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Christmas gift question

2bulldogmom2bulldogmom member
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Hi! I hope no one finds this question offensive, but I'm hoping to get opinions on a blended family issue. My sister and her husband were married for over ten years and finally (after many challenging years) decided to divorce. She has two boys with him that are 11 and 9. She is now remarried to a man that has two kids of his own, similar in age to my nephews. I have never met him or his children because my sister lives across the country and her new husband has his own child custody issues. My question is, do you think I should send Christmas gifts to my sister's step-children, too? Or just my nephews? If so, should they be equal in price or spend more on my nephews? Any advice/opinions is appreciated!
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Re: Christmas gift question

  • midge519midge519 member
    If you send gifts for your bio nephews you should send down thing as well for your step children. They don't need to be expensive, but they should definitely show some sort of recognition to them as well. They are one family and not including them makes them feel like they aren't part of the family.
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  • mhwoodmhwood member
    If they are all similar in age, consider going in on a family present.  Pooling the money into one pot to buy something larger all 4 boys can enjoy might work out better in the long run.

    It could be anything from an experience (night out at laser tag) to a giftcard to buy their favourite video games.
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  • sugarpixxie2sugarpixxie2 member
    I have a blended family and I am so grateful when my husband's family sends my kids things.  We don't expect it but it really makes you feel included.  I know you haven't met them but I'm sure he would like to meet her family and be a part of it.  I think it is a great gesture if you can send them all something.  If you can't I don't think they would be offended though.

    Me: 31    DH: 36

    Married since 11/25/2013

    #1 (bio)  born 01/18/2006

    #2 (bio)   born 09/08/2008

    #3 (step) born 02/17/2009

    #4 (our 1st together)  EDD 09/09/2017

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  • aln624aln624 member
    This is a really good question! I've tried to research "what to do," but there's no right / wrong answer. My parents bought a number of gifts for my infant son, their 1st grandson. They bought 2 gifts for my 13 yr old stepson. This infuriated my DH. He thought it was mean that they'd give more to the baby than to my stepson, who, by the way was extremely rude, unappreciative and disrespectful to my parents. I think it was nice / appropriate that they gave him a few gifts. He is a step grandchild, so I think anything should be appreciated.
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