Drives me crazy when...

altow1310 · January 2016

I'm going through the nighttime routine with LO (for the second time tonight because he already woke up 30 mins after I laid him down the first time) and DH comes in the bedroom (LO still sleeps in our room) and just goes to bed. Brushes his teeth, pets the dog, looks at his phone for 10-15 mins, and just rolls over and goes to sleep. I've told him I hate when he goes to bed while I'm still putting our LO down. I don't know why and I know it sounds selfish, but it drives me absolutely crazy. I don't care if he sleeps on the couch the entire time I'm putting LO to bed, but don't snuggle up all cozy and snoring less than five feet away from me. Don't get me wrong; I wouldn't trade being the one to rock LO to sleep for anything in the world. Our nighttime routine is so special to me, and there's something so precious about watching him drift off to sleep. However, I do get super jealous of the fact that DH can still go to sleep and stay asleep whenever and wherever he pleases. I know it's a silly thing to complain about, but it drives me crazy whether it makes any sense or not! Lol! Happy Monday, y'all!

tracij12 · January 2016

Makes perfect sense to me! Mine is worse....I hate when H doesn't come to sleep once I've got LO down. On the rare occasion that LO goes down without a fight, I don't care if you aren't ready to go to sleep. stop playing your game or watching your stupid show and come to bed!

BryDienta · January 2016

@tracij12 I think we have the same husband! We work opposite schedules but on the nights he is home he wants to "relax" and he doesn't think LO needs a nighttime routine every night. For the love of god I have almost thrown things at him! So I do all the nighttime stuff every night.

zetlopez · January 2016

I get it and feel even more selfish about mine. My husband has had 3 surgeries since baby was born. Bc of that he's not allowed to lift baby so I do all the work. Sometimes he sleeps in til noon then plays his video games. It annoys me so much. I get he can't really help so it's not like I expect that but I just get jealous that he can sit back and relax while I'm dealing with a 14 week baby with reflux we still can't control so there are still a lot of crying episodes. It's just not the way I originally pictured my maternity leave. But I know he'd trade places with me in a heart beat if he could.

chein1 · January 2016

Drives me crazy when DH only takes LO when she's being calm and cute. She's battling a cold which makes her spit-up worse due to congestion, so last night she spewed everywhere and rather than getting off his ass to change her he goes , "Here take her and I'll get (our two year old) to bed." I snapped, since I was already in the middle of getting her ready for bed. I came home from work, made dinner, scarfed it down while holding a baby and feeding my toddler, cleaned up dinner, put both girls in their Jammie's, meanwhile DH comes home later, eats in peace, and sits his ass on the couch for the next 2 hours. Like just keep the kid you have right now and take care of her, damn!

Aldermanbaby · January 2016

I hear you! I am a SHAM and EBF and LO won't take a bottle so I do the vast majority of taking care of her which I love but DH isn't allowed to go to bed untill the baby and I are sleeping in bed . I get up with her all throughout the night since she is mainly eating anyways so toning he can really do . Early on she was a hard baby to put to bed usually 30-45 mins of walking with music on so DH and I would take turns now that she is a little easier to get to sleep he tries to skip out no way !

leah665 · January 2016

Glad to know my partner isn't the only useless one...

cbutler0045 · January 2016

My SO really does try, but sometimes it drives me crazy that he can come and go as he pleases or that he'll sleep in on the weekends while I've been up all morning taking care of LO. He doesn't realize that I never get a break. I wanted to kill him this weekend when I just asked him to let me sleep in (which I've never done since LO was born). I had finally gotten back asleep at 830 after LO 7 am bottle when he brings the baby in and tries to get back in bed with the baby and have him fall asleep. I have told him a million times that the baby really needs to be rocked before just laying down. Well LO starts crying in the bed, wakes me up, and I have to take him and get him to sleep for his nap. Then my SO had the nerve to ask if he could take a nap and slept for 3 more hours. Ugh...

altow1310 · January 2016

I'm reading through all of these replies as I sit here rocking LO while my husband is snoozing in bed (I'm the OP). DH is a good man and is going to be THE best toddler (and beyond) dad, but man he is really clueless when it comes to these early months. I'm EBF, so I get it that he can't do much when it comes to nighttime routine/MOTN wake-ups because LO usually likes/needs to nurse, but I just feel like there are so many other times where a little extra help is needed. It's frustrating at times to know he can still do whatever he wants whenever he wants and doesn't really stop to realize that I never get a break. I feel like when LO is older and has days where all he wants is his daddy it's just going to piss me off remembering how little he did early on. Lol! I know that sounds terrible, but sometimes I feel like he really has no idea when or how to step in and help. I don't have time to hold his hand through it and help him help me either, so I guess it will just be this way for now. I know he's going to be an amazing dad when LO is a little older and a little less dependent on me, but a little more consideration for mommy at this stage would be a nice gesture from daddy. Hang in there, ladies! Who knew we could be such rockstars?!

I just remind myself that the more I do for LO the stronger our bond will be! Don't care if he's a Momma's boy till the day he dies! Love my little man!!!!

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