfather" him in), they'll make him switch schools again. I'm infuriated that our lawyer didn't fight this, let alone tell us. The texts we provided her were more than enough proof that my step-son's mom is barely fit to care for herself, let alone be responsible for another human.
Me: 25 DH: 28
Hubby's little boy - my wonderful step-son - born 5/23/10
BFP#1: 06/2010...my beautiful baby girl born 3/7/2011
BFP #2: 10/24/15...mc on 10/31/15
BFP #3: 11/27/15. EDD 8/6/16
"Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm." -Winston Churchill
I was finally going to spill the beans at work. My co-worker has been in a terrible mood for like 6 months now, (because she is TTC and it isn't working out like she planned), well, she has made work a living hell for the past few days and has taken ALL of the joy out of my sonogram and excitement. I ended up telling my boss. But I still have no idea how to tell her. She is going to make work next to impossible for me.
I just want to be excited about little love!
My advice: I would just tell her. Don't make it a big deal and I wouldn't talk about anything baby related to her in the future. If she reacts negatively there is nothing wrong with walking away (if you guys aren't close, personally). Trust me, she will just bring you down. This is your news and your joy. If she does stoop so low as to make work hell for you, I would absolutely tell your boss what is going on. 1: you don't need that kind of stress and 2: no one should make a working environment that hostile.
My phone fell in the pool yesterday while I was playing outside with DS. I tried to not freak out in front of him but in the end I was all... It's currently sitting in container of rice at home, I'm praying it works tonight.
I was finally going to spill the beans at work. My co-worker has been in a terrible mood for like 6 months now, (because she is TTC and it isn't working out like she planned), well, she has made work a living hell for the past few days and has taken ALL of the joy out of my sonogram and excitement. I ended up telling my boss. But I still have no idea how to tell her. She is going to make work next to impossible for me.
I just want to be excited about little love!
My advice: I would just tell her. Don't make it a big deal and I wouldn't talk about anything baby related to her in the future. If she reacts negatively there is nothing wrong with walking away (if you guys aren't close, personally). Trust me, she will just bring you down. This is your news and your joy. If she does stoop so low as to make work hell for you, I would absolutely tell your boss what is going on. 1: you don't need that kind of stress and 2: no one should make a working environment that hostile.
@amandazap I totally agree. I just need to bite the bullet and do it. But my introverted, non-confrontational self is struggling.
first time momma -a heart at peace gives life to the body-
We are staying with my parents until we finish up the house buying process (prob another month) and DD has suddenly stopped sleeping through the night. She's two and never have I had this issue with her before. We have a baby monitor and in the middle of the night she's having nightmares and then up. To keep from disrupting the rest of the family I bring her to our room and there's really no sleeping. My whole body hurts from maneuvering myself into a somewhat comfortable position, DD doesn't like to be touched in her sleep lol. SO! Needless to say I'm exhausted and quite frankly losing my mind.
How long until I have my own space? How long until my child has her own room to cry in at night? UGH
@Lynnlove28 ugh that's awful! Having to wash off a child and changing the sheets in the middle of the night is the worst!
@jacmkelley DS has started waking up around 2:30 the last few night and he usually is just babbling and talking to himself, but I would lose it if I had to bring him into bed with us. I never sleep worse than when he's kicking me in the stomach all night.
It's Monday, my dd didn't not sleep for crap last night, my ds was puking last night, and I still had to get up and come to work. The people here are driving me crazy and all I want to do is go home and take a nap.
@Bookhousegirl I have no idea what's going on with her! She's a kicker too. So I have like 3 inches of room to sleep on my side. It's absolutely horrible. I would enjoy holding her and sleeping, she's not attached to me any other time than bed time. She's a total daddy's girl. So I'm soaking up the snuggles, but thirty minutes after falling asleep my arm starts to hurt. And when I move it the kicking and pushing begins. I'm definitely pulling out my hair at this point.
My SIL is the sweetest, and she has a medical condition that requires the use of a service dog. I'm so fed up with hearing stories about people making her life difficult because they can't behave themselves around her dog! People distract the dog by talking to him or petting him, they stare at her, or they ask her rude, prying questions about her health and the reason that she has a service dog.
Where the hell has common courtesy gone! The dog wears a vest with patches that clearly say, "Service Dog" and "Do Not Distract." Seriously people, just ignore the dog and let him do his job!
I got crap from my friends and as well as my coworkers bc I didn't make my husband go to a 1 year olds birthday party on Saturday. He actually stayed home and did a practice run for his cook off in 2 weeks. (Something he paid $300 to be involved in) I can't tell you how many times I was told "that's not a good excuse".
Sorry, I'm the wife that doesn't force my husband to go to kids birthday parties or weddings if he doesn't want to go.
34 Mother of 4 year old and 2 Labs. Happily Married to my Hubs of 6 years.
Post blizzard 2016 in DC: DH shoveled an hour straight to take us to my NT scan/blood test today. Neighbors were taking pics of him trying to shovel the street so he can move the car and I was getting so annoyed because all I could think about was making this appt. This gentleman was kind enough to help us out and they both shoveled enough of the street for us to get our car out. We have no idea how we are going to get back to the city and find parking (only street parking available). There are too many cars still buried and smaller residential areas are left untouched by the plow trucks. UGH!!!!!! Ooo-ssah, we are here now in the waiting room. Hope all is good with baby.
Wow seems like it was a rough night for the kiddos last night.
I too had a rough night with my 10 month old. He would not sleep in his crib so of course he ended up on our bed and sure enough come 6am our 4yr old decides to come in the bed party too. My back is killing me.
TMI - I also think I'm getting a yeast infection time to schedule a doctor appointment.
I have been getting awful headaches lasting about 48 hours off and on for the past couple weeks. Tylenol did nothing, upping water intake did nothing, a massage did nothing, etc. etc. I also have awful allergies and held off until week 11 to take any antihistamines or decongestants. Well, after the awful headache returning last night and still being here this morning, even after Tylenol, I thought well, I am 12 weeks today, my head is also stuffy... time to break down and get Sudafed. So before work I stop by the pharmacy, and learn I can't buy Sudafed because my license expired Saturday (whoops). So I trek to work, headache raging, and go online, and learn I have to go in person to the DMV to renew my license... no luck online. So, over lunch, I go to the dmv, get a new license, and enjoy that fun. Make it back to the office downtown, work more on a deliverable due today, then walk .25 miles (in Texas we think that's far) to CVS. Get to the counter, and lo and behold, they are clean out of pseudoephedrine, except the one with Aleve in it... well that won't work.
So now I am back at the office, my head still hurts, I have no Sudafed, and will have no Sudafed until this evening, if and when the project due today is done.
I'm 10w3d today and told most of my immediate family at about 9 weeks. I had a MC last June and made the mistake of telling my SIL who I was once close to, all the details of the MC. The week after I told her, she, at a family bbq, decides to start complaining about how hard it is to have a 1 year old, how her body has changed, how no one warned her how difficult being a new mom was. Needless to say, I flipped out on her and it caused a huge rift between my brother, mother, and myself. Jump to today, my mother asked me if I had told this brother in particular that I am currently pregnant. I told her I wouldn't until at least 12 weeks as his wife was the last person in the world I wated to talk to were anything to go wrong. So what does my mother do, goes ahead and tells my SIL....??!! I'm to the point now where I no longer care about this stupid fairness BS and am only focusing on this little one. I'm pretty sure my relationship with my mom is shot.
P.S. My mom stuck around for my nephews birth. The ENTIRE birth....then told me she thinks it should just be a private affair between the mother and father.
I was finally going to spill the beans at work. My co-worker has been in a terrible mood for like 6 months now, (because she is TTC and it isn't working out like she planned), well, she has made work a living hell for the past few days and has taken ALL of the joy out of my sonogram and excitement. I ended up telling my boss. But I still have no idea how to tell her. She is going to make work next to impossible for me.
I just want to be excited about little love!
As someone who has struggled TTC, her moods probably have nothing to do with you or work or anything even related. It's just her way of taking out her emotions. That doesn't make her actions it right, but just try not to take it personal. You should tell her, maybe just privately so she's not forced to react if you announce in a group of people - I was never good at that and it just made me want to cry. As for the work environment, if she's specifically targeting you, I would definitely report it to either your boss or HR. I had an issue with someone a few years ago and it was actually investigated, and now the person barely says boo to me. I felt a little bad, but it was worth it for my quality of life at work.
I got crap from my friends and as well as my coworkers bc I didn't make my husband go to a 1 year olds birthday party on Saturday. He actually stayed home and did a practice run for his cook off in 2 weeks. (Something he paid $300 to be involved in)
I can't tell you how many times I was told "that's not a good excuse".
Sorry, I'm the wife that doesn't force my husband to go to kids birthday parties or weddings if he doesn't want to go.
Ha! I would have said "well a child's birthday party wasn't a good excuse for him to miss out of practice for his big event." People need to mind their business!
Having a really rough Monday. I am super unmotivated and uninspired by my job lately. Does anyone else know that feeling where you're so bored you feel kind of depressed? I kind of thought the pregnancy would help my motivation at work because there's the extra incentive of providing for my future child. But instead I'm even more checked out at work because my mind is on the baby (we have our first doctor's appointment tomorrow!), and I can't imagine, after maternity leave is up, leaving my baby in a day care to come here all day every day. I am starting to think I should just resign from my job and then find a new one when I'm ready after the baby.
@jacmkelley I love the snuggles too (although DS is a total snuggler in general so I get my fill during the day as well), but I learned my lesson one night when DH was on a business trip and I decided to let him sleep in with me. Holy moly, it was such a mistake! I remind myself of that night every time I'm tempted to bring him into bed with us.
I'm not going to lie, we do let him cry it out some (and did when he was a baby as well - not really young but once we started sleep training) and it has been a life saver. It's the worst part of staying in close proximity to other people though, I can't be a total jerk and wake everyone up by letting him cry and fuss for a little while.
@1faceinacrowd OMG we have the same issues going on! My husband and I are also going thru a custody battle with his ex. Everything is always a power struggle since the other parent is the primary residence. And the constant moving, well she's done that too. There's so much more to it that I am not going to post publicly, but I feel your pain. It's very frustrating how the court system still favors mothers; I wish that would change.
As for my bitch fest, Jonas hit us hard here. I had to go to work this weekend, since I am an essential employee. I live in a community where maintenance is responsible for plowing. It's 2 days post storm, and my road has not been touched. Needless to say, I am trapped in since my husband had to go out of town.
@Abfisher Yep, our lawyer actually told us today that the judge we're assigned to generally favors mothers, and tends to give mothers SOLE custody. She said we should be grateful that my husband got joint anything. So now I'm really nervous about the final hearing... We have a ton of evidence showing that his ex flat out doesn't care about what's best for her son (she tries to keep him from his dad whenever she's mad, for example) but I wonder if it'll be enough to sway a biased judge. Ugh. So stressful. Sorry you're going through it too.
Me: 25 DH: 28
Hubby's little boy - my wonderful step-son - born 5/23/10
BFP#1: 06/2010...my beautiful baby girl born 3/7/2011
BFP #2: 10/24/15...mc on 10/31/15
BFP #3: 11/27/15. EDD 8/6/16
"Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm." -Winston Churchill
I hate when people tell me I'm going to get "baby brain" and start slipping when thinking analytically (which is my job as an engineer). And even more, I hate that it's possible for that to happen. I refuse. I had to work really hard to gain intellectual respect in my field, and having a child shouldn't change that.
@kwilliams3402 I'm in Texas too, we had that entire discussion the other day about them. Wonder if it's something in the weather or air? Mine aren't as bad as they were but they are still frequent.
@Bookhousegirl yes, I swear letting her sleep with us is so bad for her routine! I've been the bath at 7, in bed by 7:30 and book before lights out kind of mom. So the waking up every night is killing me! And whatever everyone says 12 weeks you aren't tired anymore and with DD it did get better but I'm pretty sure having a LO and working full time I'm never going to feel rested again!!!!
I hate when people tell me I'm going to get "baby brain" and start slipping when thinking analytically (which is my job as an engineer). And even more, I hate that it's possible for that to happen. I refuse. I had to work really hard to gain intellectual respect in my field, and having a child shouldn't change that.
I'm an engineer and thankfully my coworkers (all male) weren't biased at all. I actually appreciated working with all men because they basically treated me the same as before. Where as, all the women in my church would not stop sharing gross stories and giving unwanted advice. In the last trimester my coworkers would say things like "wow you're big now" but it was just them being blunt and honest, and in that environment no offense was taken by the comments. I loved my escape from the prying questions of women.
I found that when my brain wasn't working so well a quick walk around the office would get the blood flowing and when I sat back down I could function as normal.
I went on etsy and got the cutest pregnancy announcement made. I got it printed on poster board so that I could take a picture with our pup with it. I took it out and, of course, he is scared to death of it. I was so excited and it was going to be so cute, but I don't think the picture will happen anymore. Not a huge complaint, just a little bit of a bummer.
@jacmkelley - 24 hours of sudafed later, and my head no longer hurts and I have all kinds of grossness coming out of my nose. I'm thinking mine was mostly sinus headache!
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@Lynnlove28 that sounds terrible! I'm sorry! In hope your DD feels better.
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My bitchfest... We found out last night that my husband's ex, with who he has a 5-year-old, basically received legal custody. The plan signed by the judge says that they have joint legal and physical custody but then goes on to say that she gets the final say in decisions where they can't agree, and that her residence is the "primary residence" (which means he'll be moving schools every time mom moves). This is the same woman who has lived in three different houses in the last 6 months, has tried to keep her son from his dad every time she gets mad at him, and refuses to let him participate in extra curricular activities because SHE works weekends. Not only that, but she has severe social anxiety and has never, in her son's entire life, taken him to a doctor's appointment by herself. I sent a very strongly worded e-mail to our lawyer because she neglected to tell us this information, which was determined and signed off on over a week ago.
Looks like it's time to find a new lawyer...
I just want to be excited about little love!
-a heart at peace gives life to the body-
I'm infuriated that our lawyer didn't fight this, let alone tell us. The texts we provided her were more than enough proof that my step-son's mom is barely fit to care for herself, let alone be responsible for another human.
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It's currently sitting in container of rice at home, I'm praying it works tonight.
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My whole body hurts from maneuvering myself into a somewhat comfortable position, DD doesn't like to be touched in her sleep lol. SO! Needless to say I'm exhausted and quite frankly losing my mind.
How long until I have my own space? How long until my child has her own room to cry in at night?
UGH
@jacmkelley DS has started waking up around 2:30 the last few night and he usually is just babbling and talking to himself, but I would lose it if I had to bring him into bed with us. I never sleep worse than when he's kicking me in the stomach all night.
Where the hell has common courtesy gone! The dog wears a vest with patches that clearly say, "Service Dog" and "Do Not Distract." Seriously people, just ignore the dog and let him do his job!
I can't tell you how many times I was told "that's not a good excuse".
Sorry, I'm the wife that doesn't force my husband to go to kids birthday parties or weddings if he doesn't want to go.
I too had a rough night with my 10 month old. He would not sleep in his crib
TMI - I also think I'm getting a yeast infection
I have been getting awful headaches lasting about 48 hours off and on for the past couple weeks. Tylenol did nothing, upping water intake did nothing, a massage did nothing, etc. etc. I also have awful allergies and held off until week 11 to take any antihistamines or decongestants. Well, after the awful headache returning last night and still being here this morning, even after Tylenol, I thought well, I am 12 weeks today, my head is also stuffy... time to break down and get Sudafed. So before work I stop by the pharmacy, and learn I can't buy Sudafed because my license expired Saturday (whoops). So I trek to work, headache raging, and go online, and learn I have to go in person to the DMV to renew my license... no luck online. So, over lunch, I go to the dmv, get a new license, and enjoy that fun. Make it back to the office downtown, work more on a deliverable due today, then walk .25 miles (in Texas we think that's far) to CVS. Get to the counter, and lo and behold, they are clean out of pseudoephedrine, except the one with Aleve in it... well that won't work.
So now I am back at the office, my head still hurts, I have no Sudafed, and will have no Sudafed until this evening, if and when the project due today is done.
WAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.
Jump to today, my mother asked me if I had told this brother in particular that I am currently pregnant. I told her I wouldn't until at least 12 weeks as his wife was the last person in the world I wated to talk to were anything to go wrong. So what does my mother do, goes ahead and tells my SIL....??!!
I'm to the point now where I no longer care about this stupid fairness BS and am only focusing on this little one. I'm pretty sure my relationship with my mom is shot.
P.S.
My mom stuck around for my nephews birth. The ENTIRE birth....then told me she thinks it should just be a private affair between the mother and father.
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
I'm not going to lie, we do let him cry it out some (and did when he was a baby as well - not really young but once we started sleep training) and it has been a life saver. It's the worst part of staying in close proximity to other people though, I can't be a total jerk and wake everyone up by letting him cry and fuss for a little while.
As for my bitch fest, Jonas hit us hard here. I had to go to work this weekend, since I am an essential employee. I live in a community where maintenance is responsible for plowing. It's 2 days post storm, and my road has not been touched. Needless to say, I am trapped in since my husband had to go out of town.
@Bookhousegirl yes, I swear letting her sleep with us is so bad for her routine! I've been the bath at 7, in bed by 7:30 and book before lights out kind of mom. So the waking up every night is killing me! And whatever everyone says 12 weeks you aren't tired anymore and with DD it did get better but I'm pretty sure having a LO and working full time I'm never going to feel rested again!!!!
I found that when my brain wasn't working so well a quick walk around the office would get the blood flowing and when I sat back down I could function as normal.