How did you/are you going to tell extended family/friends?

eightynine · January 2016

I have a big family, and I am pretty close to most of them. I'm also lucky enough to have lots of friends, close ones and the kind I see once or twice a year to catch up with.

Of course my immediate family and close friends have/will hear about my pregnancy in person. But what about everyone else? I'm genuinely close to almost all of my aunts/uncles and most of my cousins. The thought of having literally dozens of "I'm pregnant!" Phone calls is exhausting, though. Is it OK for my mom to tell her sisters, for example, or should I?

I'm seeing one cousin I've always been particularly close to in a month, so I'll tell her in person. But then I feel guilty because I won't be able to tell her sister in person (she lives several hours away). Ah!! It's a lot.

ecwk · January 2016

Tell those who you can in person once you are ready. It is fine for them to spread the news. My parents told their siblings, for example.
Just make sure that you are ready for people to know once you start telling people. Sometimes people are so excited they may let the news slip before you are ready for a wider group of people to know!
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suchaglencoco · January 2016

You're over thinking things. Tell who you can and want to in person and let the rest find out how they find out. If someone honestly gets upset you didn't tell them in person, that's their problem. I'm sure most people will just be excited for you.
If you're really worried, my other suggestion would be to mail announcements out or send emails.

arcanejinx · January 2016

I agree with PP-you are over thinking it. No one is going to be really upset if they don't get told in person but so-and-so did, and if they do act like that, why would you want someone like that in your life?

My mom really wanted to tell my Grandma, so I let her share the news-and once Grandma knows, everyone would know. We both agreed to wait till around 10 weeks (I found out early early) then extended it to 12-I actually didn't talk with extended family till around 20 weeks as I was just too exhausted with life to deal with pregnancy excitement, worry, and questions. Once she was told it went on facebook. Prior to that I sent out a group chat to my closest friends so they learned all at once-DH texted his best friends as well. That was it. No one said a word about how they found out etc, as again, they were just happy for us.

teachmegs817 · January 2016

We told immediate family in person. DH's mom, dad, grandpa, etc. and same with my side. We had photos taken and I made them into a Shutterfly announcement that I sent out to some out of town family and we used the cards to tell other immediate family members too. Once I hit the 12-13 week mark, I posted the card on Facebook for the rest of our family and friends to see.

BrightenMySky · January 2016

Just a little different way to look at things. I plan to tell many of my friends over email (we are not geographically close, so it's that or phone) so they can react privately. I know some have fertility struggles, or are likely to. I did, and I found it was much better to get someone else's good news in private so I could collect my thoughts and then be totally happy when we spoke.

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