WTF? WEDNESDAY

rubirubi89 · January 2016

WTF DH why can't you just drive at the damn speed limit so you don't get pulled over all the time? that tish isn't free!

WTF is blanket training? who thinks of stuff like that?

WTF with work being so busy and me being home late the whole week? I want to go see my baby!!

and WTF with left boob having such as slow flow? its aggravating my son and pumping takes FOREVER.

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kmd91 · January 2016

WTF to the dealership we bought our SUV from back in December. The safety and registration expired in December, but they were like "you'll just have to stop by one day after we get the registration transferred to sort that out." Okay, cool, was waiting to hear from them and nothing. So finally called last Tuesday and at first she was like "well registration takes 6-8 weeks, sooo..." And then I not so nicely reminded her that everything is expired and so she's telling me to either not use the vehicle we just got or drive around with everything expired risking a ticket. Then she actually checked on the registration for me and surprise, they had it! So, she tells me she will call and set up an appointment for me to come in and take care of everything. Okay, cool. Thursday she texts me at 2:45 like "can you be here before 3:30?" Which the dealership is at least 20 minutes away and she knows I have a baby. But because I wanted it taken care of I dropped everything, rushed to get everything together and get there. I make it there in time and she brings it over to their service area to get safety done and comes back saying they can't do it because the tint is too dark and not legal. Which we knew. And she told us when we were buying it that they would take care of the tint and then do the safety. But now she says they can't because they don't specialize in tint. So she had to set an appointment for this Thursday with their tint company. So I have to go there tomorrow morning and "expect to be there all day" and if they don't finish by 3:30 I have to go back again Friday to actually get the safety inspection. Which honestly, I hate feeling trapped anyways, so being stuck at the dealership all day is not my idea of fun. Then add to that I've got to do that with my 2 month old. I'll likely have to pump while I'm there, in their nasty bathroom.

Okay, long rant over, but I'm so bitter about this situation. And the fact that I'm scared to drive anywhere for fear of getting a ticket for something that really isn't my fault.

dramaphile · January 2016

WTF I just discovered that the Prevacid that I took all through pregnancy for my GERD is ok for pregnancy, but not for breastfeeding! I have to stop taking it and switch to Pepcid, which probably won't work as well (I've been on Prevacid for years because my reflux is so bad I've had issues like esophagitis). I didn't think about checking because I assumed that if it's ok for pregnancy, it's ok for lactation. And I need to dump my freezer stash, which is about 70 oz, because I pumped it while I was on the meds. LO will be fine, they do give Prevacid to newborns with reflux. Hopefully my reflux won't get so bad I have to give up nursing so I can go back on meds

mcdoug211 · January 2016

Right now I am a stay at home mom, he wants me to work for my sanity but never pushes it. But I don't think bc I am home all day I should be responsible for everything. When she's already teething and refuses to be put down I expect him to offer instead of having to ask him to take her so I can get stuff done and not have to hold her always. also he has 2 kids from a precious marriages they Skype every night I know that but if I have a screaming baby that I have been up and attached to ALL day even when he's home, I feel like there is times he needs to cut his skype time short knowing I've been with her and she's miserae am I wrong?! Then even when he's done I have her trying to calm her..I'm feeling extra resent lyris towards him today and need to vent sorry!

mcdoug211 · January 2016

I am also sitting here holding in my pee and she's in my arms trying to fall asleep while he is snoring next to me. Before he fell asleep he said wake me up to feed her so I can sleep but if he doesn't wake up to her cry I'm already wide awake and don't go back to sleep so what's the point

NovemberSno · January 2016

Wtf to breast feeding. I feel like a failure. I have to exclusively pump because after breast feeding then not then yes then not then yes...now not my LO doesn't even recognize my breast as her food source. I'm so sad for that. I wanted so badly to breast feed and it just has been the hardest thing I've ever done. Seriously why??????? Also, I second the left boob flow...geeze hurry up man...I've got things to do!

rachswi · January 2016

Lol wtf to my left boob which sprays like a fire hose. (My right one is the slow one)... Poor LO decided on Sunday that he's done with the nipple shield (he now loses his head if I try to use it). But he never got used to the way my left boob operates so he sucks and then pulls off and all my my milk comes shooting out across his face, the boppy, etc. and it just keeps spraying for a solid few seconds before it finally stops. LO is getting pissed every time I feed him from that side.

Also wtf to the fact that he's back to napping super poorly unless held. He only sleeps for like 30 minutes if I put him down (and wakes up obviously still tired) but he slept for 3 hours yesterday when I held him. Loved the cuddles but got absolutely nothing done.

bellie1223 · January 2016

Yes @rachswi about napping! I guess I'm also just getting used to the transition of her being awake more but seriously she used to nap for 2-3 hours and I could get most of my housework done. Now it's like 30-45 minutes unless she's being held, not helpful!! But then I feel monumental guilt in wanting her to just go to sleep.

VexedMommy · January 2016

bellie1223 said:

Yes @rachswi about napping! I guess I'm also just getting used to the transition of her being awake more but seriously she used to nap for 2-3 hours and I could get most of my housework done. Now it's like 30-45 minutes unless she's being held, not helpful!! But then I feel monumental guilt in wanting her to just go to sleep.

Babywearing. It's a godsend. They sleep better because they're being "held" and you've got hands free to get things done.

mcdoug211 said:

Right now I am a stay at home mom, he wants me to work for my sanity but never pushes it. But I don't think bc I am home all day I should be responsible for everything. When she's already teething and refuses to be put down I expect him to offer instead of having to ask him to take her so I can get stuff done and not have to hold her always. also he has 2 kids from a precious marriages they Skype every night I know that but if I have a screaming baby that I have been up and attached to ALL day even when he's home, I feel like there is times he needs to cut his skype time short knowing I've been with her and she's miserae am I wrong?! Then even when he's done I have her trying to calm her..I'm feeling extra resent lyris towards him today and need to vent sorry!

Could he hold the baby WHILE he Skypes with his older kids? The kids might get a kick out of seeing their little sister and he could explain to them how he used to hold them when they were little. It would also give you a break while not taking away from his time with his other children.

VexedMommy · January 2016

WTF to everything lately.

Breastfeeding did not go well. Little one has no idea any more what a boob is for. I have an incredibly low supply and have been pumping since she was about 3 weeks. She's on about 1/2 and 1/2 formula and milk. I feel like a complete failure. My bf has basically told me that my low supply is my fault because I won't pump every 1 - 2 hours through the night. He no longer lives at the house with us because of a ton of issues and hasn't lived with us since Bridget was about a week old. Bf isn't even the correct term anymore but I don't know what else to call him (except a few choice swear words.) He comes over each day and watches Bridget while I'm at work, but has refused to pick up my older daughter despite the fact that HIS older daughter gets picked up from school and brought to my house every day. He refused to even come help with Bridget unless I began taking drugs for depression/anxiety. Because me being pissed at him is obviously because I'm not medicated and not because he's a complete asshole and I'm dealing with pp hormones. He was mad at me the other day and said that he wouldn't come watch Bridget until around 10am because he was tired. I start work at 8am or earlier. I found someone to watch her for the day and he got incredibly pissed off. I'm so sick of being manipulated and controlled. I make the money, I clean the house, I take care of the kids before and after work, but he still wants to tell everyone what a great stay at home dad he is.

I may end up dirty deleting this, but I'm just so fucking frustrated. I want to

sadyy131 · January 2016

WTF to my MIL yelling at me last night for bedsharing. And WTF to my SO defending his mom and not me. This is the first time he's said boo about bedsharing. He's got balls though. He gets to sleep undisturbed all day (he works nights) while I'm at work with the baby. I'm alone with the baby all night and day. If I'm up all night repeating the cycle of trying to rock the baby to sleep and make sure she's asleep enough to transfer to her rock n play and she wakes up anyway, I'll lose my mind. I dealt with that for the first month and then I was like screw this. I was a monster. Now LO sleeps in our bed and sleeps for 6 hour stretches, it's glorious. I know that part of being a mom is a lack of sleep, but I need some sleep to get my sanity and to function at work. That "second shift " theory about woman is no joke. I work 40 hours a week to come home and have a full time job as a house mom. For him to side with his mother is asinine and I made sure he knew that. He regretted that real quick.

mcdoug211 · January 2016

VexedMommy said:

bellie1223 said:

Yes @rachswi about napping! I guess I'm also just getting used to the transition of her being awake more but seriously she used to nap for 2-3 hours and I could get most of my housework done. Now it's like 30-45 minutes unless she's being held, not helpful!! But then I feel monumental guilt in wanting her to just go to sleep.

Babywearing. It's a godsend. They sleep better because they're being "held" and you've got hands free to get things done.

mcdoug211 said:

Right now I am a stay at home mom, he wants me to work for my sanity but never pushes it. But I don't think bc I am home all day I should be responsible for everything. When she's already teething and refuses to be put down I expect him to offer instead of having to ask him to take her so I can get stuff done and not have to hold her always. also he has 2 kids from a precious marriages they Skype every night I know that but if I have a screaming baby that I have been up and attached to ALL day even when he's home, I feel like there is times he needs to cut his skype time short knowing I've been with her and she's miserae am I wrong?! Then even when he's done I have her trying to calm her..I'm feeling extra resent lyris towards him today and need to vent sorry!

Could he hold the baby WHILE he Skypes with his older kids? The kids might get a kick out of seeing their little sister and he could explain to them how he used to hold them when they were little. It would also give you a break while not taking away from his time with his other children.

He will once in a while very rarely..i think he thinks he's taking time away and showing off that's she's here and their not though

MercyC1130 · January 2016

mcdoug211 said:
Right now I am a stay at home mom, he wants me to work for my sanity but never pushes it. But I don't think bc I am home all day I should be responsible for everything. When she's already teething and refuses to be put down I expect him to offer instead of having to ask him to take her so I can get stuff done and not have to hold her always. also he has 2 kids from a precious marriages they Skype every night I know that but if I have a screaming baby that I have been up and attached to ALL day even when he's home, I feel like there is times he needs to cut his skype time short knowing I've been with her and she's miserae am I wrong?! Then even when he's done I have her trying to calm her..I'm feeling extra resent lyris towards him today and need to vent sorry!

I agree with @VexedMommy
Time should be cut everywhere else first before his other kids.
Though I can it being frustrating him not helping out/ devoting enough time with his new lo, and skyping every night with his older children. It's probably easier for him. I really think a lot of men are clueless when it comes to newborns.

WTF to having to pay 150 bucks (aside from tuition and the book) just to buy an online code to sign into a website, so I can do my homework. What a racket.

WTF to baby colds. It's the worst feeling hearing my baby stuffy and his little eyes all watery.

WTF to all the paperwork and crap I have to go through may to see a dentist.
Meanwhile, im walking around with a chipped front tooth.

rubirubi89 · January 2016

rachswi said:

Lol wtf to my left boob which sprays like a fire hose. (My right one is the slow one)... Poor LO decided on Sunday that he's done with the nipple shield (he now loses his head if I try to use it). But he never got used to the way my left boob operates so he sucks and then pulls off and all my my milk comes shooting out across his face, the boppy, etc. and it just keeps spraying for a solid few seconds before it finally stops. LO is getting pissed every time I feed him from that side. Also wtf to the fact that he's back to napping super poorly unless held. He only sleeps for like 30 minutes if I put him down (and wakes up obviously still tired) but he slept for 3 hours yesterday when I held him. Loved the cuddles but got absolutely nothing done.

Hopefully its the same for you but all that pulling my son used to do got my flat nipple to come out a little, enough that we are now able to get a decent latch from it.

AmoLovesAud · January 2016

WTF my body.

I had an acute pancreatitis attack early Monday morning, was doubled over in pain and could barely get LO in her bassinet. Had to spend 2 nights in the hospital. The only real treatment for pancreatitis? Don't fucking eat. I had to stay hooked to an IV and watch terrible daytime TV while starving. They advanced me to a liquid diet the last day and said I was good to go as long as I cut out all fat, cholesterol, simple sugar, and caffeine from my diet. So I'm living off fat free cottage cheese and yogurt and V8, that's pretty much it. I'm light headed and still in pain, but MIL had to go home and DH is out of town so I have to just tough it out. This sucks; I'm not sleeping, my house is a mess, DH is too busy to help me at all, and now I'm in pain and the only things that kept me going (comfort food and coffee) are gone. FML.

AmoLovesAud · January 2016

bellie1223 said:

Yes @rachswi about napping! I guess I'm also just getting used to the transition of her being awake more but seriously she used to nap for 2-3 hours and I could get most of my housework done. Now it's like 30-45 minutes unless she's being held, not helpful!! But then I feel monumental guilt in wanting her to just go to sleep.

Naps are supposed to be longer than 30-45 minutes? 45 mins is an amazingly long and rare nap over here! I'm lucky to get 15 minute naps most days, held or not. She also barely gets 7-8 hours at night. My kid fucking hates sleep.

rachswi · January 2016

AmoLovesAud said:

bellie1223 said:

Yes @rachswi about napping! I guess I'm also just getting used to the transition of her being awake more but seriously she used to nap for 2-3 hours and I could get most of my housework done. Now it's like 30-45 minutes unless she's being held, not helpful!! But then I feel monumental guilt in wanting her to just go to sleep.

Naps are supposed to be longer than 30-45 minutes? 45 mins is an amazingly long and rare nap over here! I'm lucky to get 15 minute naps most days, held or not. She also barely gets 7-8 hours at night. My kid fucking hates sleep.

My kid hates sleep too but he needs a lot otherwise he's a monster. We've taken to calling him the infant overlord because he's so demanding. He wakes up so much earlier than he should from naps. He cries and screams because he's still tired but it's a fight to get him back to sleep. When I'm holding him I can rock him back to sleep the second he starts stirring

VexedMommy · January 2016

mcdoug211 said:

mcdoug211 said:

Right now I am a stay at home mom, he wants me to work for my sanity but never pushes it. But I don't think bc I am home all day I should be responsible for everything. When she's already teething and refuses to be put down I expect him to offer instead of having to ask him to take her so I can get stuff done and not have to hold her always. also he has 2 kids from a precious marriages they Skype every night I know that but if I have a screaming baby that I have been up and attached to ALL day even when he's home, I feel like there is times he needs to cut his skype time short knowing I've been with her and she's miserae am I wrong?! Then even when he's done I have her trying to calm her..I'm feeling extra resent lyris towards him today and need to vent sorry!

Could he hold the baby WHILE he Skypes with his older kids? The kids might get a kick out of seeing their little sister and he could explain to them how he used to hold them when they were little. It would also give you a break while not taking away from his time with his other children.
He will once in a while very rarely..i think he thinks he's taking time away and showing off that's she's here and their not though

Have you tried explaining to him what you're dealing with? He may literally just not understand what you're dealing with all day. Can you get away for a few hours or even take a day if you're not EBF? Leave your little one with him for a while and he may realize how much you're doing. If you've explained the situation and he's still not willing to help out than once he comes home you could say you've got to go to the store or somewhere and just leave without taking your little one.

Jtk13 · January 2016

rachswi said:

AmoLovesAud said:

bellie1223 said:

Yes @rachswi about napping! I guess I'm also just getting used to the transition of her being awake more but seriously she used to nap for 2-3 hours and I could get most of my housework done. Now it's like 30-45 minutes unless she's being held, not helpful!! But then I feel monumental guilt in wanting her to just go to sleep.

Naps are supposed to be longer than 30-45 minutes? 45 mins is an amazingly long and rare nap over here! I'm lucky to get 15 minute naps most days, held or not. She also barely gets 7-8 hours at night. My kid fucking hates sleep.

My kid hates sleep too but he needs a lot otherwise he's a monster. We've taken to calling him the infant overlord because he's so demanding. He wakes up so much earlier than he should from naps. He cries and screams because he's still tired but it's a fight to get him back to sleep. When I'm holding him I can rock him back to sleep the second he starts stirring

rachswi said:

AmoLovesAud said:

bellie1223 said:

Yes @rachswi about napping! I guess I'm also just getting used to the transition of her being awake more but seriously she used to nap for 2-3 hours and I could get most of my housework done. Now it's like 30-45 minutes unless she's being held, not helpful!! But then I feel monumental guilt in wanting her to just go to sleep.

Naps are supposed to be longer than 30-45 minutes? 45 mins is an amazingly long and rare nap over here! I'm lucky to get 15 minute naps most days, held or not. She also barely gets 7-8 hours at night. My kid fucking hates sleep.

My kid hates sleep too but he needs a lot otherwise he's a monster. We've taken to calling him the infant overlord because he's so demanding. He wakes up so much earlier than he should from naps. He cries and screams because he's still tired but it's a fight to get him back to sleep. When I'm holding him I can rock him back to sleep the second he starts stirring

Let them nap in a swing. It's the only way my daughter can make it past 45 minutes during the day. We were having major problems with napping until I realized that she was overtired because I wasn't putting her down soon enough. I am now the nap nazi. You should check out preciouslittlesleep.com

angelinthepit23 · January 2016

WTF to my work. Just let me work from home already?!? Why must we wait another 2 weeks! There's a blizzard coming and I don't want to use what little time off I have because of snow! And wtf to snow-fuck you!

rachswi · January 2016

@Jtk13 My kid thinks swings are the devil. If he's mostly sleepy I can get him to nap for maybe 20 minutes in the swing. Otherwise you would think I was torturing the poor guy. Of course you'd also think I never feed him or change him the way he goes from 0 to total meltdown in no time flat.

Jtk13 · January 2016

@rachswi Ha! Other than the swing thing it sounds like you're describing my daughter. We fondly refer to her as our "Little Fuss." She is a very high needs baby.

taykerslake · January 2016

Arlo just recently started hating his swing. It used to be one of the only things that could calm him on his super fussy days. Now I'm back at square one of holding him 24/7 lol

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