If you have a LO/LOs

Duffgurl · January 2016

If you have a LO/LOs are they excited to become a Big brother/Big sister?

I have DS 4yrs old and he is happy about it. He'll play Dr. and check on moms baby. Now my 10 month old DS doesn't have a clue lol.

bananers · January 2016

We haven't said anything to DS (2.5y) and won't until we are well into the second tri.

TW: last pregnancy we taught him there was a baby in mommy's belly and he would always kiss and rub my belly, which was adorable. But after we lost the baby at 13 weeks, it took him several weeks of me telling him baby went bye bye before he stopped doing it. It was honestly one of the worst parts about our loss and ripped my heart open every time he did it. He didn't know any better and I don't think he remembers now, but my heart couldn't take it if that happened again.

Duffgurl · January 2016

bananers said:
We haven't said anything to DS (2.5y) and won't until we are well into the second tri.

TW: last pregnancy we taught him there was a baby in mommy's belly and he would always kiss and rub my belly, which was adorable. But after we lost the baby at 13 weeks, it took him several weeks of me telling him baby went bye bye before he stopped doing it. It was honestly one of the worst parts about our loss and ripped my heart open every time he did it. He didn't know any better and I don't think he remembers now, but my heart couldn't take it if that happened again.

So sorry. :Hugs: I initially wanted to wait because we won't tell family and friends till we are in the second trimester but DH wanted him to be there for the U/S and make it a family event. I bet once you are in your second tri and do tell him he will be super excited. To a H&H 9 months.

smilormarie · January 2016

Our 2.5 year old doesn't really understand. I think as I get bigger and we do the transition to his big boy toddler bed and I show him pictures of a big brother holding a baby sibling, then he'll start to get it. My 3 year old nephew was excited when my son was due so I think age is a big factor. He'll be turning 3 when the time comes.

Twinkle5086 · January 2016

We have two boys my oldest is 4 and he seems pretty excited. He understand the baby in mommy's belly make mommy sick and will rub my back when I throw up. He's also really insistent that it be a sister haha.

Our 2 year old points at my belly and says baby, but I don't think he really understands.

spacedolphin11 · January 2016

I'm holding off until the NT scan to tell my kids (or anyone else for that matter.) That said, my four year old is pretty perceptive and may pick it up sooner. (My 17-month-old will obviously be clueless for awhile lol. At least he loves babies!)

Duffgurl · January 2016

Twinkle5086 said:
We have two boys my oldest is 4 and he seems pretty excited. He understand the baby in mommy's belly make mommy sick and will rub my back when I throw up. He's also really insistent that it be a sister haha.

Our 2 year old points at my belly and says baby, but I don't think he really understands.

That is just so sweet of your 4yr old

babaylo · January 2016

Our 21 month old will point to my belly and say "baby" when we ask him where the baby is, and when we ask if he's gonna be a big brother he says "yeaaaah!" real excitedly. But, he really has no clue what's going on and how his little world will be rocked in August

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@Twinkle5086, that is too cute of your 4 year old!

tinkerbell11210 · January 2016

We told our 6 yo DD early. (She was 5 at the time) I had a loss in October and we never told her. This time I actually felt pregnant and when the morning sickness kicked in I felt like we should tell her. Plus we wanted her to be at the first US appointment.
She is learning to read so I gave her a new book Little Miss Big Sis. I handed it to her and asked her to read the title. She said "big sis" who's the Big sis? We said a little girl named Kayla. She said Kayla who? My husband looked at her with a huge grin and said you silly! She screamed at the top of her lungs. She was so excited it was adorable. She kisses my belly reads and sings to my belly. She is over the moon about a sibling and she doesn't care if it is a boy or a girl.

DSMLove · January 2016

We haven't really told our two year old yet. Nine months is a really long time for her to be excited and anticipating something.

So far we're just working on the concept of big sisters and little siblings and the idea that some families have new babies join the family.

We're thinking of starting to tell her about the baby about halfway through 2nd trimester.

jamiesc58 · January 2016

We have an 11 year old dd, a six year old ds, and a 9 month old dd. Our 11 year old was excited when we told her but she is in middle school and has too much going on in her social life to think about another baby lol. Our 6 year old is really excited and is very insistent that we have a boy so he won't be the only one anymore. He tells everyone we come in contact with that we are having another baby. Our 9 month old obviously has no idea but I don't believe she will take very well to another baby in mom or dad's arms.

1faceinacrowd · January 2016

My 4-year-old DD is over-the-moon excited to be a big sister! She's very independent and is really excited to help "take care of" her little brother or sister.
My 5-year-old DS....ehhh. He's still adjusting to being a big brother (he's a step-brother, so he went from only child to big brother to a 4-year-old over night) and he's not at the same place emotionally as my daughter; he has bad anxiety and is VERY clingy with me so I'm not really sure how he feels about it, and I'm actually a little concerned about how he'll deal when I'm giving a lot of attention to baby and can't have him sitting on top of me 24/7.

texasmama2014 · January 2016

We haven't told her, but she's only 19 months so she won't get it. However, if we told her and started talking about the baby I fully believe she would spill the beans.

tisunge602 · January 2016

My son is only two, so we haven't really told him. It comes up in conversation sometimes but he doesn't really get it. I think I'll start talking to him more intently about it when we move him to his toddler bed (after we find out the sex of this one so we know what we're doing with bedrooms) and when there's more of a belly to speak of.

Ceventa · January 2016

We've been telling my son about the baby but I'm not sure he understands. Perhaps as the belly starts growing it will be easier for him to understand.

kattyleigh · January 2016

I have a 6 year old DD and 4 year old DS. We haven't told them yet but next week it's on. I'm going to bring DD to my NT scan in a few weeks, she will absolutely love that.

carstekj · January 2016

Our DS is 4 and he is over the moon! He says "I think the new baby will like me as a big brother". He asks if my belly is getting bigger... what I'm eating and if it's healthy for the baby etc... He's already a big brother to his 2.5yr old sister and he's amazing... Our DD doesn't really understand yet.

KarlaMCurry · January 2016

We have an 8-year-old girl, 6-year-old boy, and 2-year-old girl. I was pregnant with #4 last year and we told them the news before the rest of the family (the latter right around the 12-week mark). My oldest daughter was SO excited - she jumped up and cheered! They all enjoyed talking to my belly, even though there wasn't a baby bump. Then, shortly after 12 weeks, we lost the baby... it was hard, and the 2-year-old kept talking about the baby in Mommy's belly. She still asks about it. Three months after our miscarriage, my brother and sister-in-law's baby girl was stillborn... so we've had a lot of discussion about babies and death lately. I'm pregnant again and worried about telling anyone! We will tell the kids before the rest of the family again, but I just don't know when.

smilormarie · January 2016

KarlaMCurry said:
We have an 8-year-old girl, 6-year-old boy, and 2-year-old girl. I was pregnant with #4 last year and we told them the news before the rest of the family (the latter right around the 12-week mark). My oldest daughter was SO excited - she jumped up and cheered! They all enjoyed talking to my belly, even though there wasn't a baby bump. Then, shortly after 12 weeks, we lost the baby... it was hard, and the 2-year-old kept talking about the baby in Mommy's belly. She still asks about it. Three months after our miscarriage, my brother and sister-in-law's baby girl was stillborn... so we've had a lot of discussion about babies and death lately. I'm pregnant again and worried about telling anyone! We will tell the kids before the rest of the family again, but I just don't know when.

That's terrible. :-( I'm so sorry for your loss and your neice. Sending good vibes for Healthy pregnancy and healthy babies!

Jenniferk08 · January 2016

My almost 5 year old uses the being a big brother as a way to try and get away with things. I remind him big bro or not I will still put his butt in time out.
He will also kiss my belly good night.

I hope he is this excited once the baby is here.

NICU RN · January 2016

I have a 2 1/2 year old who is not excited at all. Any time we mention it he says he does not want a baby to live at his house. I thought we might be making progress because when we passed the diaper aisle he saw the pictures of the babies on the boxes and said "baby come live at my house?". This was the first time he brought it up. I got all excited and was like "Yes! A baby is coming to live with us!". To which he replied, "no mama, no say that!". Oh well, we have time to work on it.

Fremdschamen · January 2016

We told our 2.5 year old. She needs a lot of transition time for things and is very intuitive. We spend a lot of time talking about upcoming events as part of her routine. Her opinion about it changes from day to day. She is quite adamant that she is having a sister, though, lol!

With the previous pregnancy, we had told her as well, and then I miscarried at 11.5 weeks. I explained to her that the baby stopped growing inside mommy's tummy and was gone.

**TW** Seriously. But a bittersweet story.

The night I miscarried, I was putting her to bed when I felt a *pop* and a gush. She said she had to go pee, so I handed her off to DH and ran to the other bathroom. Something was stuck and I had to pull it out-- not sure if it was tissue or the baby. I cried and she heard me. I was obviously upset when I left the bathroom and told DH what happened. My daughter asked me what was wrong and I told her I was sad the baby stopped growing. She gave me a hug, then pretended to reach into her pocket and pulled out her fingers, saying "It's ok, mom. I have another baby right here in my pocket for you." She lifted up my shirt and put her fingers on my tummy, pretending to put the baby in my tummy.

She asked only once or twice after that and I just told her the same thing-- that the baby had stopped growing. For me, her asking about the baby was weirdly comforting - I had these irrational feelings after the miscarriage that people would think I made the whole pregnancy up-- so any external reminder that it was real was helpful rather than upsetting. (I appreciate that this is not how many others would experience it).

SkiChic626 · January 2016

My DD is 19 mos. We talk about it and read big sister books, but she has no clue. She really won't until baby is here, she'll just have turned 2 at that point.

mrsmommya · January 2016

I agree that having a loss changes your perception of pregnancy in many different ways. Sadly, your other child/children are affected too. Our DD is 3 1/2 and we told her around 8 weeks and lost the baby at 12. My sis was about 7 months pregnant and her teacher about 5 months so it was VERY hard for her to understand that our baby was no longer there....just because she saw big baby bellies everywhere, which I guess was a constant reminder. She would, like many other posters children, comment about the baby and we would have to re-hash the whole thing again and again. It was painful to say the least. I will be 14 weeks on Tuesday and she doesn't know yet. We have had 2 positive scans and I have a home doppler. I will have a gender scan in about 2 weeks when we will finally tell her. I will be 15 1/2 weeks then. She has mentioned baby related things about 3 times, so I think she is picking up on it but will still be excited/surprised when we tell her about the baby brother/sister. The only people that know now are close family, my BFF, and my boss. I plan to tell the rest of work later this week and the world after our gender scan. Sad that a loss can take so much joy out of something so happy.

presh116 · January 2016

My four year old son is so happy. He constantly checks on me mom are you ok? Mom is baby hungry? Mom your baby is getting so big! (Funny part he's looking and touching my stomach while saying this lol). He's so excited for his sister and said he did not want another brother but if it was a boy he would still love him My 21 month old says baby and touches my tummy but I think it's because he sees his brother.

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